TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth Sept 2009

[Miss.B]

OMG, so sorry ladies, I don't know what happened but I posted with my signature attached, I didn't mean to! Stupid computer!

I'll just keep on going in case I lose this post...

Dory, sorry my post to you got cut off! I hope your're travelling well and you're keeping yourself sane. Look after yourself and take it easy hun.

Blessedatlast, I don't like the 'two line' OKP's, I much prefer the digital ones although they are a lot more expensive. You can get a much cheaper one at Priceline. At least with the digital one, you either get an empty circle indicating on ovulation or the happy face telling you it's going to happed within 24 hours I think. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for AF staying away hun

Cheryl, Cmeglles, praying this month is successful for you ladies

Gigi, I'm so sorry hun, it must be so bittersweet to remember the day when you heard your DD's heart beat and then being told of the devastating news. Big hugs hun, thinking of you. I hope you're feeling better too hun, and I'm so sorry about those speeding fines. Ouch!

If I have forgotten someone I'm sorry, will try to catch up with everyone soon.

Big hugs and lots of and for all my beautiful friends in here.

B xxx

[Gigi1]

Beata,
Hun, thank you for you lovely thoughts.

I am so sorry you have to face this with your Pooky. I feel the same way about animals although we have dogs...they are members of the family, and they think they are human because often we treat them that way. Heaven forbid they find out they are dogs. It would break my heart too to face that decision. I hope you get to spend lots of precious time with her before her time. I hope she is spoilt rotten with all your love. Be gentle and kind to yourself. I wonder what new adventure lies ahead for her in another life.
Thinking of you sweety.

Dory,
Thinking of you hun and sending you love and peace. Everything you did was perfect as you already know . xoox

Blessedatlast,
GIve yourself some time hun, it will all be clearer. If isn't then try something else. I find with temping, THE most important thing detrimental to accurate temping was taking your temp exactly the same time everyday. When i first started i used to just take it when i woke up but that varied and my chart was a bit of a mess with no real clarity. It was only when i started setting an alarm to temp at exactly the same time and then going back to sleep, that i managed to get a chart that was trust worthy. It was a lot tidier and i could be more certain that it was accurate. Good luck hun...unfortunately while it does become habit it can also rule your life a bit. Try to have some fun with it if you can....easier said than done. I did it for years and drove me mad if i didn't have a break from it.

Cmegles,
Sounds perfect hun. I hope you get into that 25% too hun. How adorable of DH, and a massage....you have got the recipe alright. Sounds like all is working to the clock. My fingers are crossed for you both.

Cheryl,
How damn romantic!! Love it. You know your body hun better than a stick does anyway. HOpe this month was the right amount of all crucial ingredients...love, excitement, timing, willing participants and a wish bigger than two of you. Good luck, sounds promising!

AFM,
Doing a little better today. A bit stressed over finances but hopefully that will figure itself out with some tightening of belts for the rest of the year. Does rock your boat when things aren't as you thought.
Praying to see DD in my dreams. I just have an overwhelming desire to see her. I sleep with her ashes still and although that often helps calm me, I still long to see her. I wonder if she is starting to walk, if her hair has grown, what noises and words she is trying to say. I wonder what her favourite foods are.

Anyway, I know she is with us in spirit. It is not enough, but we have that.
Love to you all, sorry if i missed anyone.
HM xoxo

[CharlieB]

Hello ladies,

Sadly I have found myself in need of some support, and I was wondering if I could join your thread.

Our first baby was stillborn at 22 weeks, about 2 weeks ago now. DH is back at work and I feel as though I should be moving forward and starting to feel a bit better, but I'm still struggling to get my head around what has happened.

I am still completely shocked and devastated, but I also want to conceive again as soon as we can. I am not wanting to replace our little boy obviously, but I'm completely terrified that we will never be able to concieve and deliver a healthy baby. So I think that in some way being pregnant again will help.

I am really confused about when I will start ovulating again and be able to try, but I guess I just need to let my body recover and start to function normally again.

