Trying to Conceive after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss

Tildy, I found the picture gallery. There is a link that you have to use until the menu bar is fixed. Go to the Help forum, gallery tips, link to gallery.
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums/gallery/index.php

Lan, it's so good to hear from you hun. You're posts always make me laugh ! I've been told CD1 is your 'red' normal flow day, not the spotting that comes just before it. When I did my first cycle of IVF I was supposed to inject myself on the 3rd day of my cycle, and I remember the nurse said the CD1 is the proper bleed day not a spotting day.
I like you plan!!! I know you'll get there hun, don't think you'll never conceive as you're putting negative vibes out there and you'll scare the baby away ! lol

Girls, sorry I have been lurking more than anything lately, feel really flat after the heat wave, have had a migrane for 3 days running....yuck. Will post some personals later.

Big hugs to everyone

Love
Beata xxx

Teagz, that link is very interesting. I have actually always wondered what it looked like in there so thanks for the enlightment. Good luck for a BFP this month, not long now until you can test.

Beata, how are you feeling? Thanks for the info you sent me, it helped a little. When will you go back to work?

Lan, the witch arrived for me too yesterday so I am on CD2 as well. We will definitely be partners in labour if we both get our BFPs this month. Enjoy your extra long weekend. Anything planned? I would love to take a day off and hang out with you but will need to keep them up my sleeve for the IVF days I need to take off. I am glad you are back in the TTC game and I am armed and ready if I need to come and slap you :lol:

Rozzie, can't believe you potentially have only 6 weeks to go. How exciting. I'm glad you have a birth plan in place now so lets start counting down! Enjoy all the shopping and thanks for sharing your own feelings about how you felt with your sister and SIL pg. My reaction makes so much more sense now seeing that most of you all went through similar emotions.

Tildy, thanks for your support, you alway word things so well. Hope you and Kebab are doing well. Countdown is on for you too!

Jo, hope your scan goes well today and your cervix is still very well behaved. Can't wait to hear how it went :pray:

Laney, are you scanning today as well?

How are all our other pregnant mammas going?

Afm - the witch finally arrived yesterday on day 40 but I took the provera tablets to bring on a period so who knows when she would have shown up without them. Means I can definitely go ahead with my treatment now so I'm still sniffing away and hoping to start the injections at the end of the week.

Another freaky due date if I fall pg this month - same as Sebastian's. Oh please Dear God let it be, please please please :pray: :pray: :pray: :pray: :pray: :pray:

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Love Diana

Hi Girls,

Diana, hooray for AF ! Normally I'd say, damn that AF, but in your case that's good news as you can soon start your treatment. I'm probably the only person in the whole universe who is actually excited about my next IVF cycle, as I keep thinking it worked a treat last time and it gave me Joshua. I'm counting weeks until I'm OK to go again. I am keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you for a BFP really soon :pray:

Dee, what did you end up doing on your due date ? I hope it was a nice day for you, but I know it would have been a very sad one as well. Big hugs hun :hug:

Jo76, thinking of you this week as the kids are off to school again!! Must be a little bit sad but also a little relief too!

Jo, good luck on your scan today, I hope all is well :pray:

Laney, sending you lots of positive vibes and lots of strenght to get you through your pregnancy. I'm always crossing my fingers for you that all is well and that the bub is growing well :pray:

Katie, when you said about watching the U/S DVD, I asked myself when I think I will be able to watch Joshua's DVD. I have two, one from his 12 week scan and the most recent one from the 20 week scan, but I just cannot bring myself to watching it yet. I don't think there are enough tissue boxes at home!

Cindee, when is your scan hun? Hope bub is nice and happy in your belly, and is not in a hurry to arrive! :pray:

Helen, how exciting for your cousin to get her BFP!! Now you can call each other and talk babies!!! How is everyhing with you?

Rozzie & Tildy, can't believe in 5 and 6 weeks you'll have your bubs! That is just awesome, you have done so well girls :p

Sue, we don't hear from you so much there days!! How far have you got to go??? Have you bought any new furniture/clothes/toys for your new bub???

Theresa, I hope you're going OK hun, you've also been very quiet...are you still tired and have you got m/s?

Teagz, you really do make me laugh :rofl:!!! This time it was about going for it like two little rabbits, that's a picture I find hard to get rid out of my head now, lol !!

Lan, how are you feeling this week?? Do you need a kick up your bum to think those positive thoughts?? I can be on the next plane if you need me to give you a wee gentle slap, LOL

Katie, how is Anna doing? Has she done something new lately? Big hugs hun.

Well, I hope I've covered everyone (sorry if I've forgotten anyone!!). AFM, the headache is finally gone, thank goodness, the heat was driving me up the wall. Yesterday and today will be very muggy, I hate sticky muggy as well, when does it end??? Still have 4 weeks off, starting to get bored a little, have been reading a few good books lately (maybe that's partly the reason for my migranes???, who knows..). The scar is healing well, yesterday I started putting on vitamin E oil on it to minimise the scar. The actual cut is still raised (swollen) & sore to the touch but I think the nerve endings are slowly coming back....Joshua's due date is next week on Thursday, I can't believe how quickly the time has gone...

