You ladies have so much courage - it's so impressive...
Unfortunately, I'm in a bit of a waiting period. I just had a D&C last Tues (9 days ago). I think I just finished bleeding (TMI - sorry). So now it's the wait until AF arrives. In the meantime, I'll be doing acupuncture and trying to lose the few pounds I put on over the last month.
Welcome Buliej, you've landed in a great place. I never feel that courageous but I definitely think our courage comes from this group. So sorry to hear about your losses but glad that you are here on the ttc threat and contemplating a hopeful future. Good luck with the acupuncture and the weight loss. Im on a similar mission myself. Not sure if I'll be ttcing with Jo and Lan next month. First of all they will probably have BFP's by then and secondly I may not be quite ready to go health wise. If not though it will be a good opportunity to lose a few spare kg which I don't really need!
Keep in touch and lean on us if you need. I know this group saved my life in June when i lost my daughter so don't feel like you have to get through this alone. I look forward to getting to know you.
WELCOME TO THE WORLD ANNA! I can't wait to see some pictures of this tiny little girl.
Tildy, I wish I could take it one scan at a time and celebrate some milestones. I am just not that kind of person. I am always thinking and worrying about what is to come. My history gives me too much to worry about and it is almost impossible to expect a different outcome for this bub. I have a tiny bit of hope due to the heparin. I try to tell myself that every pregnancy is different.
There are a couple of ladies due before you. Michelle71's little *Edna* is due in a few weeks. ButterflyWarrior is also due in a couple of months. The pregnancy thread has been extra quiet for months so I haven't chatted with them in a long time.
Buliej, Welcome. I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I am glad to hear that your bleeding has stopped so soon. After I had a D&E it took 2 months. I was also pregnant again within 3 months.
Rozzie, I will be thinking of you over the next week. Keep yourself busy.
I understand how you are feeling. Sometimes the way people talk about Parker and Shelby blows my mind. They say such insensitive things that they feel will help me if they talk about them at all. After I lost Parker my dear friend who has experienced a loss herself told me that it wasn't good timing for a baby anyway. We would be ready the next time I got pregnant. We were just buying a house because my husband started a new job. I find myself avoiding people all together now. I pretty much alienated/isolated myself from everyone. I hope bringing home a healthy little bub will help me get past everyone's shortcomings in the support department.
Lan, I have to go back to some of the same ultrasound places. I wanted to keep my doctor so I will have to have more done in his office. I will also have to go back to the high risk office where I had all of my scans with Shelby. I really don't think the room makes much of a difference to me. They are horrible no matter where I am. I will never go back to the place where I found out about Parker. The woman was rude and insensitive. She just wanted to get rid of me so she could do her next appt. I wish that I could take some BB ladies with me for that 17 week scan.
I think that is a good idea. I am going to have to find some projects to fill my time. The fact that I work from home makes my days a bit long. The holidays have been speeding up time. I have started shopping which keeps me busy on the weekends.
Jo, I don't know why but I thought your testing day would be sooner. My scan is on the 5th, I hope we both get good news.
Parker's EDD is Dec.3rd. I want to do something to remember him on what should be his first birthday. It should help me stay busy and not think about my upcoming scan.
Last edited by Laney; November 21st, 2008 at 01:49 AM.
Hi ladies, my name is Diana and I've been a lurker on your thread for a few months now. I wanted to join you so many times but felt that I didn't want to intrude as you all seemed to have formed amazing relationships and have gotten to know each other so well. I read your posts almost every day and just want to say I am very sorry for your losses and the suffering you have all endured and congratulations to the ladies that are now pregnant again! So fabulous!! Today I just had to post as I'm also so happy for Katie! CONGRATULATIONS, such wonderful, exciting and inspirational news. Welcome to the world beautiful little girl.
So I hope you don't mind me joining in. To tell you a little about myself I suffered a late loss in July due to an incompetent cervix and lost my little boy Sebastian - I am still deeply sad and yearn for him each day but BB has helped me so much that I really don't know where I'd be today if it weren't for the amazing, encouraging, sympathetic ladies on this forum.
I had some major complications after his birth with an acute infection which required 7 weeks of anitbiotics and 2 D&Cs to clear retained placenta products. I won't go on with too much detail (my story is "sad and new" in the loss section) but we are now on the TTC journey again... "Calling all Clomid experts" is one of my threads too and the thread is just below this one.
Briefly, DH and I are now seeing a FS now because of the complications I had and since the loss my cycles have been utterly off the planet. I ovulated regularly on my own before but now I'm not so sure as my cycles are anywhere from 40-45 days. My FS put me on 50mg of Clomid to try help regulate my cycle and I ovulated this month so fingers crossed
I'm looking forward to getting to know you all a little better and supporting each other on our journey.
Last edited by dd0207; November 21st, 2008 at 07:52 AM.
Oh hugs for Rozzie, Jo and Laney for the scary anniversaries/milestones coming up. Thinking about what you're about to face gives me chills. You're not alone.
