Nae, I've been praying so hard everythinkg is OK with your little bubba and I haven't been able to find your thread with the good news, but it sounds like the news is good so I am just so happy for you hun!!!! I'll check in tomorrow, hopefully you would have updated us.
Teagz, I just want to reach over the screen and give you a huge hug I know the feeling so well, and I wish it could be different for us but we have to be patiens as I'm sure our turn is just around the corner hun xxxx
And a big cry sometimes it actually really good hun, so don't hold it in .
Diana, I hope your scan went well hun. Sending you big hugs and big belly rubs for your bubbie xxxxx
Jo, can't wait for your announcement soon hun. I hope removing the stich is not so bad, and I'm sure you'll forget the pain the second you meet your little princess . This is so exciting now isn't it?? Big hugs hun xxxxx
Hello to everyone else, sorry for the quick post but I just wanted to check up on Nae and I'm so glad I did as I now know all is well, thank goodness. I will come back tomorrow and do the rest of my persies
While I have been a BB member for a while now, I am new to this thread and wanted to quickly introduce myself. DH and I were married 5 weeks ago - 2 weeks ago we buried our little miracle, our son Ryan. The results of an amnio showed he had a chromosonal abnormality and, one week later, at 18weeks I was induced. 36 hours later our little boy was born sleeping.
The last two and a half weeks have been very hard. DH and I are working together to get through this day by day; we have seen a counsellor and will probably keep doing so for a while yet. I don't have the courage the return to work yet - maybe sometime after Easter.
While I am not physically ready to start TTC again, I need to start thinking about it because I don't have time on my side (I am 41) and we found it so hard to conceive Ryan that I don't expect anything to happen quickly, or possibly at all. I am seeing an AP/herbalist who wants me to wait at least 2 months before TTC again, which sounds reasonable to us.
My question is, how long physically should it take my body to heal? *TMI alert* I am still bleeding and in the last few days I noticed I am now passing pieces of tissue (endometrium?). Is this normal?
Sorry for the lack of personals, I will try to catch up on everyone's posts over the next few days.
I am so sorry you have found your way into this thread and for the passing of your son Ryan. I don't have any answers fr you about when to start TTC my journey after Nikita was a little different and we were told to wait 6-9 months before we start TTC because she was born via emergency C sec. I am glad you are seeking help too, it is a very personal journey that you are going through both you and your DH will come along in different stages and the grief will be different for both of you as time goes on. You will find a lot of support in here many wonderful women and lots and lots of different stories.
I guess if I was to offer any advice it would be to start TTC when you and your DH both feel that the time is right because it can be different between you both.
Sorry I have not been in here since my post in my beanie baby thread, I had to download the updated version of my virus prtection program and because I am on crappy old dial up it literally took all day to do 9hrs just to get 69mb then yesterday I couldn't get on to BB at all think it may have had something to do with DLS? maybe the system needed to wind back the clock or something - so I sat and watched all of the matrix movies *sigh* Keanu
Well as some of you already know, we had happy news on friday and I was a blubbering mess. Beanie measures 8 weeks old and had a 154bpm heartbeat, we're expecting to pop around 13th Nov so we should have our first real family christmas this year. I have my first Ob appointment today, it was soo funny because I din't even make it. Mr GP rang my Ob to tell him what has been going on and my Ob went out to reception made an appointment and told then to ring me and let me know I was expected today - god love him. He is an awesome Ob I guess in some respected we got to know him a fair bit last year when I was in Warragul hospital aside from the fact that my DH taught his daughter when she was in the choir. Thats the best thing about living country I s'pose
Hey Beata - wanna know something - I spoke to a Beata on Friday (I think) for my job. DO you know until I met you I never knew another Beata and then I get a call from one at my work - how funny.
Teagz - big super dooper hug hun, those days are aweful aren't they. I am getting a few more of them lately as we draw closer to Nikita's first birthday and 1st Angelversary. We need to have a big cry every now and then - its healthy. While I am absolutely thrilled about finally getting past the 8 week mark I am packing dacks at the same time especially when I have little bleeds. Your time will come honey, just be patient when its the right time things will work out for you.
Just popping in to say a quick hello and have a huge vent. Sorry for lack of perssies but will try to catch up soon, promise. I have 3 more weeks til this event is over (without one day off!) and can then take some time for myself.
Few things first:
Chez, welcome to our wonderful thread but I really wish you didn't have to find yourself here. I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious Ryan.
Nae, so very happy for you sweets. What wonderful news. Sebastian was due on the 13th November, and this one is due on the 11th.
Jo, wow can't believe how ready to pop you almost are! Am with you all the way.
AFM, I met my new OB on Friday and he is so very lovely. He is a high risk OB and his office is right across the hall from my old OB so it was quite hard going back there and it stirred up loads of emotions and memories. Anway, I was talking to my new OB about my history and he got out my old file and had a read and concluded that I don't have an incompetent cervix, and truly believes an infection caused me to go into premature labour that anitibiotics could have fixed!! I told him my old OB said the infection I had came on when my waters broke but he disagreed and said the infection seemed to have started at about 14 weeks and basically nothing was done about it (which was when I first started complaining of pain with the old OB so it makes sense). I can't believe it.... I cried and cried so much in his office when he revealed all this stuff. To think a course of antibiotics could have saved Sebastian and all the while my old OB was telling me it was my cervix. What an absolute butcher. I am seriously considering legal action atm.
