Trying to Conceive after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss

I don't really get those kind of symptoms, cramping/headaches usually start on CD3, but usually 2 or 3 days before AF I get some spotting, so needless to say I've been studing my toilet paper rather closely the last few days :redface:.
Also, a bit of a TMI but when I was preg with Jayvan I always had funny colour number 2's which I've had again for the last couple of days. And it sounds dumb, but occassionally I get a pregnant feeling. I'm probably getting my hopes up to only be shot right back down again, but, I can't help but feel optimistic when we DTD on all the right days. So fingers crossed indeed!

May is only 3 months away so not long to go for you now! I'll start sending you some successful implantation vibes. Positive thinking can do wonders, sometimes! :)

I feel like I'm taking over the thread a bit here, girls! :p

Teagz I hope you are pregnant, that day of spotting could very well have been implantation, and don't discount those funny like signs! When you asked about your cycle returning to a 28/9days straight up, I have to say it quite often doesn't. Mine took about 10weeks to return! but the general rule is 4-6weeks, hopefully you are one of the lucky ones and did catch that little egg, not long now! Hi to everyone else I am feeling a little vulnerable this week, it is only 5 days until the gestation of Cooper's birth, I am positive we will be fine this time, but can't shake the paranoia. Bring on 24 weeks, then 28, and I will be a much happier girl.

Hi girls,

Teagz, I think we're both taking over BB, LOL ....I like your positivity, I tend to be more positive than negative as well, and believe me, it helps a lot! Sending you big, big sticky vibes, I hope a little embie is in there cooking!! :pray:

Helen, I can't say I know how you feel, but it must be pretty nerve wrecking, especially as you've lost Cooper about the same gestation you are now (BTW, love the name Cooper!!) BUT, I've no doubt that everything will be just fine, so please try and relax and your bub will relax too. Thinking of you and sending you big hugs hun, you've come a long way, and you've done so well!!! keep going strong!!!!! :D

Well AFM, I rang the IVF clinic today as I had this thought about Joshua's firts photo. I don't know if i told you the story, but when the nurse asked me if I wanted to see the picture of the embryo that was going to be transfered, i said, sure! Well, I looked at it, and you know what words came out of my mouth ??? I am truly ashamed to say it....I said 'it looks kind of ugly'. Well, I can't tell you how I lived to regret these words, and I will for the rest of my life, because that was my little boy, my little miracle. Anyway, I've made peace with myself, and I rang this morning to see if they still had that little embryo picture of Joshua, and they do and they'll send it to me. I am so, so happy, because that's the very first pic of Joshua, and one I will treasure forever.

Hi to all you beautiful ladies, I hope everyone has a great weekend.

Love & big hugs
Beata xxx

Hi my dear friends

Theresa, sorry you have been so stressed lately. I know it's hard but try to relax and take good care of yourself.

Katie, so happy to hear Anna is doing well and she is already turning heads! Very cute.

Teagz, cycles after a D&C can vary greatly so not really sure what your body will do. Not long now until you can test though so try to stay sane. Great to hear you'll get excellent care with your next pg - even though we should get it for every pg not after we suffer a terrible loss. AGGGGGRRR doctors make me so mad :wall:

Beata, funny you say your bb don't hurt anymore before your AF. I am exactly the same! Before losing Sebastian, my bb were so painful for a week before and had all the classic PMS symptoms but now nothing. Very strange isn't it? Wonder why?
Please don't be ashamed or feel guilty for saying that about Joshua's picture as you weren't to know what would eventuate. I am so glad you have made peace with yourself and you are getting a copy of it. I know you will treasure it always and look at him with nothing but beauty in your eyes.

Helen, big :hug: to you. It is not unreasonable to be feeling vulnerable. You will pass this milestone with flying colours I'm sure. Then pass all the others until you deliver a healthy, happy little bundle you can take home.

Afm, clinic just called to say my hormones are suppressed so I can start injecting on Sunday YAY :dance: Can't believe how happy I am to be injecting myself. Oh the things that turn me on these days. Still have to keep sniffing though which is a bumma but no more complaining - I'm getting very close to my BFP (hopefully)

Paula and Lan, you have both been very quiet lately. Hope all is well.