Love and huge hugs to all my beautiful friends
Beata xxx

Lan, I have just realised you'll be able to make special use of Valentines Day during your TTC month! It may take the pressure of it a bit if you just went all out for the V-Day weekend and make it a truely romantic one to remember! ;)

DD, I'll be praying for you this cycle as well! I've picked up on a nasty habbit of wishing on the time 11.11 lately :redface: I'll put one in for you as well to keep that witch away! :)

Jo, I hate the smoking thing as well. :wall: And drinking. And people that quit smoking their entire pregnancy but then start back up again once bub is born... You can handle 9 months without it why not go the whole hog?!

My most recent pet hate is people who critisise a Hypochondriac. A friend of mine colours my hair for me, just blonde foils, when I asked her to make sure it didn't touch my scalp she called me a Hypochondriac. I'm not getting her to do it anymore. I don't think I should feel guilty and stupid about doing everything I can to bring a live baby into our life, whether it be an old wives tail or not. And I know having a fit about haircolour is probably a bit lame but, I feel paranoid about almost anything that goes into my body at the moment.
One week until AF is meant to be due! :pray: it doesnt come. Yesterday I noticed flecs of blood (like grains of sand) after I went to the loo a couple of times, so I'm not holding my breath, but I'm still crossing my fingers!

Beata, Sorry if I grossed you out ><;; It was funny (not really haha funny, more like luck funny) because we started at day 9 and went all the way through to day 13ish, the DF thought we should wait for our test results to come back before we try as he didn't want it coming back as a genetic problem, (we've had alot of indecisive moments between us the last couple of months) so we stopped, Dr's called on CD15 (which is when I was ovulating) and said that they couldn't find anything so we picked up where we left off :p
But, again, sorry for grossing you out! I actual like having somewhere to talk about our sexual patterns while we TTC, though. The only other person I know who has been through what I have is my mum, who had a still born bub and lost another at 16 weeks, but I just don't feel right about talking to her about my sex life, as much as I adore and get on with her!
I'm glad your headache is gone. And poo to the weather. It's 38 degree's here today, yuck! I'll be thinking of you next thursday as well :) Time does fly, Jayvan would have been due in 3 months and 2 weeks today.

Hey Teagz, I think that's a good little sign as it might be an implantation bleed!!! I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you this cycle, let's hope it's the one!!!!!
And I don't blame you for doing everything in your power to have a healthy body in preparation for your bub, good girl! Let it be a sticky one in there, please !!!!!!! :pray:

Hi everyone, well back from my scan and....it was GREAT!! Cervix hasn't changed in a month and bubba looks good, I had to fight back the tears as I don't know how I have got through this last couple of weeks, every little thing has sent me into a bit of a tail spin of worry and seeing that gorgeous little bambino was just so overwhelming! Off to the OB tomorrow, I am sure he will probably say I don't need another scan until 32ish wks to check if my placenta has moved up more, but I don't think I could mentally cope with that! I feel so relieved but at the same time we are just over a week away from when we lost Cooper so still very nervy. Must go had visitor all week and now another one coming possibly tomorrow and I have so much work to catch up on, yuk.

Teagz, you silly sausage, you didn't gross me out at all!!!! You just made me laugh as I kept seeing these two little bunnies going for gold!!!! And that's exactly what you should have done, cos that's the best time to do the deed....

Helen, woo hoo for a good scan!!! Very happy for your hun :clap:

Helen, woot for a good scan! Well done! :)

Beata, I hope it is implantation :pray: I'm finding it really hard to fathom that I could possible be pregnant on the very first shot. So far though I have two of the symptons I had with Jayvan, I've all of a sudden become a bottomless pitt over the last couple of days (which then turns into horrible horrible nausea as we go along!) and my skin has gone to complete crapola! And every morning when I wake up I give my boobs a bit of a poke to see if they're starting to get sore, cos that's the next thing to go!
Mind you though it's probably my body going into wishful thinking mode XD It would be a little early for symptoms now, surely...

Hi all you beautiful ladies :)

Well my scan, like Helens, went perfectly. My cervix has barely changed in the last fortnight and that is after lifting my rest a bit so that is a relief. We got to see bubs and we even got to see her face again in 4D before she moved so we were lucky. We also got a picture of her girly bits in 4D - one for the 21st :lol:
The sonographer thinks I might need 1 more scan at 30 weeks so I have booked in but I see my ob on Friday so will see what he wants to do. It wouldn't surprise me if he is happy to leave things as is now. Whatever!

Diana, it is funny when you are actually happy to see AF show her face. Must be a relief though as now you can get going on the next phase of the journey. I have everything crossed for you hun that it doesn't take you long to get that BFP.

Beata - I am so happy to hear you are healing so well. Enjoy your remaining time off work as before you know it you will be back and wishing not to be!

Hi to everyone else, sorry gotta go. Thinking of you all x

Jo, so happy everything went well at your scan today, you must be a very good girl and resting heaps!! Ha ha for the rude bits on the screen! How funny is that...definitely a great 21st pic! Stay strong and keep going the way you're going, and all will be good :dance:

Teagz, great signs so far! And never say never to the first go to be the one!!!!! Keep me updated on your little signs, and stay positive, it's not wishful thinking!! :pray:

Hi ladies!

Lots to catch up on. Firstly, Lan, I'm so glad to hear from and I'm really glad you have decided to TTC again. I will definitely prod you if I think you're falling into uncertaintly too. When you're ready I'll fill you in on all the organic/enviro research I've done. I'm trying hard to be responsible, have not bought much new, trying to get a lot of second hand stuff, and going to try the modern cloth nappy road. We'll see how I go!

Beata, glad you're healing up well. I had that numb scar feeling after the birth and it does go away thankfully, cause it's a bit freaky.

