Congratulations Berry! What fantastic news, I am thrilled for you take care on your holiday - try to relax!
Thank you Bec for your welcome - it means alot. Taking the positives is the only way I can deal with this at the moment. My biggest thing that I have learnt is that DH & I feel as though we can do ANYTHING now.... My goodness I thought we were strong and in love before - it feels as though our love has deepened 100%. Gosh that sounds corny when you read it back! Hopefully you know what Im getting at!!
AFM - I have ovulated so AF shouldnt be far away.... if we havent caught the eggie
Hi to everyone - my thoughts are all with you for some July BFP's!!!
Berry- Congratulations!! Wishing you a H & H 9 months!!
Bec- I'm sorry about your friends daughter, it must be so hard for you. I'm sure everything you did for them will help.
Aries- That dosn't sound corny at all, my DH and I feel the same way. It's great you can pull together at a time like this.
AFM- Well I have been floating around keeping an eye on everyone. I just didn't feel right being on this thred when we wern't ttc, anyway it finally feels right to start now. I'm so excited but i feel a bit sad, really scared and a little guilty, it might sound strange but i somethimes feel that trying again i'm going to replace Riley, but i know in my heart that's silly. I could never replace him. Did anyone else feel the same??
Anyway i better stop rambling..
My love to all and lots and lots of to everyone
Last edited by Samcougar; July 4th, 2009 at 04:56 PM.
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On feeling guilty, I haven't felt guilty as such about replacing Luca but I've felt guilty about having the wrong feelings towards our future baby. Sometimes I catch myself thinking of our as-yet-to-be-conceived baby as 'he'. I never would have done that with our first two, so I worry that part of me still thinks I can get Luca again.
I know you could never never replace Riley and you will always want all your babies, no matter how many more you have.
A grief counsellor I saw said to me: you gave a piece of your heart to your first child, you gave some to Luca. You will give some to another child but it will be a new piece. It doesn't mean that you have to give them part of the piece you gave to Luca. He will still have that part.
I agree, us mums have plenty of love to go around. Enough for all our children.
I am back from my little holiday, which was lovely the highlight being our wonderful news of course! Thank you to all of your for your support and very kind words. It's so nice to be apart of such a supportive group. We aren't telling anyone until 12-weeks and after the NT scan to ensure everything is alright this time (feeling nervous already), so its great to share this news with you ladies.
I have tried to do a little catch-up.
Bec, I have a Maybe Baby and I found it helpful although I have heard a lot of people do find them difficult like Beata did. If you don't use it precisely then you won't get an accurate result, but when I did use correctly (this also means getting the right amount of saliva on the glass which can be trickier than it sounds), then it can be helpful. I used it alongside doing temps and just didn't stop BDing until I got a clear temp rise & the ferns turned back to dots. I must say that I found temping to be more helpful than anything else. Also, I never got much EWCM either, but after going to the accupuncturist just once it increased significantly. I can't reccommend accupuncture enough to be honest.
Hi Samcougar, welcome back. Good for you for deciding to start ttc, though I can understand all the different emotions you are going through. I think Bec put it quite nicely actually, Riley will always have a special piece of your heart, luckily mums have a big enough heart and plenty of love to go around. All the best hun for a quick BFP.
Aries, I hope that the eggie has been caught and AF stays away for you
Beata, I think your the only one in this thread now (excluding those that drop in to say hi, Teagz ) that has been here since I joined. You have been such an incredible support to me and many of the girls in here. I am praying like crazy that your transfer is successful and you get a lovely BFP this month
Teagz, thanks for popping in and sending your congrat's. You were right when you said that there can still be a chance even when I though AF was on the way and yes I nearly fell in the toliet
AFM, still on a high, getting m/s on and off all day, but cannot complain one little bit. I would love to stay in here and support you all if that is ok, I have grown quite fond of you all
Where has the weekend gone???!!! I swear, as I get older, the time just disappears right in front of my eyes....
Bec, I'm really sorry to hear of your friend daughter's baby. Whenever I hear of another baby/child passing away, it just breaks my heart. What a wonderful person you are for giving some advice to your friend to pass on about SANDS and Sids and Kids and collecting little momentos, these things have helped me enormously with my own loss.
Aries, GL hun in your 2WW, I really pray you get your much wanted BFP
Hi Samcougar, welcome back hun! It's been a while! I'm really excited that you're TTC ATM, I hope your wait isn't too long. On the topic of feeling guilty TTC another baby and feeling like you're trying to replace the one you've lost, I've felt exactly that in the begining and I still do sometimes. I still often wonder if I got pg with another boy, how I would feel about him and Joshua. Some days, I wonder if I would look at my litlte boy and wonder if Joshua would have looked the same after he was born at full term, and when the new baby is 1, 2, 3 or how ever old, if Joshua would have looked the same. I suppose I will never know, but I feel so cheated sometimes b/c Joshua should be here. He never had the chance at life outside. But I often catch myself thinking about my 'unborn' baby as 'him', how strange. I guess I don't think about possibly having a girl, my mind is still wrapped around a little boy. I know I will love a little girI just as much, but I think secretely I would like another chance of a little boy. Do I sound weird??
Megan, I guess I am the last one not counting Lan (where are you????). Perhaps she has got her BFP and it really is just me!!! Oh my goodness, so much pressure!!! haha.
Thank you so much for your encouragement hun and your prayers, they mean the world to me . Hopefully I will have some exciting news for you soon!
I am praying you have a nice sticky bubs in there and your 12 week scan is all good!
And we'd love for you to stick around and support us hun, you have been an absolute inspiration to us all here
Well, AFM, I will be testing from tomorrow for my surge and off for my bloods probably end of next week. Not long to go now, I am praying with all my might my little embie is a strong, resilient little fighter and thaws out well
Baby dust and sticky vibes to Bec, Samcougar & Aries (no Megan now!! woo hoo!!!!).
Big hi to everyone else, and thanks heaps again for your lovely thoughts, wishes & prayers.
I know this will be a tough journey and i look at you strong, brave and beautiful women who have been through so much and i know i'm in the right place with the right support and i feel at ease. You are all inspirational people and you all deserve medals! Thankyou all so much.
Detected my LH surge this morning, which I'm totally confused about as I was only supposed to start testing from tomorrow (CD12). Glad I tested early as ovulation is hapenning early this month (as opposed to last month when I O'd on day 16/17). So off for my BT tomorrow morning and hopefully transfer might be end of this week. Wish me luck girls
take care on your holiday - try to relax!
to everyone
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