I'm good Spring. I have a new sense of peace having reached the milestone. *alf* is a busy little boy who entertains me with his activities. Sometimes I wish I knew what he was up to in there - but then again, maybe I don't!!! As for the booties, they are small and a nice way to pass the time. I should be doing my niece's cross-stitch but the knitting is more fun
Big hello to everyone - I hope you are having a lovely night. I need to get back to the knitting .....
Hi all, I havent been around cause its been a busy day... and it has taken me a while to read through all the posts LOL.
Spring - So happy lil Spring is doing well and that DH got to see him/her. I bet this has made his feelings towards the pregnancy alot more real and you will probably find he is different when you talk about everything with him with is fantastic. I am really glad to hear your psych will support you through everything, and also contact your OB on your behalf. I agree with him, if the time comes and you are stressing to the max he will have to reassess the plan for yours and lil Spring's sake. Wow, you wont know yourself with DH home last night and also on the weekend - but I am glad he is gonna be there, lets face it the reason we marry them is cause we kinda like having 'em around.
Lynn - I am sorry that AF showed, but also not sorry iykwim cause im wrapped you can now begin your next cycle and plan everything. Very happy to see you now have a TTC ticker, hated being the only one Can I ask a really dumb question? If you have a longer cycle, like you said your last one was around 37 days - how do they work out how far pregnant you are? I mean cause you know for me who generally has a 28 day cycle, on the day your period is due you would technically be 4 weeks pregnant. So how would you calculate it if you have a long cycle? I am sorry I know I sound like a bimbo, but I thought ahh well it doesnt hurt to ask. Oh and by the way, I hope she doesnt give you too much grief this month, and I am positive it will be her last visit for 8-9 months!
Bailey - I am like you, I get myself all upset if I think too much about the feeling of Nicholas moving around inside. I remember I used to complain to DH all the time cause I am sure he would plant the boots into my left ribs all the time, like he was in there saying yeah take that! I would give anything to have him kicking me now, but what can ya do. I hope you like the recipe, and that DS enjoys it - although he will probably prove me wrong.
Deb - I agree with Spring, you are a wealth of knowledge and you continue to impress me more and more with each day that passes.
Michelle - Your nephew sounds like such a little sweetie, sorry just had to say that. I have a 3yo nephew and love him to bits, he is also an old soul I think.
I think what you tell him about the seed is a perfect thing to say, and I will keep it in mind cause we have been talking about what to say and when to tell DHs kids next time. They are 5 and 6 (well and a 2 year old but she just plays and I dont think she understood anything that was going on when I was pg or when we lost Nicholas) and I want them to know early but then keep worrying what if I m/c and then have to explain it, its a tough one.
Nat - My pa (dads dad) died when I was 7 and I remember seeing him in the hospital, he had a heart attack, and also going to his funeral. He was my favourite person in the world and I was his, my grandmother said to him once when I was naughty "she could kill the queen and you'd say she had a good reason" and he said "yes and so she would". I would be so sad now thinking I hadnt had the chance to say goodbye, I remember him and his death and funeral very clearly which is weird for a 7 year old but none of those memories haunt me or anything, they are just memories. My aunty also died when I was 10 and same with her I got to go to the funeral, she died suddenly so it wasnt the same situation, but I remember the day the police knocked on the door to tell my parents she had died. I do remember that funeral with sadness and I remember very vividly that they played the song The Rose which we played at Nicholas funeral, but again I am grateful I got to go. DHs 3 children went to Nicholas' funeral also, as well as my nephew who turned 3 in Feb this year. We thought they had the right to say goodbye and also felt that as sad as it is death is a part of life and while it is the job of adults to protect children, to a certain degree it is best not to shelter them from the bad things in life. I agree with the other girls, it is ultimately your decision and you are the one who knows your son and what he is or isnt capable of coping with but it might be worth asking him what he really wants and giving the facts and in a way letting him choose. At 8 years old kids can be so wise, but yet in some ways so young. I think they are capable of handling things more easily than we think they can sometimes. Anyway, I guess it is like we have said about everything else in our lives whatever you do will be what you thought was right at the time and therefore no regrets. Thinking of you and your family
Well as for me, DH is doing well - his bum a little sore HEHE (dont tell him I laughed at that) but we dont get the results until next week so I will have to update you later on that one. My interview went ok, didnt get as good results as last place I saw but they were still happy and said to let them know if and when I want work cause they have it coming out of their ears.