Diana, how exciting, you're starting your IVF cycle!! woohoo!!!

Jo, glad your scan went well and cervix is behaving well.

Helen, ditto! I think though that the lead up to being at the point in the pregnancy where you lost Cooper is probably worse than the actual day, at least it was for me. I hope time passes quickly for you and bubs give you lots of jabs!! You're not finding out the sex, or have I missed a post?

Teagz, I had implantation bleeding both times, this time on CD 8 (BFP on CD10). I don't remember what stage it was first time as we had been told to go on IVF and had given up so I wasn't paying attention. You can get pregnant first cycle, Katie and I did (and probably others I've forgotten), in fact after pregnancy you seem to be fertile... what was nature thinking with that?? Also ignore people with that hypochondriac-type comments... I think that's just rude.

Jo, I think you're a saint to be around your SIL smoking... if it were me I'd have probably chucked a tanty and caused a family incident. We all understand how you feel though.

Laney, I hope your baby can stay in there till full term, but if the worst comes to pass you don't have very long till bub has an excellent chance of being perfectly healthy if born. I'm sure you know this already though! I know a girl on a forum who just had a baby girl at 27 weeks and she's doing really well, should have no problems in the future at all.

As for me, the folks came down for a late-notice visit to bring the bassinet as I won't see them again before the birth. Yesterday Mum, DH and I rearranged the nursery (which involved taking apart and reassembling a bed so it fit in a different part of the room) and put up a dado of Barnaby Button Bear, it's so cute :) so the nursery is just about ready. It's very scary to commit like that but I'm glad I've taken the plunge. I was doing a lovely cross-stitch for the nursery when I was pregnant with Edward and Mum asked me if I was going to finish it, and I said I'm not a superstitious person but I just can't quite bring myself to do it... it's funny I'm like that with all sorts of things... I won't put the baby on a childcare waiting list until it's born like I did last time, won't tell everyone I know etc. Weird.

I worked out today I had enough leave to stop work tomorrow till my maternity leave starts in 3 weeks, then have enough to cover the 6 weeks of annual leave I applied for over Christmas and Jan (so I get the free pulic hols hehehe). Very tempting.

Love Rozzie

Lan -- sounds like you're the opposite of how I was with TTC. I was pretty depressed for the first 2 weeks of my cycle, rather a wreck after AF came, and then sloped upward and upward in the last two weeks, probably because of the "I'm definitely not pregnant now" vs. "I might be pregnant now!" difference. We'll try to help you make both sides positive. :D

Laney -- thanks for the help about the albums! I have nothing to post there yet, but soon I might be done with our nursery and want to share it with you guys. I understand that there is no point at which you will be able to relax. Even I feel that way. But you're doing so wonderfully so far, and about to pass by one of your "bad" anniversaries...

Teagz -- usch, sorry your body isn't treating you nicely! But good on you for keeping up the TTC despite that. :D Silly that your friend called you a hypochondriac. It doesn't even fit. :P I blogged about how pretentiously naggy people are about carefulness during pregnancy (The Pessimist's Cookbook: Logical Fallacy) so I won't rant more here. :D Even though they say implantation bleeding is rare, I also had it, both with Beiron and now with Kebab. I had a small but distinct bleed something like 3 or 4 days before I expected AF, and then it stopped. There's no reason you can't be pregnant on your first cycle of trying! Since it's a digital process (each month you're either pregnant or you're not, and then you start over!) you're just as likely to get pregnant this cycle as any other. Remember that!

Diana -- does this mean that your IVF cycle starts now? What is it that you're sniffing, btw?

Beata -- well, I'm not quite down to 6 weeks left just yet. :) There's a little more than 8 weeks left until my due date, and so it might be as much as 10 and a half weeks until I meet bubs! Wah! :( On the upside I had another good weekend as far as pain and such goes. I shopped, cleaned, painted furniture in the nursery. It's work that my body is allergic to! So I'm counting down the 5 weeks until maternity leave and hoping life will be "breezy" after that, haha.

Helen -- glad to hear of the good scan and the good cervix! If your OB says you don't need another scan, you can always say "But can I have one anyway?" The worst he can do is say no. I was so happy to have the extra scan at 30 weeks even though I knew they thought everything was fine. Those little peeks inside keep us sane.

And Jo as well -- what great cervixes (cervii? cervices?) we have going on in here. :D It's great that you get that result even after being a bit more active.

Rozzie -- cloth nappies, eh? I've been pondering it. Don't know if I have the strength, though, hah. With some things I've decided that we'll start with this baby first and then get creative and modern etc. with the next... Can we see pics of your nursery when it's done? I'm working little by little on ours, but after I'm done painting this one last piece of furniture all the big bits will be in place.

I have the midwife after lunch today, but that's just all routine stuff now. Although this time she has to weigh me, and I'm not looking forward to that! :rolleyes:

Jo your cervix is fabulous :clap: I also had a chuckle at the thought of your little girl's girly bits up on a big screen at her 21st.

Helen, YAY for a fabulous cervix as well :clap: You two are my poster girls and it brings me much comfort and hope for when my cervix has to be stitched up.

Tildy, the spray is to suppress my own natural hormones for a more controlled environment and to ensure I don't ovulate on my own before egg collection - particularly because my cycles are so unpredictable. I sniff twice a day at 12 hour intervals. I have a BT on Friday to ensure my hormones are "down regulated" and if so, I can start follicle stimulating hormone injections to grow numerous follicles. I love reading your blogs BTW. Always a great read and full of witty, logical thoughts. Also look forward to seeing the photos of the nursery, it sounds like so much fun.

