I wish I had some words of wisdom that would make it all OK but I don't. Unfortunately you kind of do have to ride it out. I had two losses last year and my DF and I did not handle them well and ended up splitting for a short time. Losses can be extremely damaging to relationships. Shortly after reconciling I was pregnant again. This one was a success and I gave birth to a son 1 month after my 42nd birthday.

Unfortunately conceiving and pregnancy after the age of 35 is often a lot harder than most of us have been lead to believe. The success stories of women in their 40's and 50's having IVF babies & multiples get splashed all over the media but the not so successful ones tend to be hidden. This gives the general public an unrealistic expectation of how late we can fall pregnant carry a child with ease.

The good news is that you are falling pregnant. That's probably the biggest hurdle when you are past 35 when lots of ladies are unable to conceive regardless of what they try. The next hurdle is to get a sticky pregnancy. Unfortunately most of us don't find out what's causing the miscarriages but maternal age does play a part (increasing from age 35, raising steeply over 40). I also read recently that researchers now believe paternal age increases the risk. I think it was if the dad was over 40 it increased the risk further (not sure how old your partner is).

All I can tell you is that I did not do anything special to get my sticky bub. I had been told IVF was my best chance of a successful pregnancy at my age. Maybe it was just a matter of egg quality and this egg was of good quality and the others weren't.... I don't know, no one knows.

Miracles do happen. Don't ever lose hope.