The cemetary rang DH this morning and said that we can pick Nicholas up on the weekend, actually we can tomorrow but because DH is working it has to wait until Saturday so I am pretty happy with that.
One last thing to end this lengthy post (making up for no other posts today ) is can anyone tell me what they think may be going on with me? As I mentioned I got AF one day early this month which is weird because every other month since having Nicholas it has been like clockwork and lasts about 5-7 days. Anyway, I AF arrived Sunday night and yesterday I didnt get any bleeding which was odd but I thought it would come back today but again today nothing! Which makes me think AF has finished and in that case only lasted 2 days... Do you think there is a problem? Or is it normal for it to be one way and then just change for no reason? Its kind of worrying me, especially cause it has been 6 months since Nicholas was born and I am STILL not pregnant
Sorry again for long one.
Take care, hi to everyone I missed.
Mel
Last edited by Mel1977; March 8th, 2007 at 08:38 PM.
Hey Mel - I'm so happy that you get to bring your little boy home soon It will be a tough day but also a very special day. I will be thinking of you on Saturday. Everyday I still think about when I am going to take Cooper to his garden. I just don't know, it is such a tough decision.
I'm glad that DH is going to be ok. I hope you get the results soon.
I think I am the last person to give you advice on AF!!!!! Look at me, I am so not regular or clockwork, but I hope someone will be able to give you some advice. Are you going to have some tests done? What's the plan? I think you need a plan this month Mel.
In regards to working out how far I am, they will go off when I ovulate because they will know this. This happened to me with Cooper and I was always interested to see when he would arrive to see if they had the dates right. I guess they also go off measurements of bub. I'll let you know next month eh!
Bailey - wow it could be a busy month for this thread. 3 of us might be graduating together - I wish we all could I thought I better get a ticker so you can keep up with what day I am at although it is already wrong. It hasn't ticked over to day 2, not sure how to fix it but will try. It is probably on US time.
Hi to everyone else. Hope you are having a good Friday.
Hey Lynn - I am looking forward to having him home, only 1 more sleep to go Re having tests done this month, I dont know if there is anything they can do. DH has to have his swimmers tested but he cant get in for that until 31st March (which I am sure he is happy about) and I have a Levovist booked in for 2 April. Other than that the infertility specialist is on 15 May and that is all they can do because they have confirmed I have O'd. I guess I just have to keep planning as per usual that I will O on or around CD14 and hope for the best. Its just really made me feel uneasy that I only had AF 2 days, I have never had such a short one in my whole life. I dont know, I am hoping it is this month but I dont like my chances - I have been hoping every other month and it hasnt happened. My sister says I need to think positively but I am finding it almost impossible. I guess it doesnt really matter if you have to wait for a scan to be given a due date huh, I mean you will know roughly how far along you are and the main thing is you are pregnant huh. I would love so much for all of us to get one this month
How have you been today? Do you have to have more BTs this month? Dont worry about your ticker, mine was behind the whole way through my last cycles and the only way I got it to be right this time is because I told it AF arrived on the Sat instead of the Sun just so it would look right.
How was your day? Hope you are doing ok. Your sister is only trying to help, just like my family. They keep telling me to be positive but like you, I find it hard. Are you using OPK's to find out when you are O'ing. I know you hate them but have they worked for you in the past? I guess the only other thing to do is every second day from CD10 until you have o'd.
I have been ok today. My friend from work came over this morning. I haven't seen anyone from work since I lost Cooper. I have spoken to the boss but that was it. She said that everyone would love to see me but I am scared to walk into that place because the whole time I was pregnant, plus every second person is either pg, just had a baby or their partner is pg............agh! Something in the water! I think I need to bite the bullet and go in so I told her I would ring her Monday morning and see how I am and probably go in on Monday afternoon.
I have also been busy booking myself in for things......dentist, hairdresser, facial - maybe if I feel good, it will help!