Rozzie, you can have a potrait of Edward. The artist does make adjustments. Hamish was very, very red but she made him newborn colour. She also gave him some hair and eyebrows because of course he wasn't old enough to have any. Another mum who recommended her to me told me that her baby had his mouth open but she asked the artist to draw him with his mouth closed and she did a wonderful job. I hope you don't mind me asking, but Edward's eyes were opened? Hamish's were still fused shut. One of my many, many, many regrets is that we never got to see his eyes.
Paula, I'm not a first-striker so I'm pretty sure we'll be TTC-ing together. Is the progesterone cream making any changes to you? Is it uncomfortable?
Crap, it's 9.50am and I've done no work. Best go. Catch up you guys later. Love and kisses to you all!
DD0207, you are very welcome to join us in here, after all we kinda need some TTCers! We are resembling more the preg thread at the moment! I hope your journey is as swift as most of ours have been, and that we all get to bring home our baby's just like Katie.
I have a question for Sue or anyone that knows about IVF, I have just received a text from my cousin, she went in this morning to have a scan to see how many eggs she had produced but her text says it didn't work and they have cancelled the cycle. She is too upset to talk about it right now, but I am just wondering whether she would have any eggs at all? And would she still ovulate naturally if that was the case? I guess I am just clutching at straws and hoping there is still a chance for her.
HI dd0207 - I'm like you - I lurked and was so impressed with this group's strength and support - and then was overjoyed to read Katie's post that I had to make myself known. I hope you are right and this group's luck will rub off on us.
hgirs - re: IVF - there's really not enough info in the text to tell what happened. but it may be that your cousin only produced 1 or 2 eggs and either the FS decided (or decided together with your cousin) that it wasn't worth going forward with the retrieval or that she had OHSS. What you can't know from the text is whether it was indeed the foregoing situation or whether she actually produced no eggs. There's so many factors - age, PCOS, etc. that may have an impact on the decision. I spend all my time looking at the age factor!
Sue - glad things are going well - that's wonderful news.
I have found bellybelly so helpful - there's many, many threads on IVF - you might want to suggest to her that she take a look when she's ready.
Last edited by buliej; November 21st, 2008 at 08:46 AM.
: update
Katie - I am still so excited about the arrival of baby Anna. So looking forward to seeing some pictures.
Laney - I am so scared of ultrasounds also. Each time for one of my losses, this is how it is found. But I am getting better. For my next scan on 19 Dec, the day before I see my Ob and I will make sure he uses the doppler machine to check for heartbeat and then I am sure I will feel better after that. Do something special on the 5th, go spoil yourselves for Parkers EDD.
Helen - Good luck for your scan on Monday. Look forward to hearing your exciting news. With IVF, it could be, but I am guessing is that they may have over stimulated her overies and she is producing too many eggs and need to stop the process as this could be quite dangerous. This never happened to me, but I have heard of others that this has happened to.
buliej - Even though you arent TTC at the moment, you are still welcome to join us and ask any questions. Good Luck with your weight loss and acupuncture.
Rozzie - Great to hear that bubba is kicking. 22 weeks - how that has flown, but it is understandable that you are feeling nervous, just take it a day at a time and try to keep busy and spoil yourself.
Hammi - an absolutely gorgeous picture of Hamish. I totally loved the idea and think it is a beautiful reminder of your little boy.
Paula - Good luck in TTC and also weight loss. I have put on so much weight from being on clomid, IVF etc and it is a real concern for me, now being pregnant. But luckily I don't seem to be putting on a huge amount of weight and the Ob doesnt seem concerned. Now with the special GD diet, I probably will put on the minimum.
Tildy - I would love to buy a doppler, but am so scared to. Though I am lucky that my GP says to come in any time I need reassurance. GD - well I knew I was going to get it, but I didnt think so soon. Though my Ob yesterday said it was good they have picked it up so early and that I can start looking after myself now. I am also midly obese, but also have PCOS with Insulin Resistance (which doesnt help). How is the sinus and yeast infection going??? you poor thing....
Diana - Welcome to the TTC thread - I am so sorry to hear of your loss of Sebastian, I wish you all the best in your TTC Journey. I have been on clomid also, but I did ovulate pretty regular every month, but my FS was trying to give me a better chance of pregnancy (unfortunately didnt work), but it did bring me to ovulate earlier..
Well with me, I went to the Ob yesterday and all is still going well. Didnt have a ultrasound, but he did use the doppler and said the baby was kicking away and could hear the heartbeat (which made me feel better, especially after stickybabys story).
I also found out at work, that I get 8 weeks paid maternity leave which is an added bonus. I have worked at the same company for over 23 years, so I am hoping that they will be nice and flexible for me.
Sorry for the long posting, and hoping everyone is well.
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With IVF, it could be, but I am guessing is that they may have over stimulated her overies and she is producing too many eggs and need to stop the process as this could be quite dangerous. This never happened to me, but I have heard of others that this has happened to.
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