Hi Bun, I haven't chatted to you before but have been in the recurrent m/c thread - I know the doctors talk about it being 3 before officially termed 'recurrent' however I think once you can think to yourself it's bad luck, but after two in a row it's just as scary and daunting to start agains as after 3 or 4. So I think come on it and chat and if you do have a successful pregnancy next time everyone will just be happy for you!
I've had 4 miscarriages over a space of 18 months ( had a break for the six months or so) and they did all my testing after the 2nd one. It's true about not always finding a cause unfortunately, the only thing they came up with for me was fibroids after what felt like a million blood tests as well as analysing the embryo and having a look at my womb (if they mention a hysteroscopy it's going in with a camera to see if everything looks normal!).
I'd advise having every test they can suggest - the worst part is not knowing and if you can pinpoint a cause at least there is then action to be taken - but see what comes out of the bloods first. I hope you won't need the TTC forum for very long, but in the mean time love to see you there...
Thank you for posting. I have been reading your posts in the TTC thread. You're right - one m/c you can out down to bad luck, but once you have more than that it is pretty hard to believe in the bad luck thing, and makes trying again extremely daunting.
I just had the last lot of BTs this morning - it sure does feel like millions of tests; I don't think I have any blood left in me! I agree - even though the chances of finding something are quite low, it still helps knowing if there is anything that can be treated, or at least if nothing is found, you have that peace of mind. If nothing is found and we go on to conceive and m/c again, then I will get the camera test thing done - it sounds really awful, but I suppose if it must be done, then it must be done!
I am struggling a lot with depression at the moment, and having trouble believing it will ever work out for us. This is such a tough road and it helps me so much having people like you to talk to who understand. I hope with all my heart that it works out for you next time - you deserve it!
Thank you for the invitation to join the recurrent m/c thread - I may well do that!
Thanks again for your support, I appreciate it so very very much.
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