Megan, how are you doing hun? Fertile period coming up soon?

Hello to everyone and hope all is well. Sydney is in for some Melbourne weather this weekend with predictions up to 45 degrees.. yuk. Think I'll put some floaties on and sleep in the ocean.

Diana, hooray for the go ahead to start injecting finally :dance: :leap:!!!! How silly we get excited with needles hey??? LOL. You're right though, it feels like the wheels are finally in motion to that beautiful destination we all want to get to - a beautiful little miracle.
Will be thinking of you on Sunday, you are going so well (well, maybe apart from that nasal spray, yucky....) Big hugs hun and stay cool, I know I went mad with the 44+ last week, yuck!!!!!! And, I couldn't even go for a swim because of my scar....I didn't know if I could...:rolleyes:

hi girls firstly thanks for all your kind wishes last week i actually didn't end up having that bad of a day. I will try and catch up sorry to anyone i miss, you all have been very busy this week.

Teagz- fingers crossed that your symptoms lead to a bfp. Also great to hear about the new kitchen i would love to have a nice kitchen to cook in.

Beata70-Thats wonderful that you are able to get joshua's first picture. I have never asked if they have photo's of the embryo's i will have to this time.

dd0207-so great to hear that you are starting your injections, and does seem silly be so excited about *****ing yourself but i know that i certainly was.

Tildy- Can't wait to see your photo's of your nursery. I never really got to do mine and can't wait untill i can.

Rozzie-I'm also a cross stitch fan and have just picked mine back up that i was doing when i was pregnant with chloe it is a winnie the pooh one which was for the nursery. one day you may be able to start yours again when you feel that the time is right. also very exciting about the bassinet.

Cindee- goodluck with everything:crossfingers: hope you little girl holds on a little longer.

Laney- Congrats on the great scan and great news on an understanding doctor it makes things so much easier.

Sryan- Am thinking of you and the heat. Must be so exciting receiving all that baby stuff good work.

Zachary's mum- Hope things are improving and you are feeling better.

Angellukesmum- LOL about the waxing hope you feel better down their now.

As for everyone else hope you are all doing well

afm we are doing ivf again this month a fet cycle started my drugs today and go for our lining scan on the 17th and the embryo get implanted on the 24th so hopefully everything goes well and this time next month i will ba able to give us all a bfp. on another note i am struggling with dh family they are doing the blame thing and it always tends to end up pointing at me when we told them that we are doing ivf again it was well i hope she can hold her fluid this time and i hope she doesn't start bleeding early on again.WTF. DH is wonderful and is very supportive and stands up for me but i just don't feel like i want to share anything with them anymore anyway thats my gripe for the day.hope you all have a lovely weekend.

Hey girls

YAY Diana for the injecting! Doesn't sound like something you would normally get excited about hey? :lol:

Dee - that sounds terrible about your DH family and their comments. I just have no words for how baffled I am by some peoples attitudes and things that they feel need to be verbalised, even when it is all total CRAP! Good luck with your IVF cycle this month and I know we will all be hoping to see a BFP typed out by you :)

Beata, that is lovely that you will be able to get a copy of Joshua's first photo and I am glad to hear you have made peace with yourself about your words. We all have our regrets and hindsight is a wonderful thing. Good to hear you are recovering well too.

Sue, I hear you on the anterior placenta! I found that at about 26 weeks movements really seemed to slow down so I was thankful for my doppler at that stage. She still has days where she moves really far down so her movements are really muffled (if that makes sense), but then usually the next day she ramps it again.

Helen - things will be fine this time around but I understand the feelings as you come up to the gestation period of losing Cooper. And then just think, every day past that is a day you are ahead for this pg. And before you know it you will be counting in terms of weeks passed the milestone ;)

Teagz - still have everything crossed for you that you get that BFP this month!

