It has been so quiet in here - I hope you are all well and enjoying your weekends. Sue - I hope you have had a wonderful 3 days off.
I had another Ob appointment on Friday and all is well. Good heartbeat, belly measuring correctly and still head down. We did the prenatal class yesterday and the facilitator pulled us aside afterwards and explained that she had been informed that we had a previous loss and wanted to make sure that we had been ok with everything. We found it a really lovely day and I even got a little teary when I saw the baby being born and then attaching to the mother's breast. DH said he almost cried as well! I think we both realise how blessed we are to be progressing well and it really does feel like we will be bringing this baby home.
Cindee - great news on seeing bubs' heartbeat - so special. I hope you are feeling ok after passing out? Take care of yourself!!!
Sue - I also forgot to say well done on putting up your ticker.
Hello, lovelies. I haven't been reading for a few days because I guess my subscription was off a bit. But guess what? I'm officially on vacation now. No work for 3 weeks! Although DH is off at 4:30 tomorrow morning for Kiev, I'm taking my driving test tomorrow and have the next scan on Wednesday with DH still gone... so other than getting to sleep all I like it's not going to be all relaxation...
Symptoms are still tiny to none. Lower than normal energy, moments of weak nausea, and sometimes some mild cramps or feeling like bubs is pinching me from the inside. Have you guys had that? Like pin-***** sharp pains here and there? I had it last time too, and when I roll over in bed or step off my bicycle I have that sort of little jolt of pain in the groin area, but that's the ligaments I guess.
It really feels that you're on the home stretch now, Katie. Any "nesting" going on now that you're off of work? Oh, the plans I have for the next 3 weeks... starting with cutting the foot-high grass perhaps... :P
Be careful about that high bp, Cindee, and about everything else. It's great that you saw bubs' heart beat. Make sure you take it easy and rest after what happened.
Hammi, where were you off to? I don't remember if you said.
Hanging in there at work, Rozzie? How are you feeling otherwise? Any scans coming up?
Sue, I've been experiencing so much abdominal/intestinal distress this time, it seems that some nights it doesn't matter what I have or haven't eaten, I get these wicked pains in my lower abdomen. But I can tell they're digestive. I seem to hover around diarrhea or constipated and never in between. But even if I know it's intestinal, it's hard to sit there and have pain right in those spots and not freak out a bit. But I think having to go, either pee or otherwise, puts extra strain on the growing uterus and causes some pain. I even read that the other day, when I was cramping a bit and noticing that it's worse when I have a full bladder.
jo -- it's shocking the lengths to which some people's tactlessness goes. I can understand that some people who haven't had a loss like ours can say clumsy things or throw out cliches that they might not understand are more hurtful than helpful. But this woman crossed a line that ought to be bright as day to anyone and everyone. I wouldn't tolerate hearing "sage advice" about when I should give up trying from my closest friends or the dearest loved ones in my family, so I certainly wouldn't find it acceptable from a co-worker. I'm not saying I would have known how to respond (I probably would have been stunned speechless or ran to a toilet), but what we're saying is... forget her nonsense. And perhaps, if you work with her, think up a short, to-the-point way of dismissing further such conversations.
It angered me when people told me "I'm sure it will be fine next time," as if babies are interchangable Wal-mart products and that getting over the death of my child was just a matter of breezily accepting that I'd have a shiny new one at some point. It strikes me as the same sort of trivialization to nag a person about how they already have kids and should consider themselves lucky. Consider this example: my sister died when I was 10 and she was 13. Do you suppose anyone ever went to my mother and said "Well, at least you've got another one, consider yourself lucky"? That would have been positively absurd.
You ARE lucky to have 2 healthy kids, jo, but they are not a modular replacement for the 2 more that you've created out of love and been unfairly forced to grieve. I'd like to tell the lady to **** off.
Well I had a fantastic 3 days off. We ended up at Bunnings and bought a whole heap of plants and 3 tomato plants. So we were planting a lot of yesterday.
I had a freak out session yesterday.... I had some discharge which was only a tiny tiny bit, but it was an unusual colour - not pink or red but very strange. Of course with my history I was freaking out thinking this is it, its over..... Its amazing how quickly I do that!!!!!
Anyway havent had anymore, though my lower abdomen feels funny, bit airy and gassy and feel like there is discharge all the time, but there is not..... I think it has something to do with bowel again, as it has been funny the past few days again.
Sue - I do seem to remember being very gassy with my pregnancies, I think it is fairly normal, and I so understand the feeling about the discharge, I used to run to the toilet FAR to often only to find nothing! I even find myself out of habit still checking now (crazy women).
I hope everyone is well, Katie - great Ob appt, how do you feel now that you have had a few more days leave? Has it sunk in that you don't have to go to work?
I have a question to ask you guys..... I had a phone call from a friend this morning asking us to go away with them for 5 days in January on Moreton IS. My first reaction was 'oh how nice to get away from it all' and the house they booked is gorgeous, BUT. I am so paranoid that if I have happened to fallen pregnant this month, we would be on an Island for 5 whole days, what if something went wrong??? I would be around 20 weeks, I don't know what to do as I know DH will just tell me I am being paranoid. I can't help it, when things start to happen with me it is fairly fast (as in labour) and I am SCARED. Then there is the whole other thing of the house not having safety gates etc for my DS who will be 2, and other people not closing doors etc, he has already proven to be an escape artist. Am I being crazy or not? HELP!!!!
Tildy, I was in Melbourne on Thurs & Fri. I used to LOVE Melbourne but unhappily I've had to go to there shortly after both my miscarriage and Hamish's birth so now I get such a horrible vibe from the place.
Helen, I would go. And I can say this because I'm excellent at dispensing advice that I have trouble taking myself. We will always be scared, if not for one reason then another. But no matter how much we fear something, we can't stop it from happening anyway. So please consider going as it would give you a lovely holiday to look forward to and you must believe that your next little baby will be yours to keep.
Rozzie and Tildy, it's the magic 12wk for you guys next week. Can't wait to hear about your little bubs bouncing away at your ultrasounds.
And Katie, what a great ultrasound result. Did you get to see your little girl? How big is she now? Can they tell?
How are you going, Jo? Chugging along during the day and silently dying on the inside at night? I hope you are getting more peace at night. How are you coping with work?
Sue, I totally get the freaking out. To this day I still get a jolt when I see coloured discharge but hopefully as the weeks pass you'll be able to feel more confidence in your miracle baby.
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