TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth Sept 2009

[blessedatlast]

OMG!!! I might be off the TTC bandwagon for another 18 or so months..

Reason is this: I have just been advised that from the Aged Care course I am doing we can get direct entry to doing Endorsed Enrolled Nursing, which would mean I wouldn't have to apply through QTAC and sit STAT tests etc..

Which is great news, but the condition is I would have to start next semester.. I don't have long to think about it and it is such a big decision.. The course is like $6000 so it means if I got pregnant or if I didn't like it, it would be a lot of money to waste.. So if I choose to go for it Baby plans definitely have to be put on hold..

I have no clue what the right thing is to do.. Maybe thats why AF came this month?? I am seeing a psychic on Sunday, I am not heavily into them, but it would be interesting to see what she says.. Decision time.. I just don't want to make the wrong one.. Another 18months of full time study and I would have to work as well.. I don't think I can expect DP to support me for another 18months.. (I would feel different if we had kids) Anyway, I am rambling and I have mixed feelings.. I think I have to go for it though.. If I don't I may never get into nursing.. This is scary!!! If you got through all this reading you are great!! I tried to paragraph it to make it easier to read

[Chez67]

Hi everyone

Blessedatlast - what an exciting time for you with a great opportunity to do nursing, which I am assuming you have been interested in for a while? Try not to let TTC take over your life. You have to try look at things outside of TTC, otherwise you will likely go mad. Good luck with whatever decision you have made.

ButterflyForever - I hope AF hasn't arrived for you. Have you worked up the courage to POAS yet? Sending you lots of And don't stress about age. I have friends who have had babies into their early 40s. One tried IVF several times and fell pg naturally at 44.

AFM, had another very busy week with travel as well. I was so tired I went to bed at 8pm on Friday night and didn't wake up until 11am Saturday morning. Wow - I was tired! Spent the day on the couch watching DVDs and generally being a couch potato. So today I have washing and ironing to do, and a job app as well :-(

Another week until AF arrives or I POAS again. I saw a friend last weekend who is not really a psychic but is sensitive to other people IYKWIM. Anyway, she says that I should feel honoured that Ryan came into our lives and left so quickly, and that some spirits do not have a long 'contract' of life and that we were chosen because we were strong enough to deal with the loss of him leaving. She believes that we will be pg again within 6 months because I still need time to heal, and that that pg will be our baby that we hold in our arms. I really hope she is right.

Anyway, time for some more washing. to all.

oxo

[ButterflyForever]

hi all

Blessed - what a great opportunity, think long and hard about what you want to do.

Chez - hope this is your month.

afm - af arrived, so on cd3 now, going to try EPO this month.

take care all,

[~MummaBear~]

Hi Guys

i am not TTC just yet, but i am trying to find out some things and i figure this would be the best place to ask..
I lost my baby girl 2 weeks ago at 18 weeks and my Dr has not even seen me or spoke to me since.. i want to know when it is physicaly healthy to TTC.. i dont even know when it would be alright to...well do "it" lol

if anyone has some answers it would be great!

[helle]

I was just thinking it had been very quiet in here lately... but, the thread has just gotten away from me
Still stalking you girlies - even though most of you are new since I was around i still love the high of seeing someones BFP- but I hope you don't mind still

Chez, the discription your friend gave to you gave me goosebumps. I hope she is right, too.

Aries, a plan is the first step towards some action! So it's FANTASTIC you have a plan now. I don't know much/anything about the FS stuff but I hope that everything sails through smoothly and all your tests come back looking good & your treatment can start soon.

Mummyof4 Usually you should be right to DTD about 2 weeks after the birth of your little angel, and most Dr's tell you to wait til after your cycle returns to normal or after your first AF before you start to actively TTC - but rumour has it that that's only for dating purposes. I think the general rule of thumb, and I have seen lots of other people say this, is that your body won't allow itself to fall pregnant again until it's ready - and I'm sure alot of the girls will agree and I know my body did this to me too which can send you batty, but it does have a mind and plans of it's own- unfortunately.

to Sam, Blessed & Butterfly and of course Mummabec & Beata

[Berry1]

Hi Mummyof4,

You have come to the right place. I am very sorry for your loss My OB advised to wait until AF came back, but as Teagz said, this is mainly for dating purposes. I was also told to wait until the bleeding stopped, which for me took about 3-weeks, I had spotting (sometime relatively heavy) for up to 5-weeks. I am surprised that your Dr has not spoken to you since, did he/she suggest you come in for a check-up at some point? My OB wanted to see me 6-weeks after, no internal check, just asked questions & answered mine.

Hope you are doing ok, its such a traumatic thing to go through. You will find amazing support on this thread. I hope your TTC journey is a very short one when you decide to try again. Take care.


Jasmine Serenity (19wks) - forever loved

[Chez67]

Hi

Mummyof4 - Welcome to our little support group. I am sad to hear of your loss. We lost our little boy at 18 wks as well. That was 7 months ago now and I can honestly say it has taken me this long to get to a point where I am no longer feeling guilty and can selflessly smile, laugh and generally be happy.

As for TTC again, unfortunately I bled for 5 weeks after the birth and had to have a D&C as well. It has taken a while for my cycle to return and even now it is not its usual 27 or 28 days. To complicate things I have iron deficient anemia which I have never had before and is probably because of the blood loss after the birth. But we have been TTC since about May. It really took me that long to be in the right head space to be able to. Somehow it jusn't didn't feel right and I wasn't really in the mood for romancing IYKWIM.

I think what Teagz says is right, that the regular cycle is really only for the Dr's benefit to make dating easier. But my TCM reckons that's daft because they can work out the age from an u/s anyway.

to Aries, Blessedatlast, Samcougar, Teagz, Beata, Megan, Bec and everyone else.

AFM, we're off to Perth for a wedding on the weekend so I'll be off BB until next week. Am so looking forward to going to the in-laws as they really look after us. The weather will be a bit warmer than here too which will be nice!

Take care everybody, and to everybody.

oxo

[helle]

AFM, we're off to Perth for a wedding on the weekend so I'll be off BB until next week. Am so looking forward to going to the in-laws as they really look after us. The weather will be a bit warmer than here too which will be nice!

Take care everybody, and to everybody.

oxo

You're on your way to my area! (sorta! Only 2 and a bit hours... well 1 and a half since the put the new highway in apparently) Good weekend to pick too, it's meant to be around 32ish degree's all weekend - hope it's not too much of a shock weatherwise