Anyway, so for this pg, he wants me on antibiotics from 10 weeks (5 tablets a month) and 1 progesterone pessarie until 34 weeks (new study has found it helps with PROM). He said I won't need to have a stitch and will monitor me every week - he must have seen the look of horror on my face but said if I was set on getting it, then he would. I have until I'm 14 weeks to decide.
Really not sure what to do. I want to put all my faith in this new OB but I'm scared. I put all my faith in my old OB and look where it got me...
To stitch or not to stitch... that is the question. Any advice?
big big hugs to all
Last edited by dd0207; April 6th, 2009 at 12:02 PM.
just a quick one, boobie monster is bound to wake up screaming for a feed any minute!
Just wanted to welcome Chez, I'm sorry you lost your little boy. I like Nae had a c-section with my angel so not in the same situation, but I think from what I've read after your first period your body should be ready to try again. When this will come is luck of the draw though.
Diana, also wanted to add that if your OB monitors your cervix weekly through U/S then you should be ok... they can do measurements and make a call from there. But if you really feel the only way you can have confidence is with a stitch then go for that.
Wow Diana - just had to post after reading your update! That's a hard call for you to make re the stitch but as IC is so unpredictable, I think I would probably have the stitch done anyway. I read back on your original post about losing your boy and I know I am not an ob/specialist but how does he know 100% that you had this infection from 14 weeks? I mean, your symptoms of pressure/pain could have also been caused by your cervix changing, which it obviously was when they picked up the funnelling at your later scan. My ob always described it to me as a chicken and egg scenario as to what comes first - the cervix changing which allows the infection in, or the infection that then causes the waters to break and loss. Helen would be a good person to advise you further as from memory she was in the same position - should she or shouldn't she get the stitch and as we know she got the stitch just in case.
On the other hand, weekly scans would be handy and hopefully would pick up any changes in time if you did need a stitch after all BUT preventative stitches have a better success rate than emergency ones (as you found out the hard way). Sooo, sorry but I have probably been no help whatever and in the end you have to do what makes you feel comfortable. As you said, you have some time up your sleeve in which to decide.
Welcome to Chez and I am sorry to read of the loss of your son. What a rough start to your married life with your DH. I just looked up my diary from when I had Luke and it looks like I bled for about 2-3 weeks and ovulated 4 weeks past birth. I was pretty lucky with my body getting back on track so quickly. I hope your body sorts itself out for you soon as the last thing you need is all the physical reminders on top of your emotional pain and recovery.
Nae - congrats again on your wonderful news and it is great to see that ticker in your sig!
Beata - thanks; I'm positive the pain of the removal will definitely be forgotten once our girl makes her entrance! But in the meantime I stress...
Hmm, DD, it's a tricky one. I can't see how there would be such a confusion in deciding whether what happened was caused by an IC or an infection though?
If it were me, i think i'd demand the stitch and go on the antibiotics to have all my bases covered. But on the other hand he seems to be taking extra precausions with monitoring you closely... hmm, I think i'm just as undecided as you are, hun. Perhaps have a good chat with him, even ask if you can read your notes youself and see what you can make of them - I know we're not Dr's but somtimes common sense goes a long way.
Syran, how are you and little bubba going? Not long for you guys now! I honesly cannot believe how fast the time has gone for everyone in that May thread.
NaeNae. Yay! congrats for your scan! Hate to say we told you so... but we soo told you so Sending our huge sticky vibes to. Your ob sounds lovely. A bit like my GP, he gave up delivering babies about 3 years ago, but his heart is still very much in it (I think he mostly gave it up because of the hours, and he is getting on a bit) and he's truly hanging out for my BFP. It's wonderful that we get such lovely Dr's.
Chez I'm so sorry you have had to join this thread, But you will never find a better bunch of ladies. As for healing. My Dr said to wait until after my first period before we started trying again and then in his second breath said if I was to fall pregnant before that it would be no big deal. I heard a rumour the only reason that they like you to wait is so they have a clear picture of how far along you are next time from your last cycle (if that makes sense) I know a few people who never got a period in between and have gone on to having beautiful lillte bubbas, my little (well younger because he's six foot something now!)brother is one of these. In saying this though it is what you're confortable with and if you're body isn't ready it won't cooporate with you anyway, so I've found out
Beata, thanks for the hugs right back at ya! I'm surround by babies and pregnant people lately and it just gets to me some days that I feel like a sulking little 6 year old for not getting my own way. Humph.
ALM, Wow! not long for you to go either! 14th of april isn't far away at all. You may even get a little easter surprise yet. Ouchies about the stitch, though. But all for a good cause!
What has everyone got planned for the easter long weekend?
I know the feeling so well, and I wish it could be different for us but we have to be patiens as I'm sure our turn is just around the corner hun xxxx
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. This is so exciting now isn't it?? Big hugs hun xxxxx
then yesterday I couldn't get on to BB at all think it may have had something to do with DLS? maybe the system needed to wind back the clock or something - so I sat and watched all of the matrix movies *sigh* Keanu 
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