I went to the natropath yesterday and she put me on multi vitamins, fish oil, iron tabs, fibre all from health shop, as well as the formula she gave me. I asked her what was in the formula and she said she could give me a print out but I am getting it e mailed to me instead.. It cost me a fortune, and I was thinking it's a lot of money to spend if it doesn't work, but hey if it doesn't work at least I will be healthier! (Plus I figure it's cheaper than fertilty specialists/IVF and they aren't guaranteed to work either!)
She didn't cut anything out of my diet just yet, but I have to keep a food diary for 10 days. Mainly because she wants me to eat regularly, as when I am not at TAFE, I can get a bit slack and not eat properly. She advised me to see a counsellor, as she thinks I may have emotions and issues from my past blocking some energy. I am not going to though, because in all honesty, I am comfortable with where I am. I have seen many counsellors over the years and have never really found anyone helpful.. Apart from that I just have to keep temping and I see her again in 4 weeks.. I really hope this works
So sorry to hear you lost your little one. If you would like to share your story there is a thread for that too. (Although I realise you may not be ready for that yet) Welcome to our thread, you have found a great place to come to for support when you need it. We are a great group of ladies Good luck in your TTC journey, I hope it's a short one.. Take care and I hope to see you around
Bubo, I'm very sorry for your loss hun . Unfortunatelly, we have all experienced it here is this thread, but the ladies here are amazing and the support is fantastic. I've no doubt you are still grieving for your little one, so reach out and seek the help and support from others if you can. I lost my little boy at 21 weeks in Oct 08, and I found the support of SANDS and SIDS very valuable. I also saw a psychologist for a long time which has helped me enormously on the road to TTC my next bub.
Big hugs again and I know you'll fing lots of support here.
Blessedatlast, so good to hear you're seeing the naturopath. I hope it all works for you hun!
Cmeglles, Gigi, Dory, Cheryl and anyone else I might have missed, big hello and Happy Valentine's Day everybody!
Right...I have some serious catching up to do...and a busy day at home, so I will do my best.
Blessedatlast- Hun IKWYM re the Support group convo. It is delicate. That is great that you are regular...you are an incredible woman to handle AF every 14 days. I think i would be beside myself. I am wondering if you have tried Chinese Herbs, that might be useful. You have most likely been there. I know they helped me toned down my AF, a bit of fine tuning.
Re the counseling, you know what you need hun. You sound very grounded and you have and are dealing with it all tremendously in my opinion. I understand what she is getting at...from her point of view, however a lot of the time advice is coming from people that have not had this loss or experience with this grief and their opinions of life and handling it can be a little distorted. Once you have crossed over the line to experience this, you realise just how common it is. Even when you do live through this...it is never the same for everyone. You are happy with where you are and thats what is important....and I think you are doing a fab job!...my two cents worth! LOL- like i ever keep my mouth shut. I hope this doesn't offend. Made me chuckle reading your husbands thoughts...'Group of women getting together to upset each other' So funny. I feel like others stories of pain validate mine...sort of IYKWIM. YEs everyone is so different. As logn as we find our own journey and support, we can learn and care for each other.
Good luck with the studies hun, I really admire you. Thinking of studying something again soon....see how i go. I want to do something for enjoyment...family is intent on making htat a new career and income...bless their little hearts!!!
Bubo-, Sweety I am so very sorry for your need of this thread. Welcome with a heavy heart hun. It is a devastating experience to lose your child. I hope each day is a little easier to live with your loss and I hope you have the strength to take care of yourself. One of the best pieces of advice ever given to me was to be gentle to myself. I hope you find comfort here with these lovely ladies. I hope it is not long before you are announcing the BFP for your second much loved baby.
Beata-Hey hun, how is the lurking going and hope you are feeling well. I have to agree with the OPK...takes some guess work out if you are not regular and certainly less of an issue than temps...same time everyday as soon as you wake. When you are not in practice...you keep forgetting, well i do. And they make me feel like i am doing something...and not just waiting around. Can you tell i like to have my hands busy. Hope you are well hun.