Rozzie, how exciting to set the bassinet up. I long for the day. I can also understand your hesitation to finish the cross stitch now but perhaps one day... Taking leave now sounds very tempting! I it were me and I felt ok, I would try to take the least amount of work off as possible before the arrival as I think time would just draaaaaag on. Afterwards however means more time with little one!

Teagz, ignore everyone that has nothing useful to say. You are doing your best to be in perfect health for your next pregnancy and you should be commended.

Laney :hug:

Beata :hug:

:grouphug: everyone.

Just thought I'd quickly drop in and write a selfish post ^^;
We got our new kitchen put in today, it's oh so purdy! I think I may be in love :lol:
Had an appt with the gynocologist that helped with Jayvan's delivery for a discussion about the test results... The only thing I can remember is that she said it was absolutely ok for us to be TTC again :rolleyes: Selective hearing much?
She sent DF and I off to check we have normal chromosones as a one last option to rule out, although she thinks we'll be fine. She basically confirmed in person they have no idea what happened, but there are lot of "it could have been this's"
I have the notes of the test. They're kind of hard to read (emotion and smarts wise)
Aaand, only 5.5 day's til :noaf:

:grouphug:

Hope the heat isn't getting to everyone! xx

hi girls.
I'm still around just.
looks like ill be delivering next week sometime, my little girl wants out. had steroid shot today and will have another tomorrow afternoon. then its just waiting to see when they want me in there for delivery.

at least I'm further on than when my youngest daughter was born. she was 645gms at 26.5weeks.
I'm now 760 gms by measurement which is slightly small but I'm 27.4 weeks ATM

so I'm wishing you all good luck. I'm hoping to be back on tomorrow but we will see.


love to all cindee...

Hi Ladies,
I just got back from the high risk doctor, very long day. Way too much waiting around for appts. The scan took over an hour. Everything looks good right now. He is still big for dates! It has been a very emotional day, very difficult for me to go back to the hospital. It is nice to talk to a doctor that really understands how hard of a time I have been having. He told me that he has had a few women that have asked him "So when is this baby going to die?" The question that is on my mind everyday.

Cindee, I will be thinking of you. Please let us know how your bub is doing.

Hi Girls,

Cindee, I am praying for you that the bub is ok and that everything goes as smoothly as possible :pray:. you are always in my thoughts. I haven't been around for that long, but do you mind me asking why your other daughter was born at 26.5 weeks ? Is there anything they can do to stop the babies being born so early ? Big hugs hun, let us know how you're going, I have everything crossed for you :crossfingers:

Laney, I am so very glad the scan went OK. I can't even imagine how nerve wrecking it is for for all of the time. It must be comforting though to know that the high risk doctor knows how difficult it is for you, and he is there for you. I hope that your bub continues to grow nice and big and strong, I pray for a good outcome for you :pray:

Teagz, at least you've got the green light to TTC, that must be a good feeling. If you don't understand anything on the report hun ask the doc, they'll explain to you in simple terminology. Although, I have a feeling they'll still say 'not sure what went wrong, could be this or that.' :wall:Agrrrrrr.
On a more positive note, how are your symptoms going ????? Are your bb sore ?????
Praying :noaf: for you, fingers and toes crossed for you hun :pray:

Sending all you ladies big hugs today :grouphug:, thinking of you all.

Lots of love
Beata xxx

Good luck Cindee with your little ones arrival. That is great that you are so close to 28 weeks now and that they have time to get the steroids on board. I hope your little girls stay in hospital won't be too long or traumatic for you all x

Laney - GREAT news about your scan results!!! :dance: And wow, what a supportive doctor. Must be hard for the doctors to hear women asking when their babies are going to die, or having to tell someone that sort of news but it sounds like he is the sort of doctor you would want in that situation, unlike some of the others that you hear about!

Teagz - am hoping for no AF for you! Not long now till you know one way or the other and I have my fingers crossed for you.

Better go and have a shower. I just got out of bed...very lazy :redface: I am off to get a wax today, first time in about 3 or 4 months so that will be interesting! I can't even see my bikini line anymore but I know it is a mess so the girl is in for some fun there :lol:

Hugs to all x

Hi girls,

Sorry I have been MIA. I have been lurking and checking on you all.

I am totally buggered today. Decided to take the day off from work. This hot Adelaide weather has gotten to me. I have had enough!!!! thinking of moving to Tassie (only kidding) to get away from it.

We have received our cot and change table and am now just waiting on pram and carseat. Luckily we ordered so far in advance as there is a delay!!!

Lily is kicking away at the moment, though I do have days I don't feel her as much (bloody anterior placenta) which of course I go into panic mode and start to stress.

Started pregnancy aqua classes, which is really good. Meeting lots of girls where I live who are pregnant as well.

I have also booked my maternity leave at work. I had a panic attack yesterday when the advert went out advertising my job. Still scared things are going to go wrong.

Jo - Yippee for a great cervix and I am so glad everything is going well.

Rozzie - Good girl for setting up nursery. It is a big step isnt it??? I must admit, when I got the phone call to say that the cot and change-table was ready, I had a freak out session.

Diana - :crossfingers: for a good IVF cycle. How is everything going and how are you feeling???

Tildy - Glad everything is going so well. How was your weight?? he he he

Teagz - :crossfingers: for NO AF. Glad your appointment with gynocologist went well, but it must be so frustrating to not having any answers.

