Hi Tia
So sorry to hear of your angel baby, I have been reliving those moments a fair bit lately. The Dr's have no idea what caused my infection (except that it was ascending, meaning it travelled upwards) or what came first. We have thankfully gone on to have a gorgeous little boy in May, and I can't help but be thankful to Cooper for bringing us him. With Mitch's pregnancy I opted to have the suture put in as a precaution, it did carry the risk of developing infection as well, but for me I needed to feel like I had tried everything to get to the end. We had no complications throughout the whole pregnancy and cervix stayed well behaved, so who knows maybe it never was the cervix that let us down with Cooper. It is a very hard road to travel, but the ultimate prize in the end is worth every moment of worry! Did you have any labour? I just felt weird with a feeling of him being very low (he was footling breech, so the feeling I had was his foot almost in the birth canal), then I had a show, presented to hospital where I was already 4cm. Are you planning on trying again soon? I wish you all the best whatever you decide.


Hi

Thank you for your reply Helen. they have no idea what caused my infection as well or if that was the cause of me to lose the baby. or even if i did have a weak cervix, i just had funneling, then it closed. it was all the bleeding that was scary. I was in labour for almost two days. the first day i went to the doctor i got told it was just muscle pain, and went home, i couldnt tell it was labour either, cos it was coming from really low down, and they told me not to worry that and that it normal. the second day i had pain and that was it, i must have fallen a sleep from the pain cos when i woke up the cord was out and it was too late by then. they couldnt even check how many cm dilated i was, the baby was almost out by the time i got to the hospital
Iam planning on trying again soon, just really anxious even now thinking about what might happen.i guess the only thing i can do is hope for the best

thanks again
tia