Cmegles- Hope your crazy work commitments have calmed down enough hun, That was sounding full on. I am so sorry AF turned up. It was pure love that got you through a busy month and still managing to dtd at the right time. I hope this month is different for you babe. Enjoy the wine and coffee and all other naughty things. Oh and how did the baby visit go? I found for me, it was doable but too soon when i was in a similar position. I hope you were ok.
Dory- Well i have to leave the donuts until next time. I just couldn't get there for when they were open. We had a lovely time anyway...although came back to 2 speeding fines...my very FIRST ticket at 33yrs of age. 2 mins after the each other. I was gutted. Never mind. It was an honest mistake...not being naughty on purpose. Did a uturn and went back through the same camera not realising it was a 60km zone in the middle of 100km...all i can say is that god i slowed down the do a uturn....now back to YOU hun..LOL I am so glad that the scare could be explained a little and bub is still doing fine. It must have frightened you both. Of course your DH must have been so scared. I send you both love and wishes hun that you don't have to find yourself in the same boat again. I hope this is the end of scarey moments and the rest of the journey is blissful...just to shock the pants off you. You are so very lucky to have such a wonderful OB...he/she is not in Brisbane is he/she? I hope that continues.
I also hope you can find a spot for yourself at work. It would be good to keep that stability so i hope they can fit you in somewhere. Lucky thing with the housekeeper though...how cool.
Hun, Sands and support groups are not for everyone hey. You did well to give it a go. I guess it is just like you say on forums...takes a while to find what fits I agree BB is most positive and loving for sure. I hope you found support and love in other ways.
Chez- Hey hun, I have been thinking of you lately and know that your TWW is ending around this time. I hope you have good news hun and you are sitting on it for a while. I can't wait to hear how you are doing. Either way i can definitely recommend dark choc kitkat for comfort or celebration. It rocks.. I do get headaches at different times of month...but not every month anymore so hopefully that is a good sign of balance in my hormones. I do have some estrogen issues. I hope you are doing ok hun and a papsmear cancellation is on the cards.
Samcouger- Hope you are doing ok and enjoying the down time hun. Thinking of you.
Aries-Thinking of you and hope life is giving you some respite in between the moving and work.
Dimples- How are you feeling? Are you still getting pelvic discomfort? Been thinking of you lately as i am getting my head around writing to the Midwives that helped us through birthing DD as we are coming up to her 1st birthday. I hope you have found peace with it all.
AFM- Well i got through the catch ups....pure miracle. That was a big one. I have to go and clean the house now as i have a friend coming over for a Valentines something...have to work that out too. CD 11 and find myself thinking too much this month. Having doubt and second thoughts big time. A bit of cold feet i think. I am tired of failing every month. A bit of self preservation really. A bit sad today...mainly self pity i think. I will get there.
Been looking after my nephew lately and he is just beautiful to be around.
Had a haircut this week which was lovely. Pulled an allnigher one night which was also needed. My head had to catch up with a few things. Done some more sorting out of the garage which is cleansing. I am rambling...a bit hard to talk about myself at the moment so i will leave it there.
Anyway...better go and find some inspiration for a tortellini filling.
Best of luck this month ladies. Lets take 2010 by storm. xxxx
First, I am truly humbled that I have been nominated for RAK. Thankyou to the sneaky squirrels who nominated me, it is an honour.
Bubo- sorry for the loss of your precious little one. It's so unfair and so heartbreaking. How are you doing? Were you able to give your angel a name? Go gently, and don't be afraid to put yourself first. This is a really tough journey. I know about feeling daunted, I was too. It took me ages to actually post about my experiences, and even when I just started to reply to other posts, I was nervous. I suppose its like when you go into a new group its always a little nervous a first. And on top of that you are grieving. So that you even took the step to write something, is something you should be proud of.