Lan - Thinking of you, good on you for tempting again. I felt that it gave me some sort of control.

Cindee - I will be thinking of you and hoping all goes well. I will be praying for you and your little one.

Laney - So glad everything is going well - Fingers crossed that the next couple of months goes just as well.

Beata - I know what you mean about the hot weather. I am over it!! So glad your scar is healing well and you are on the road to recover.

Jo76 & Katie - Hope all is well and thinking of you both.

Helen - Yippee for a great scan - I will be thinking of you over the next week.

xxx Sue xxx

Cindee, everything is crossed and am praying for you that all goes well :pray:

Laney, YAY for a great scan :dance: Made me very emotional to think women think they need to ask that question. My heart really goes out to them.

Teagz, glad to hear your gyno said you can safely TTC again, but sorry you still didn't get the answers you were looking for. Good luck testing later this week?

Jo, enjoy your de-hairing session. Bet you will feel so good once it's done :lol: So can you and DH participate in any naughty business or is it still forbidden?

Hi Sue! Have missed you around here. Glad you are doing well and thanks for the good wishes. I am not nervous at all but have a horrible cold atm so feeling down about everything atm. Can't wait to start my injections so I feel I'm actually doing something substantial. All this sniffing at the moment is driving me mad. Enjoy your day off relaxing.

Hi Beata, hope you're doing ok and not going to stir crazy at home.

A big to everyone else x

cindee, fingerscrossed that little bub holds on at least another 2 weeks. I would be nice to make it to at least 30. I'll be thinking of you, let us know how everything goes.

Laney, good news about the scan!! Sounds like your growing a nice big strong bubby in there :)

Beata, I have an appointment with my normal Dr today which is good as we read the results from the gyno last night and I'm able to ask him everything I need to know today. My Gyno pretty much said what you said "We're not sure what happened.. it could have been a number of things". I'm making my peace with it now, there isn't much else I can do.
No sore BB :( I did get a 2 minute rush of "omg I'm going to be sick" yesterday morning, but I'm not sure whether that was from embarrassment as my car had broke down in the middle of a busy petrol station yesterday morning or hormones XD
The spotting I had on monday has stopped now though. So... Only 5 more days!

AngelLukesmum, Good luck with the wax ;) And so you should get a sleep in!! Not lazy at all.. I would if I could. Actually I did this morning and I was terribly late for work... Damn day light savings!

Sue, I feel so sorry for you girls in SA atm! Poor things, I hope it cools down shortly! How exciting about your cot and change table! You can start putting everything together when you start your leave ;)

DD, I sympathise with you! I have a cold atm as well. Almost 2 weeks running now! I had the biggest coughing fit last night, and DF slept through the whole lot!! Good to know he won't be sleep deprived once he returns to work after we have a bub ha!

AFM, I'm wishing my 5 days away til :noaf: Another Dr's appt today. Nothing exciting happening here atm. I've been feeling a little more content lately, although I've become a complete hermet. Other than seeing family I can't be bothered with anyone else.. How horrible am I?

Hi everyone

I know I have been absent for a few days but I don't have much to report and I have been under a lot of stress at work.

I am so over having to deal with staff issues and lazy people who don't even want to be there!!

Just want you all to know I think of you all the time and I have been checking posts but I just haven't had the energy to reply or give you all the time you deserve. I am so sorry.

I will get back on track soon.

Love you all and sending all the best wishes I can muster.

Theresa xxx

Hi all - had to pop by to wish Cindee all the best for next week. I hope all goes well and your wee little bub is delivered happy and healthy. I will be praying for you this week as I am sure it must be nerve wracking.

Laney - so glad the scan went well and that you had a supportive and compassionate doctor. I think your little bub is a fighter so try to stay positive. I will be praying for you as well as I know these coming weeks will be very stressful and emotional. The milestones are so hard. :hug:

Hi to everyone. I hope you are all doing well and good luck with TTC. We need some more BFPs!!! Sending loads of baby dust your way.

Anna is doing really well and has been giggling for a few weeks now. She is very social and loves meeting people and giving everyone big smiles. I have been told on many occasions that she is a big flirt! She truly is a blessing and I am reminded of this daily when she looks at me and smiles.

I've just been counting days from when I had my D&C and my last AF. From the day of my D&C to the first day of my AF is 25 Day's. Today I'm on day 24.
How accurate would the "cycle" after my D&C be, do you think? Should I assume I have a 25 day cycle or just stick to assuming it will be a 28 day cycle? I guess there isn't really anything to say what's what with these things really, is there?
In case you haven't noticed I'm getting rather impatient... I don't know how you girls did it, especially Zacharys Mum, I don't think I saw you complain once about the wait til you got to test!

Hi Girls,

Teagz, how did you go yesterday at the doc's?? Did you find out anything more? How are you symptoms going???? Not long to test now! No AF for this girl!!!

Cindee, thinking of you and praying everything goes well for you and bub :pray:

Theresa, so nice to hear from you hun!!! Sorry things at work are so stressful, but it's the last thing you need! Take it easy hun, hope you're feeling OK otherwise, and the bub is doing nicely...:D

Katie, how exciting it must be to see all the little changes in Anna, she sounds such a happy little girl! Have you posted any new photos of her ?

Laney, you're always in my thoughts and prayers, I am sending you lots of strength and big hugs :hug:.