Anyway, hopefully I'll chat to you again soon
x

[Gigi1]

Dear CharlieB,
Of course you may, I am just so sorry you need to to be here.

You lost your baby boy such a short time ago. No doubt you are confused and shocked still hun. It can take time to hit you. Only you will know how best to handle your grief and I hope you find comfort. No one will be able to tell you when the time is right. You sound quite grounded sweet but be gentle with yourself for as long as you can.
As for Ovulating, we are all different and if you had not problems before you could almost be sure that you will start again as soon as AF starts again. I guess i would be wanting to be sure there was nothing retained and cycles are functioning normally (your normally) before starting again.
Your body will take time to heal hun.
It is a very real fear that 'what if you can't conceive again', and especially if you had challenges the first time which i hope you didn't. Would not wish it on my worst enemy. It is one of the hardest things to do is to surrender. Do what you can, all you can to be healthy and happy and surrender. I am not so good at letting things just 'be'...i fiddle.

I hope you find peace and space to make your decisions.
Love Hm xoxo

[Samcougar]

CharlieB- Welcome to our little thred, I am so sorry about your little man
You are more than welcome here and you will find that the lovely ladies here are wonderful and very suportive. I don't know what i would have done if i didn't find this site when we lost our little man. Good luck with your TTC journey i hope its a short one.

[dory]

Charli B - my heart just aches for you. I am so sorry about the loss of your little man. Wow 2 weeks. Everything is so raw and surreal at 2 weeks. Please know you are not alone. In my mind there is no such thing as a replacement baby. You will tcc when you know its right for you. I started after 1 cycle after my m/c at 21 weeks. Ob approved too! I ovulated somewhere between 14-21 days after the m/c - hopefully your cycle gets back on track very quickly. I would like to write more to you right now, but am feeling very spacey. Go gently with yourself, you need to heal emotionally. Take care and write soon, I would like to know how you are doing. I will write more when I feel coherrent. Take care.

[crumpet]

hi everyone

im hoping im in the right spot........

basically i delivered our little boy Gus on the 20th jan at 22w1d.......
i have since been diagnosed with cervial incompetance so when i get preg next ill be having a cervical stitch done at 12-13 weeks......

we have just decided to start TTC a brother or sister for Gus, and hopefully ill be O-ing sometime in the next 10 or so days, not sure what my cycle will be like so ill just assume it could be anywhere from 26-34 days and cover all bases......

im so sorry to hear of all of ur losses, but in a way im glad im not the only one out there who has felt what i am feeling, and its great to have people who can realte to what im going through.....

looking forward to getting to know u all....

[CharlieB]

Thankyou so much for the welcome, and the wise words.

And hello to crumpet, I'm so very sorry for the loss of little Gus.

I have been into work for a few short hours this week, which has been really difficult - being anywhere where people all knew I was pregnant is a real struggle. And I still find it really hard to concentrate on anything, is this normal??

I'm really trying to not overthink things, or look too far into the future, just trying to have some better days amongst the grey days.

There seems to be alot of amazing women in here who have battled through the hard times, you are all very inspiring. It's good to be able to get some good advice from people who have been through something similar.

Thanks again,

CharlieB
xx

[crumpet]

Thankyou so much for the welcome, and the wise words.

And hello to crumpet, I'm so very sorry for the loss of little Gus.

I have been into work for a few short hours this week, which has been really difficult - being anywhere where people all knew I was pregnant is a real struggle. And I still find it really hard to concentrate on anything, is this normal??

I'm really trying to not overthink things, or look too far into the future, just trying to have some better days amongst the grey days.

There seems to be alot of amazing women in here who have battled through the hard times, you are all very inspiring. It's good to be able to get some good advice from people who have been through something similar.

Thanks again,

CharlieB
xx

thanks charlib......

i agree, going places where u see people who knew u were pregnant is very hard......
i definatly struggle to do that, i only saw my aunty for the first time today and i had Gus 6-7 weeks ago now thankfully she pretended nothing had happened which i find better because i can deal with those sort of situations a lot better.