I was just reading your post and i was wondering if i can ask you a few questions since our stories seems similar. I too lost a son in feb at 23 + 4 days, also due to possible IC and infection. from about 15 week i was bleeding on and off, and the doctors thought the bleeding was from my cervix, turned out it was from behind the placenta, which might have caused an infection. did the doctors ever tell you what might have caused your infection. im just trying to find some answers before i try again.
thank you
Hi Tia
So sorry to hear of your angel baby, I have been reliving those moments a fair bit lately. The Dr's have no idea what caused my infection (except that it was ascending, meaning it travelled upwards) or what came first. We have thankfully gone on to have a gorgeous little boy in May, and I can't help but be thankful to Cooper for bringing us him. With Mitch's pregnancy I opted to have the suture put in as a precaution, it did carry the risk of developing infection as well, but for me I needed to feel like I had tried everything to get to the end. We had no complications throughout the whole pregnancy and cervix stayed well behaved, so who knows maybe it never was the cervix that let us down with Cooper. It is a very hard road to travel, but the ultimate prize in the end is worth every moment of worry! Did you have any labour? I just felt weird with a feeling of him being very low (he was footling breech, so the feeling I had was his foot almost in the birth canal), then I had a show, presented to hospital where I was already 4cm. Are you planning on trying again soon? I wish you all the best whatever you decide.
Hi Tia
So sorry to hear of your angel baby, I have been reliving those moments a fair bit lately. The Dr's have no idea what caused my infection (except that it was ascending, meaning it travelled upwards) or what came first. We have thankfully gone on to have a gorgeous little boy in May, and I can't help but be thankful to Cooper for bringing us him. With Mitch's pregnancy I opted to have the suture put in as a precaution, it did carry the risk of developing infection as well, but for me I needed to feel like I had tried everything to get to the end. We had no complications throughout the whole pregnancy and cervix stayed well behaved, so who knows maybe it never was the cervix that let us down with Cooper. It is a very hard road to travel, but the ultimate prize in the end is worth every moment of worry! Did you have any labour? I just felt weird with a feeling of him being very low (he was footling breech, so the feeling I had was his foot almost in the birth canal), then I had a show, presented to hospital where I was already 4cm. Are you planning on trying again soon? I wish you all the best whatever you decide.
Hi
Thank you for your reply Helen. they have no idea what caused my infection as well or if that was the cause of me to lose the baby. or even if i did have a weak cervix, i just had funneling, then it closed. it was all the bleeding that was scary. I was in labour for almost two days. the first day i went to the doctor i got told it was just muscle pain, and went home, i couldnt tell it was labour either, cos it was coming from really low down, and they told me not to worry that and that it normal. the second day i had pain and that was it, i must have fallen a sleep from the pain cos when i woke up the cord was out and it was too late by then. they couldnt even check how many cm dilated i was, the baby was almost out by the time i got to the hospital
Iam planning on trying again soon, just really anxious even now thinking about what might happen.i guess the only thing i can do is hope for the best
The anxiety is always there, but you will get through it next time, they will monitor you so closely. If they don't find someone who will and MAKE them take you in whenever you have the tiniest concern. It is hard not to have a definiteve reason to what happened.
Good Luck
x
I just wanted to firstly say how sorry I am for your loss. My situation was a little different but I wanted to share with you what I have been through with this current pregnancy.
I have an excellent Ob who organised for me to have my cervix scanned every week from 15-24 weeks to see if my cervix was actually the problem which cause my Nikita's early arrival. At about 22 weeks it shortened but still within the "normal" parameters. I have had some funnelling but still because the cervix length is long and closed it has given my specialist and Ob no reason to be concerned.
We talked about a stitch initially and again at 22 weeks when the shortening frightened me. We decided that if we continued to shorten to 2cm then we would have a stitch put in place.
I am now 25 weeks and I have one final cervix scan next week at 26 weeks. It looks as though my problems were contraction related and not cervix. I have no idea if I will make it to term but my goal is 34 weeks. I am glad that I didn't rush out and have a stitch put in because they are not a sure fire guarantee that the pregnancy will last to term, they also can cause irritation which may start contractions and there is also the risk of infection, and once you have a stitch you will always need one for every subsequent pregnancy.
I know for some women this is the only option they have so for those people I would say to definately have one put in. But if you are not 100% certain that you have IC perhaps discuss close monitoring with your Ob then as a second option (and before it becomes an emergency situation) to have a stitch put in if you shorten to a certain length.
Do your research so you have a clear understanding of the Pro's and Con's of a suture. No matter what you do there are going to be risks for you and the baby as well as a load of stress.
Best of luck when you start TTC again, it is scary but the rewards are soooo wonderful especially when you pass the "trouble" time of the previous pregnancy.
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