Diana, when are you injecting hun? I think you said later this week...good luck hun, I know you'll be just fine. Sending you big hugs :hug:

Jo, how did your wax go? Hope it wasn't all that painful, although it's nice to have it done hey??

Sue, lots happening at your end, it must be pretty exciting! (and a little bit scary, no doubt). Those aqua classes sound so good, I planned to do them too, it will have to be next time! Sound like you've got most things now for Lily, look at you go! Very happy and excited for you hun, look after yourself :D

Tildy I'm so sorry hun for getting your dates wrong!!! I thought I'd read that you had 5 weeks to go, but that was obviously till maternity leave, hellooooooo!!! Silly me....how are things with you hun? Are they still looking after you????

Lan sweetie, how are you going ??????

Rozzie, woo hoo for 3 weeks until maternity leave !!! you must be very excited ! Hun, how long was your scar like a swollen bump after your c/s ?? It's been almost 3 weeks since my op, and although my swelling has gone down a bit, it's still there and it still feels a little bit painful there and a little bit numb....It looks like I have two pot bellies now :redface:

BTW, is anyone testing soon ???????? I feel like I've fallen behind a bit.......

Big hello to Dee, Paula, Jo76 & Megan, how are you doing lovely ladies ????

Love & big hugs
Beata xxx

Beata, I love reading your posts! You're always so enthusiastic haha!
And I completely forgot to update on my Dr's appt..
They couldn't really tell me much. There were a lot of "it could have been this's" but nothing definate. So, Officially, it's a mystery.
I felt very optimistic after I had seen my normal Dr yesterday though. He is basically on standby for when I get my next BFP, he's going to book me in straight away from a dating ultrasound and then from there I'll be sent to Perth for all our other ultrasound's as their technology is waaaay better than it is here (considering it's all of 2 hours away.. jeez!) He's picked three Dr's out for us to choose from to do the ultrasounds etc in Perth (one is an Ob, Gyno and Ultra tech all in one which I quite like!) and he's basically made me feel like I'm his only patient, when he probably has 100's.
It all felt very reassuring, like being medically pampered, it's just a pitty it takes something to go wrong to warrent this kind of treatment.

Teagz, very happy with the news that you'll get top notch care. So you should and you deserve it hun!! It's so good when the doc is nice and caring and gives you 100% isn't it?? My OB is like that too, so that's very comforting to me. He said he'll be extra vigillent now that I had a 'major' complication with my pregnancy. Thank goodness, as I reckon I'll be a walking mess....
Any more signs yet??? ie sore bb, fainting, short of breath (dunno if that's a pregnancy symptom, but it sounded good ha ha). You've got me on the edge of my seat!!! :pray: for :noaf: for you sweet!!!

Beata, that's good! It's good there are some good ones out there, I've heard some shockers.
How long will it take for your scar to heel before you can start TTC again?
I have nooo sore BB, or nausea or faintness or anything... But! I have no AF symptons either :dunno: Time will tell! Only 3 more days :)

Teagz, i just lost my whole post!!! grrrrrrrrr. We definitely need another server....I was just saying that i'm keeping my fingers crossed for you in 3 days :crossfingers:....you never know you could be our very next BFP!!!!!!! what are you normal symptoms of AF??? Mine are sore BB for a whole week before it arrives (although i haven't had sore BB since I had Josh, very strange...) and usually a headache for a couple of days before.
My scar is healing OK, still a little tender there and a little 'hump' which i call my second pot belly. I go and see my FS/OB/Gynie (all rolled into one) on 27/2 to have some blood tests done to get the ball rolling for my transfer hopefully in May. He said it takes 3 months for the uterus to heal properly.

I don't really get those kind of symptoms, cramping/headaches usually start on CD3, but usually 2 or 3 days before AF I get some spotting, so needless to say I've been studing my toilet paper rather closely the last few days :redface:.
Also, a bit of a TMI but when I was preg with Jayvan I always had funny colour number 2's which I've had again for the last couple of days. And it sounds dumb, but occassionally I get a pregnant feeling. I'm probably getting my hopes up to only be shot right back down again, but, I can't help but feel optimistic when we DTD on all the right days. So fingers crossed indeed!

May is only 3 months away so not long to go for you now! I'll start sending you some successful implantation vibes. Positive thinking can do wonders, sometimes! :)

I feel like I'm taking over the thread a bit here, girls! :p

Teagz I hope you are pregnant, that day of spotting could very well have been implantation, and don't discount those funny like signs! When you asked about your cycle returning to a 28/9days straight up, I have to say it quite often doesn't. Mine took about 10weeks to return! but the general rule is 4-6weeks, hopefully you are one of the lucky ones and did catch that little egg, not long now! Hi to everyone else I am feeling a little vulnerable this week, it is only 5 days until the gestation of Cooper's birth, I am positive we will be fine this time, but can't shake the paranoia. Bring on 24 weeks, then 28, and I will be a much happier girl.

