Oh Millie Pillie, I am so sorry for your loss of Oliver. I cannot add any more wisdom than that given by all of the ladies above. Just please know that my heart goes out to you and your Oliver. I wish my tears could heal us all. I can tell you that I've experienced similar emotions and pain as you have, and still am on a daily basis. I know I'll never be the same again. hugs, m
Thank you. While I would never wish the pain that I feel at losing my baby on anyone it is comforting to know that there are other women out there that understand what I’m going through. I had started to worry that I wasn’t acting as a normal person should- everyone else had gotten over the initial shock of what happened and gone back to work and started acting as if nothing had happened and I was still in this miserable place.
Having read your messages (which I had to read several times as I was crying so much) and seeing that some of your husbands acted in a similar way to mine gives me strength to try and overcome the void that has developed since we lost Oliver. I know that if he started talking abut how he felt it would help him. For the first two weeks he talked all the time about his feelings. I will try to get him to come and see a counsellor with me.
Mel1977 you put into words the guilt I was feeling about wanting to start trying for another baby. I felt like I was betraying Oliver for wanting another baby so soon. I felt like I was trying to gloss over my loss by having a replacement for him. But I see that Oliver will never be replaced in my heart, if I am lucky enough to have a baby they will be the sibling I had always planned to have.
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