TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth 2010

[Tanya]

If you have found yourself in this forum you no doubt have had a painful journey. TTC after recurrent miscarriage/stillbirth or Late Loss takes special courage and support. The aim of this forum is to provide a place where women who have endured loss can share their stories, friendships, treatments and triumphs!

My greatest wish is that you all leave this forum with nice big fat positives in the shortest possible time!!!

I hope so much that this month is YOUR month.

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You will find the previous thread HERE

[CharlieB]

Glad to see there's been enough chit chat to warrent a new thread!

Dory - Saying I bled for an hour was probably a wierd way to descirbe it! , but I noticed light fresh bleeding when I went to the toilet (sorry, TMI), and an hour later nothing! And nothing since.

Anybody know an AF dance?

SusieQ
- I am so so sorry about your daughter, It sounds like you have done it tough, having to have transfusions on top of dealing with your loss. I lost my little boy 4 weeks ago. To be honest my OB didn't say exactly how long to wait, just suggested we wait until all the post mortem and testing came back before we decided, by then we should have had at least one AF. And I bled for around 20 days after the birth, about 2 weeks of bleeding then another 5-6 days of spotting. I then had a week or so of no bleeding at all, now have had a small bleed again. I am hoping it's AF on her way.
Take care xx

cmeglles - I did do a HPT when I had the bit of bleeding again, is negative which is a good thing I hope.

blessed - wow, lots going on with you. I wish you luck with the study and the exams. Moving house is always painful but hopefully its worth it when you settle in.

Take care everyone
xxxxx

[crumpet]

Anybody know an AF dance?

lol nah i dont wish i did though!!!

[dory]

Crumpet, Charli B - I think you girls can just wing it with the AF dance. Maybe you could create a different dance for O too? How about kind of like a Hokey Pokey? I could construct some words, but they are likely to be a bit risque! OR at least the first ones I thought of were. I have made a decision - more on that below. Oh Crumpet, thanks for your kind words. That is a really nice thing to say, and today, I needed to hear it.

Blessed - good to hear that things are on track enough not to be actively trying to prevent a BFP! Hey, do you want someone to review your essay? I am only too happy to have a squiz, give me something contstructive to do. If you wnat you could PM me and I will give you my email. No worries if not, I won't be offended. Hope AF and your luteal phase sort themselves out How can you sort your luteal phase out?

Gigi and Cmeglles - welcome to the new thread. I ended up being able to get a copy of that book by Darci Klient called To Full Term. Started reading it today. Makes me more satisfied with the care I have received. I ended up getting a copy on Amazon really cheap, new. I also managed to find on ebay of all places a copy of the other book that I have been hunting for that it out of print - When the Dream is Shattered; by Judith Murray. It is second hand. Will be interesting to see if it actually turns up. I have been searching for it for ages. Something came up, possibly on Amazon USA, where it could be imported from AUS ( go figure) for $170!!!! I have had it on order from a few stores that said they could access it, but then they replied saying it was out of stock. Anyway, I hope it comes through. My first ebay purchase! Thinking of you.

AFM - well, I have decided to have the cerclage and go in Thurs 25th March. It was a really tough decision to make, as you all know from my tortured posts, but I am really comfortable with the decision I have made. It doesn't mean I am not just a wee bit anxious about the risks involved, but if things don't go to plan, I am am reasonably confident that I won't tie myself up in knots with self recriminations and guilt. I might for a little while, but not long term. I just really feel it is the right decision for me. Filled out the hospital admissions forms and spoke to the ob today.

It's odd though, despite feeling really comfortable with the decision, today I am feeling really sad and lonely.... I suppose just feeling a wee bit sorry for myself. I am teary and flat and just want to shut myself away from the world. Probably precipitated by some different feelings in my lower abdoment this morning which turned out to be wind but had me on the verge of calling the doctor after only the first different feeling which was fleeting. The feelings were distinctly different from the feelings I have had associated with pre term labour, but still enough to put me on edge and burst that lttle bubble of invincibility I somehow manage to build. Oh well its to be expected, just have to get through it. Interesting though is I found myself not really wanted to come to BB today and not share my feelings and just turn in on myself. Not like me at all. At least the cats are keeping me company!

If I ever didn't know it before, I do today, I am an emotional eater. I just feel like getting all the naughties I can and just eating them. Pure decadence and indulgence. I haven't though

[crumpet]

AFM - well, I have decided to have the cerclage and go in Thurs 25th March. It was a really tough decision to make, as you all know from my tortured posts, but I am really comfortable with the decision I have made. It doesn't mean I am not just a wee bit anxious about the risks involved, but if things don't go to plan, I am am reasonably confident that I won't tie myself up in knots with self recriminations and guilt. I might for a little while, but not long term. I just really feel it is the right decision for me. Filled out the hospital admissions forms and spoke to the ob today.

It's odd though, despite feeling really comfortable with the decision, today I am feeling really sad and lonely....

oh hun good luck, im sure it will all go well!!! and you know what... you are doing everything you can to give u and ur gorgeous bub the best possible chance!
its very natural to be anxious but the risks, god i know when i go in for mine ill be exactly the same!!!

hun just take some time for urself, and do what u need to do today....

AFM:
well heres a bit of TMI for u all!!!!
PMSL!!! bet u were hoping to get a day off from all that!!!

so shan and i go for sexy time last night and well it was a bit uncomfy....
dont get me wrong it has been a bit uncomfy since i had gus, like me muscles are weak uncomf...y..... but last night was different, it was like he couldnt get it in coz my insides were soooo tight!!!! **** it was strange as!!! consdidering i have felt like the grand canyon for the last 8 weeks!!! LMAO!!!

so then i said to shan after man that was weird and he pulls out " well what do u expect ur knocked up" i got "WTF?!?! where did u get that from?" and he rekons im grumpy like i was last time, im tired more often now and i like chocloate now like i did with Gus, and he rekons my insides were like this when i was preg with Gus.....so now im a nit like. hmmmmm maybe he is right!!! i guess time will tell!!!

any ideas girls?

[dory]

Crumpet - Blimey! Go take a test? Finger crossed.

[CharlieB]

AFM:
well heres a bit of TMI for u all!!!!
PMSL!!! bet u were hoping to get a day off from all that!!!

so shan and i go for sexy time last night and well it was a bit uncomfy....
dont get me wrong it has been a bit uncomfy since i had gus, like me muscles are weak uncomf...y..... but last night was different, it was like he couldnt get it in coz my insides were soooo tight!!!! **** it was strange as!!! consdidering i have felt like the grand canyon for the last 8 weeks!!! LMAO!!!

so then i said to shan after man that was weird and he pulls out " well what do u expect ur knocked up" i got "WTF?!?! where did u get that from?" and he rekons im grumpy like i was last time, im tired more often now and i like chocloate now like i did with Gus, and he rekons my insides were like this when i was preg with Gus.....so now im a nit like. hmmmmm maybe he is right!!! i guess time will tell!!!

any ideas girls?

How Exciting!!!!! I have no ideas I'm sorry but I really hope he is right!!

Dory I'm glad you have made a decision, and I'm glad you are feeling comfortable with it. Hope your cats take extra special care of you today