Hi girls,

Teagz, I think we're both taking over BB, LOL ....I like your positivity, I tend to be more positive than negative as well, and believe me, it helps a lot! Sending you big, big sticky vibes, I hope a little embie is in there cooking!! :pray:

Helen, I can't say I know how you feel, but it must be pretty nerve wrecking, especially as you've lost Cooper about the same gestation you are now (BTW, love the name Cooper!!) BUT, I've no doubt that everything will be just fine, so please try and relax and your bub will relax too. Thinking of you and sending you big hugs hun, you've come a long way, and you've done so well!!! keep going strong!!!!! :D

Well AFM, I rang the IVF clinic today as I had this thought about Joshua's firts photo. I don't know if i told you the story, but when the nurse asked me if I wanted to see the picture of the embryo that was going to be transfered, i said, sure! Well, I looked at it, and you know what words came out of my mouth ??? I am truly ashamed to say it....I said 'it looks kind of ugly'. Well, I can't tell you how I lived to regret these words, and I will for the rest of my life, because that was my little boy, my little miracle. Anyway, I've made peace with myself, and I rang this morning to see if they still had that little embryo picture of Joshua, and they do and they'll send it to me. I am so, so happy, because that's the very first pic of Joshua, and one I will treasure forever.

Hi to all you beautiful ladies, I hope everyone has a great weekend.

Love & big hugs
Beata xxx

Hi my dear friends

Theresa, sorry you have been so stressed lately. I know it's hard but try to relax and take good care of yourself.

Katie, so happy to hear Anna is doing well and she is already turning heads! Very cute.

Teagz, cycles after a D&C can vary greatly so not really sure what your body will do. Not long now until you can test though so try to stay sane. Great to hear you'll get excellent care with your next pg - even though we should get it for every pg not after we suffer a terrible loss. AGGGGGRRR doctors make me so mad :wall:

Beata, funny you say your bb don't hurt anymore before your AF. I am exactly the same! Before losing Sebastian, my bb were so painful for a week before and had all the classic PMS symptoms but now nothing. Very strange isn't it? Wonder why?
Please don't be ashamed or feel guilty for saying that about Joshua's picture as you weren't to know what would eventuate. I am so glad you have made peace with yourself and you are getting a copy of it. I know you will treasure it always and look at him with nothing but beauty in your eyes.

Helen, big :hug: to you. It is not unreasonable to be feeling vulnerable. You will pass this milestone with flying colours I'm sure. Then pass all the others until you deliver a healthy, happy little bundle you can take home.

Afm, clinic just called to say my hormones are suppressed so I can start injecting on Sunday YAY :dance: Can't believe how happy I am to be injecting myself. Oh the things that turn me on these days. Still have to keep sniffing though which is a bumma but no more complaining - I'm getting very close to my BFP (hopefully)

Paula and Lan, you have both been very quiet lately. Hope all is well.

Megan, how are you doing hun? Fertile period coming up soon?

Hello to everyone and hope all is well. Sydney is in for some Melbourne weather this weekend with predictions up to 45 degrees.. yuk. Think I'll put some floaties on and sleep in the ocean.

Diana, hooray for the go ahead to start injecting finally :dance: :leap:!!!! How silly we get excited with needles hey??? LOL. You're right though, it feels like the wheels are finally in motion to that beautiful destination we all want to get to - a beautiful little miracle.
Will be thinking of you on Sunday, you are going so well (well, maybe apart from that nasal spray, yucky....) Big hugs hun and stay cool, I know I went mad with the 44+ last week, yuck!!!!!! And, I couldn't even go for a swim because of my scar....I didn't know if I could...:rolleyes:

hi girls firstly thanks for all your kind wishes last week i actually didn't end up having that bad of a day. I will try and catch up sorry to anyone i miss, you all have been very busy this week.

Teagz- fingers crossed that your symptoms lead to a bfp. Also great to hear about the new kitchen i would love to have a nice kitchen to cook in.

Beata70-Thats wonderful that you are able to get joshua's first picture. I have never asked if they have photo's of the embryo's i will have to this time.

dd0207-so great to hear that you are starting your injections, and does seem silly be so excited about *****ing yourself but i know that i certainly was.

Tildy- Can't wait to see your photo's of your nursery. I never really got to do mine and can't wait untill i can.

Rozzie-I'm also a cross stitch fan and have just picked mine back up that i was doing when i was pregnant with chloe it is a winnie the pooh one which was for the nursery. one day you may be able to start yours again when you feel that the time is right. also very exciting about the bassinet.

Cindee- goodluck with everything:crossfingers: hope you little girl holds on a little longer.

Laney- Congrats on the great scan and great news on an understanding doctor it makes things so much easier.

Sryan- Am thinking of you and the heat. Must be so exciting receiving all that baby stuff good work.

Zachary's mum- Hope things are improving and you are feeling better.

Angellukesmum- LOL about the waxing hope you feel better down their now.

As for everyone else hope you are all doing well

afm we are doing ivf again this month a fet cycle started my drugs today and go for our lining scan on the 17th and the embryo get implanted on the 24th so hopefully everything goes well and this time next month i will ba able to give us all a bfp. on another note i am struggling with dh family they are doing the blame thing and it always tends to end up pointing at me when we told them that we are doing ivf again it was well i hope she can hold her fluid this time and i hope she doesn't start bleeding early on again.WTF. DH is wonderful and is very supportive and stands up for me but i just don't feel like i want to share anything with them anymore anyway thats my gripe for the day.hope you all have a lovely weekend.

Hey girls

YAY Diana for the injecting! Doesn't sound like something you would normally get excited about hey? :lol:

Dee - that sounds terrible about your DH family and their comments. I just have no words for how baffled I am by some peoples attitudes and things that they feel need to be verbalised, even when it is all total CRAP! Good luck with your IVF cycle this month and I know we will all be hoping to see a BFP typed out by you :)

Beata, that is lovely that you will be able to get a copy of Joshua's first photo and I am glad to hear you have made peace with yourself about your words. We all have our regrets and hindsight is a wonderful thing. Good to hear you are recovering well too.

