Kirsty,
I am about to go out for dinner with some girlies but I couldn't not answer your post when I saw it.

I have fleetingly wondered if enough is enough. For me though I just "Know" that there is another baby for me. It is something that I *know*. It may seem irrational and it certainly can't be explained but I know it like I know tomorrow is Thursday!

I think we all have a *number* that is right for us. I know that your journey has been so very difficult and I know that your relationship has been knocked about by the losses of your sons... This does make things different for you.

I think you need to do what feels right. I think if you do decide to havae another pregnancy that you are going to need lots of support and acceptance that the road is very different for you than your partner. In my situation my husband has felt verry sad at our losses but has appeared to get over it. However, his pain is different and he is a separate person who is okay being just as he is. Just as I am my way and you are yours. What you are experiencing is so very very common with grief. Partners being very confused and angry at the others reactions and choices around dealing with the loss.

The hard thing is Kirsty that there are no guarantees that it won't happen again and we have to go ahead fully knowing that yet believing it won't. N ow if that's not a contradiciton I don't know what is!

So, yes I think we have all wondered if enough is enough but at the end of the day only each individual can make that decision.

YOu know though that if you decide to conceive again you will be given so much love and support from so many of us. I think it's important to have some type of support through the next pregnancy also. It could be counselling, reiki, meditation, hypnobirthing - you will find what is right. But even if you think that there is a possibility of conceiving again start seeking out that support now so you have it all in place. This I believe is important because you will need it - we all will...

You know you have all my love and support and you know you can contact me via email if you need to... :hugs: nice long hard ones...