I saw my ob today and I passed my GD test with flying colours so yay, I can keep eating those choccies! All my vitamin levels are good (I have no idea how as I really have the most dreadful diet), I have FINALLY put a couple of kgs on, and from today I am a normal pg lady with no more cervix scans needed. I feel good about that but I am going to continue lying low as I don't want to risk things going pear-shaped too early on.
Oh and my wax went well - not that I can really tell! And Diana, unfortunately 'intimacy" is still off the books for now although my ob did say we could go for it in another couple of weeks :redface: I'll see how game we feel as we get further along :lol:

Alright, am off to make chicken nachos. Need to use up leftover BBQ chicken - have never made nachos before but it cant be too hard. Can it??

Keep in the cool this weekend everyone x

Hi Everyone,

Jo, glad that your OB is happy with everything, you must be relieved.

Teagz, I am praying that you do get a BFP :pray: when are you testing?

Dee, I can't even believe that family members would use such thoughtless words! You only hope that they were referring to 'bad things' not happening again and not to you personally. You have every right to be peeved though, I would be! I opt for telling as few people as possible, in fact noone knows we are trying at the moment, I just couldn't stand the constant question asking etc. Good-luck with the IVF treatment I hope it is successful :crossfingers:

Cindee hun, I am thinking of you. I am really praying that bubs is a strong fighter and comes out when she is ready to face the world :pray:

Diana, I am so pleased for you that you can finally start the injecting, that's great news! Forgive me as I'm fairly niave when it comes to IVF, is the next step after that harvesting the eggs? what would be the approx timeframe to a transfer? Gosh, IVF is so amazing isn't it. I really pray that everything goes smoothly for you from here on in.

Beata, I hope you are healing well. Glad you are getting that photo of Joshua as an embryo, how amazing is that! It's good that you have come to terms with what you first said. I am sure you were viewing it from a very 'scientific' point of view. Once emotions come into things it is very different, and that usually comes later. After going through such a terrible loss though I am sure it will be different for you next time.

Paula, how are you going you little preggy mummy! I am so jealous and bum'ed that we both didn't get BFP's together :doh:

Theresa, don't let work stress you out too much, easy to say I know. If people don't want to put in effort at work, they will eventually pay for it, particularly in this market. I hope you are feeling well. Are you getting close to the end of your first trimester yet?

AFM, I have been O/S this week, so glad to be home as yes (I think Beata you asked), I'm in the ferlile zone. Very excited that this time of the month has come around. I'm really praying that this is our month and our little one is ready to join us! :pray:

Hello to everyone else, Lan, Tildy, Laney, Helen, Sue, Katie, Rozzie, Jo. Hope I haven't missed anyone.

Hello lovely ladies

Teagz - hanks for the compliment. I guess I managed because I tried as best I could not to think about it. I was sweating on the inside though!!! I also didn't think it would happen as soon as it did so I am very lucky. I also know what you mean about the extra special treatment! It feels so wrong in so many ways that I am getting extra care this time around. I can't understand why it takes a tragedy to get some good care?!?!? I am sending you loads of :noaf: vibes.

beata - I am okay. Still had a stressful week and I have this horrid cold but I am having the weekend off and I am taking Monday off too. It is an important day for us as we are going for our scan. How are you feeling? Everything recovering well? The photo of Joshua will be so special - I can't stop smiling on your behalf.

Diana - Thanks - I am okay. Looking forward to not having tyo think about work for 3 whole days!!!!! Good luck with your injections :hooray: - I am a pro having been diabetic for the last 31 years!!!!! If you need any tips, give me a shout :D

Dee - Good luck hun. I will be thinking of you and sending you lots of :bluedust::pink-babydust:

Berry1 - I am 8 weeks today!!! It still feels so surreal. :goodluck: I am praying this is your month too!!!!!

AFM - Can't wait for Monday when we finally get to see our little lamb. It is the first scan that makes it all so real. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and look after yourselves!!!

Love ya all xxxxx

Hello All,

Was wondering if I could get your views on exercise when TTC and early pg. I really need to get into shape at the moment and am carry a few extra kg's, but am concerned about doing any cardio harder than a power walk while ttc incase I 'cause a miscarriage' does anyone know anything about the facts / risks around this?