cmegelles - how's that blizzard going? I hope that your visit with your friend wasn't too hard. I thought I would cry too when I met the baby of my GF who was due a month before me. I didn't, but rather was actually surprised myself by being really happy to meet her baby boy, and I even held him for two hours, and now I feel like I have a special bond with him. Of course I felt sad when I left to be leaving alone. I was surprised to find that being told of his birth was much harder than I expected it to be, but meeting him, not as tough as I expected. I just hope you managed and were not too hurt. You would be a little hurt, it is after all, really sad. Enjoy the naughties. Of all the things to want, I want the naughties - coffee, red wine, soft serve ice cream. Luckily I am tough and will not cave, but enjoy your treaties, because with luck you won't be able to enjoy them next cycle! How did your presentation go? Sounds very impressive, I bet you would have been great.
gigi1 - oh bugger about the doughnuts. Glad you found them. Next time? Bugger about the speeding tickets. Oh well, you know in your heart that you don't speed very often, and its just a bugger. Hopefully not too expensive. What sort of tortelli fillings do you normally use? I haven't made tortellini yet, but have made ravs. I need some more pratice though! I love making pasta, something quite peaceful about it. I love eating pasta. Hope yours are delectable.
Beata - good to hear from you. Guess what? It's fat tuesday this week. Enjoy. I got in early today and had "wholemeal" pancakes. Yum, and trying to boost that fibre intake.
Blessedatlast - You can conquer TAFE, even if it appears hard. You can do it! You also know whether you are up for counselling or not. Thanks for telling me about how you felt after your first SANDS meeting. The group support meeting just don't seem to be for me, but individual counselling is. I actually feel really lucky to have found such a good counsellor, because I had been to two before and not felt any real or useful connection. I just felt so safe with my counsellor, and after every session an amazing sense of validation of me as a mother and as a person and of my grief and a beautiful sense of peace.
AFM - well no more scares! But I had a reality check this week. I have not been sleeping very well - waking between 1-2 and not being able to get to sleep again until between 4-6. I was going to work and a couple of days had to be away from the office all day. I was just exhausted. Even though I had been seriously contemplating giving up work, I had expected last week to be a bit of a breeze. Well it wasn't. On Thursday I made the decision to stop work and my last day is tomorrow. It's exciting, but I am nervous. It sounds weird, but if things go well, I won't be back to work for 2 1/2 years! It's also weird because I have never had a planned exit from work for pg related reasons, usually I have left work on Friday with all well, and then been in hospital the Sunday and not at work the Monday and not for a couple of months after that either. It's weird too, when I have been working all of my adult life, and to suddenly stop. But it's the right decision, so much so i actually didn't have insomnia last night. First time since I can't remember when. So I guess I will be posting more regularly, searching for companionship. I have to take it easy, but not strict bed rest.
Oh my ob is a man and is in Brisbane.. Gentle soul that he is. That he is my ob is serendipitous. I had been seeing another gyn/ob but he stopped ob, so I had to hunt for someone else. I didn't really do too much research or caling around. I called a GF who'd just had a bub and used her ob. Even though another closer GF of mine had also just had a bub. Didn't get a sense about her ob ( although he is very popular). She got the recommendation from her SIL. My GF didn't really say too much about her ob during her pg or after, but I just got a sense about him and I am so glad, the dear man just seems to have the right demeanour for me. Guess you can tell from my posts about connections, it is very important for me to have a sense of connection with people. I suppose what strikes me the most is just how understanding of m/c he is, and how sensitive to his patients feelings he is. And it's a complete package - his staff are the same, they have never mistepped and put their fot in it, and have always know about my m/c and genuinely ask how I am. I read in another forum when I was searching for comments, that someone thought his reception staff were a bit gruff and unfriendly. Guess I have never found that. I suppose though I have had the chance to get to know them over the past 20 months or so. So to repeat myself, I honestly feel so blessed to have found an ob that suits me. I probably have a good old case of hero worship?
Good luck in your TTC journey, I hope it's a short one.. Take care and I hope to see you around 
. Unfortunatelly, we have all experienced it here is this thread, but the ladies here are amazing and the support is fantastic. I've no doubt you are still grieving for your little one, so reach out and seek the help and support from others if you can. I lost my little boy at 21 weeks in Oct 08, and I found the support of SANDS and SIDS very valuable. I also saw a psychologist for a long time which has helped me enormously on the road to TTC my next bub.
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