Sue, I hear you on the anterior placenta! I found that at about 26 weeks movements really seemed to slow down so I was thankful for my doppler at that stage. She still has days where she moves really far down so her movements are really muffled (if that makes sense), but then usually the next day she ramps it again.

Helen - things will be fine this time around but I understand the feelings as you come up to the gestation period of losing Cooper. And then just think, every day past that is a day you are ahead for this pg. And before you know it you will be counting in terms of weeks passed the milestone ;)

Teagz - still have everything crossed for you that you get that BFP this month!

I saw my ob today and I passed my GD test with flying colours so yay, I can keep eating those choccies! All my vitamin levels are good (I have no idea how as I really have the most dreadful diet), I have FINALLY put a couple of kgs on, and from today I am a normal pg lady with no more cervix scans needed. I feel good about that but I am going to continue lying low as I don't want to risk things going pear-shaped too early on.
Oh and my wax went well - not that I can really tell! And Diana, unfortunately 'intimacy" is still off the books for now although my ob did say we could go for it in another couple of weeks :redface: I'll see how game we feel as we get further along :lol:

Alright, am off to make chicken nachos. Need to use up leftover BBQ chicken - have never made nachos before but it cant be too hard. Can it??

Keep in the cool this weekend everyone x

Hi Everyone,

Jo, glad that your OB is happy with everything, you must be relieved.

Teagz, I am praying that you do get a BFP :pray: when are you testing?

Dee, I can't even believe that family members would use such thoughtless words! You only hope that they were referring to 'bad things' not happening again and not to you personally. You have every right to be peeved though, I would be! I opt for telling as few people as possible, in fact noone knows we are trying at the moment, I just couldn't stand the constant question asking etc. Good-luck with the IVF treatment I hope it is successful :crossfingers:

Cindee hun, I am thinking of you. I am really praying that bubs is a strong fighter and comes out when she is ready to face the world :pray:

Diana, I am so pleased for you that you can finally start the injecting, that's great news! Forgive me as I'm fairly niave when it comes to IVF, is the next step after that harvesting the eggs? what would be the approx timeframe to a transfer? Gosh, IVF is so amazing isn't it. I really pray that everything goes smoothly for you from here on in.

Beata, I hope you are healing well. Glad you are getting that photo of Joshua as an embryo, how amazing is that! It's good that you have come to terms with what you first said. I am sure you were viewing it from a very 'scientific' point of view. Once emotions come into things it is very different, and that usually comes later. After going through such a terrible loss though I am sure it will be different for you next time.

Paula, how are you going you little preggy mummy! I am so jealous and bum'ed that we both didn't get BFP's together :doh:

Theresa, don't let work stress you out too much, easy to say I know. If people don't want to put in effort at work, they will eventually pay for it, particularly in this market. I hope you are feeling well. Are you getting close to the end of your first trimester yet?

AFM, I have been O/S this week, so glad to be home as yes (I think Beata you asked), I'm in the ferlile zone. Very excited that this time of the month has come around. I'm really praying that this is our month and our little one is ready to join us! :pray:

Hello to everyone else, Lan, Tildy, Laney, Helen, Sue, Katie, Rozzie, Jo. Hope I haven't missed anyone.

Hello lovely ladies

Teagz - hanks for the compliment. I guess I managed because I tried as best I could not to think about it. I was sweating on the inside though!!! I also didn't think it would happen as soon as it did so I am very lucky. I also know what you mean about the extra special treatment! It feels so wrong in so many ways that I am getting extra care this time around. I can't understand why it takes a tragedy to get some good care?!?!? I am sending you loads of :noaf: vibes.

beata - I am okay. Still had a stressful week and I have this horrid cold but I am having the weekend off and I am taking Monday off too. It is an important day for us as we are going for our scan. How are you feeling? Everything recovering well? The photo of Joshua will be so special - I can't stop smiling on your behalf.

Diana - Thanks - I am okay. Looking forward to not having tyo think about work for 3 whole days!!!!! Good luck with your injections :hooray: - I am a pro having been diabetic for the last 31 years!!!!! If you need any tips, give me a shout :D

Dee - Good luck hun. I will be thinking of you and sending you lots of :bluedust::pink-babydust:

Berry1 - I am 8 weeks today!!! It still feels so surreal. :goodluck: I am praying this is your month too!!!!!

AFM - Can't wait for Monday when we finally get to see our little lamb. It is the first scan that makes it all so real. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and look after yourselves!!!

Love ya all xxxxx

Hello All,

Was wondering if I could get your views on exercise when TTC and early pg. I really need to get into shape at the moment and am carry a few extra kg's, but am concerned about doing any cardio harder than a power walk while ttc incase I 'cause a miscarriage' does anyone know anything about the facts / risks around this?

Also, I have found that my body, particuarly my stomach area hasn't returned back to normal after losing my angel. My stomach feels 'bigger' but quite firm, not 'soft' as you would expect when carrying more weight there. Has anyone else had this? Does it take a while to go back into shape? It has been 3-months for me now and I didn't put on any additional weight while pg, but it seems to have crept on & my body a very diff shape. Would be interested to know what everyone else experienced in this regard.

There is no way I would risk losing another baby for exercise, but I also think its good to be as fit as possible while being pg. Just wondering what I can and can't do.

Theresa, I can see your ticker now, almost 9-wks, how lovely. All the best for your scan, I hope everything is looking good, v. exciting!

Thanks Lovely Ladies
Megan