Also, I have found that my body, particuarly my stomach area hasn't returned back to normal after losing my angel. My stomach feels 'bigger' but quite firm, not 'soft' as you would expect when carrying more weight there. Has anyone else had this? Does it take a while to go back into shape? It has been 3-months for me now and I didn't put on any additional weight while pg, but it seems to have crept on & my body a very diff shape. Would be interested to know what everyone else experienced in this regard.

There is no way I would risk losing another baby for exercise, but I also think its good to be as fit as possible while being pg. Just wondering what I can and can't do.

Theresa, I can see your ticker now, almost 9-wks, how lovely. All the best for your scan, I hope everything is looking good, v. exciting!

Thanks Lovely Ladies
Megan

Everything I've read and all of my doctors have said that exercise absolutely cannot cause a miscarriage and that exercising while pregnant is a good idea. One of my doctors put it best when she said "Nothing you can do can end a HEALTHY pregnancy, and nothing you can do can save an unhealthy one." Then she added that I shouldn't start using narcotics or anything, but I promised her I'd wait with that until after the baby was born. ;)

I worked out at the gym 3-4 times a week at the beginning of this pregnancy (I admit I slowed way down later...). The important thing with exercising while pregnant is to make sure you keep yourself from getting dehydrated and overheated. But at a "normal human being" level of exercise, that just means making sure you drink some water.

Zachary's Mom, That's ok. I hope you get a goos scan on monday *fingers crossed*

Tildy & Berry, you hve both just inspired me to start making more of an effort in the exercise department. You're right. It is important to have a healthy body!

Well. AF reared her ugly head this morning. The cold and thrush must have gotten the better of me. I'm a bit cut (who am I kidding, I'm devistated and plan on spending the rest of the day in bed!) but there is always next month isn't there?
I need to *****! I have a friend (well Ex friend as we've had a bit of a falling out...) who has a 2yo. We went to a birthday party last night to which they also were invited and once they arived they just left their bub to run wild. Honestly I don't think they would have even known where she was for a good portion of the night, she could have been anywhere! At one stage she was trying to rip off some ornaments that were hanging on the wall, and stood there for about 5 minutes open and slamming the sliding door. And I had to tell her off! My huge pet hate is having to watch over someone elses child because the parents are to lazy to do so, not to mention, she could have dragged that ornament down and smashed it all over her or just wandered out of the garage as people were sort of coming and going and the roller door was always being opened. Argh! :wall:

Hope everyone enjoys their weekend. I'm going back to bed to sulk ;)
:hug: xx

Thanks for that advise Tildy. I had thought that was the case as well, that exercising was fine as long as you are hydrated and don't let your body temp rise above 38 degrees for an extended period of time, but when I was first pg with Jasmine my GP said nothing harder than a walk 'just in case' so it has made me very nervous.

Teagz, hun I am so sorry that AF arrived, damn her :comfort: You are right there is definetly next month and it will happen for you. I know how disappointing it is when you think your pg then AF arrives, that happened to me last month. DH & I were so upset and I vowed never to 'assume' symptoms again, although I know it will be so hard not to. Its just so hurtful when you almost build yourself up to be majorly let down. It will happen for you, know that.

Hope everyone has a good weekend.

teagz i'm so sorry that af has arrived. We will all have our fingercrossed for you next month take care and just have a you day. p.s chocolate always helps me feel better when af is around.

Hello beautiful girls,

How hot is it again in Melbourne!!!!! I can't stand this heat!! I went to bed really early yesterday at about 6 o'clock as AF arrived and I was having cramps. I woke up at 9 and I was so hot!!! Hot flushes maybe ???.... I then woke up at 11.30 and had to put the air con on as I just couldn't get back to sleep, I was that hot. What is going on???!!!

First of all, Teagz :hug: I'm so sorry hunni, wish AF stayed away!!!! There is a always next time sweetie, and don't stop doing all that you're doing because you're doing all the right things to get you the bub you so desperately want and deserve. I'll be keeoing my fingers and toes crossed for you next cycle, as I'm sure you'll be doing the same for me when it's my turn! We're in this together, and together we will do it. Please remember that hun xxx

Dee, good luck with your IVF cycle, I'll be keeping my fingers and toes tightly crossed for you on the 24th for your transfer. Gosh, how exciting! I wish that was me, I can't wait for my go soon. I'll be praying for a BFP for you hun!!!!
As you your DH's family, that is very disappinting that they are not supportive. At least your DH is, and he sounds just lovely. He is the most important one, and you guys are each other's anchors, so that's most important thing. He must feel awful that his own family can't be more supportive... When I did IVF last May I only told my parents and my closest girlfriends, and they were very supportive. Couldn't ask for better firiends.

Jo, hooray for good results on your GD test !!!! Very happy for you hun. You're almost 29 weeks!! Wow!!!!!! Where has the time gone??? You are doing so well, I'm ver proud of you. Bring on the chockies !!!! As for nachos, put a heap of corn chips on a plate, put the cheese on, slap the chicken on and the other bits, like salsa, mushies etc.....dunno, I saw it once on TV and all I can remember the chef was just slapping everyhing on...;)

Megan, yay for the fertile period!! You'll be a busy little vegimite, he he he. I hope this cycle is yours hun, I will be praying for your BFP :pray:
Where did you go O/S ???

Theresa, I'm so excited your your very first scan of your little lamb (how cute is that..)Please let us know how it all goes, I'm so excited for you hun! I'm healing OK, feeling much better slowly. I was getting a bit anxious to see what will happen with AF after the op, but all is vell just the normal cramping, flow not too heavy whcih is great.

Tildy, look at your ticker go! just a few more weeks for you miss, can't wait!!! You must be getting excited now...:dance:

Diana, one more sleep until the first jab! Yey!!!! Very excited for you hun, lets grow these eggies soon!!!! Please, please God let the first cycle be successful and an embie that sticks!!!!! Bring it on!!!! Looks like the three of us (you, me and Dee) will be IVF ladies in this thread ;)

Cindee, how is everything going hun?? I've been thinking of you and praying all goes well for you and bub :pray:

Laney, I hope you have found some reassurance after your last scan. I'm always thinking of you and hoping and praying :pray: all is well with your little bub xxx

Hello to Sue, Helen, Lan, Katie, Jo76 & Paula. I hope all you lovely ladies are doing fine and I'm sending you all big hugs :D

I'm now going for a nap uder the air con....will be back when this heat passes....hot, hot, hot.

Love always
Beata xxxx

Hi all,

Teagz - want to give you a big hug :hug:

I am so sorry AF arrived. I was hoping so much for you.

xxx Sue xxx

Teagz, oh bugger about AF. I hate that horrible sinking feeling you get when you see it. Don't be a wuss like me and totally lose the plot. Try to think of it as more time to prepare your body for your full term baby. Are you on folic acid etc?

Megan, the only thing I've heard about exercising while pregnant is not to get breathless or overheated. I also have a pregnancy exercise DVD in which they mention not twisting and stretching too much. I think a brisk walk would be great for your mind and body - or a swim.

Theresa, can't wait to hear about your scan tomorrow. I remember Sue saying that she could see quite a bit of the bub even at 8wks!

Speaking of Sue, hello! How are you going? I like your ticker, I think I'll get one of those when I finally get my BFP. Hard to believe that you're due in 13wks!

Hope everyone's keeping cool in this heat.

Diana, hoping those injections aren't too bad and hoping that Feb really is our month!

I have itchy eyeballs, can't tell if it's hayfever, conjunctivitis or just this heat. Don't like it at any rate. HIsssss!

Hello,

Well according to FF I O'ed on Thurs & given there was no action as I was OS for work, there goes a whole month - what a waste! so disappointed. I am sure I O'ed on Sat though, which at least gives us a chance, but who knows :dunno:

Feeling annoyed and upset that I have to wait another month to try and didn't even have the chance to give this one a good shot :(

Sorry, having a bit on a winge!