I have also booked into the fertility clinic - here goes!!!! They are going to start BT on CD9 which is next Saturday and then they will do BT every day or second day depending on what my levels are like. I'm going to be a pin cushion again!!! I don't care what they have to do as long as by the end of this I get my BFP
I will be thinking of you tomorrow. It will be so nice to have your special little boy home with you at last Give him a big hug from me.
Luv & hugs
Lynn
xxx
p.s. I think our tickers are wrong because they are based on US time.
In a way, and yes you can call me a freak if you like, I wouldnt mind having all those bloods. Although its easy for me to say as needles dont bother me, and I am thinking that at least it gives you something to focus on rather than just sitting around waiting and hoping iykwim. You will be a pin cushion but hopefully a pregnant pin cushion by the months end I wasnt planning on using OPKs this month, they have I guess worked in previous months but last month it gave me all negative and I stressed about it and then got the BT done which said I had Od so I wonder if its better to do what you said and pretty much (I love that one, hehe) every couple of days through the month - wont DH be in his element - and every day for the 4-5 days surrounding O time. Not much else I can do really.
It might make you feel good to catch up with some of your work friends. If you dont want to go back into work can you arrange to meet them all for a coffee at lunch time or after work? I remember I was having panic attacks in the night before I was due to go into work again, but it didnt end up being so bad and everyone was really good about it all. In saying all that, if it gets to Monday afternoon and you change your mind I am sure everyone will understand.
Good on you for doing some things that make you feel good, not really sure how the dentist fits in there (LOL) but everything else sounds great. I have a voucher that my mum gave me at my baby shower to have a massage but I cant bring myself to go get it, just knowing it was meant to be after I had my baby makes me feel weird about going.
I hope you have a nice Friday night... we are off to buy a mobile phone cause mine died today Lucky I have a company so the company will now be a mobile phone richer.
Sorry Nat I didnt see your post til after I posted. Your DS sounds like he has a pretty good understanding of the whole "death" issue and I think it is so beautiful he has messages he wants his GN to pass on to his loved ones What a sweetie!
I know what you mean Mel. I guess I am looking forward to actually "doing" something and focusing on something. This is your month I just know it! You just need to heaps ( I love that one too so had to use it again - he he)
I know what you mean about using your voucher but I think you should. You deserve to pamper yourself and it may help you to relax as well.
I hope you get a nice new phone. I never get a new phone - just a hand-me-down from DH
Ok everyone I have a question to ask and it may be silly but I just don't know how I feel about it or what to do - I have a dinner to go to for DH's work. It is lounge suit and I have a black dress that I wore when I was pg and to Cooper's funeral. It is that baby-doll style, so it is fitted around the (.)(.) and then drops (hence why I could fit into while being pg and after giving birth). It isn't a maternity dress, anyway, i haven't tried it on or anything yet so I don't even know if it will fit properly but I just don't know if I can wear it again after wearing it to Cooper's funeral. I know it is a good excuse to go shopping a buy a new dress but I really don't want to spend any money because with me not working and the cost of the fertility specialist etc etc. Any thoughts???????
Spring Wonderful news on little spring bean it sounds like he/she is jumping around which is great. Is it true your 12weeks next week? where did that time go? It must be such a hard decision on which way to labour im sure when the time comes something will lead you to the right decision. I hope you have agreat weekend with DH and hes not to tired.
Lynn Wow mixed emotions....Iam happy for you that now you can start a new path to that baby making but sad the witch arrived. Im sending with all I have that this month will be the one.
Michelle Alf sounds like he will be a very active little boy!!! trust me all boys are. Thanks you the booties I will give you my email if you want to send me yours and I can send my address......if any of that amkes sence!! Thank you for sgaring your story and thoughts with me, its all reaffirmed my decision.
Mel Sorry poor old DH bum!!! Im sure all will be good, Its so hard when you just have to wait, I wish I could make "time fly" for you. But maybe while your waiting and making you will make that little bean!!! Lets think positive, also thank you for your help.
Bailey Even though your in travel Im still jealous and the offer to carry the bags is still there! Your brought tears to my eyes with DS comment...the innocence of children, When I was talking to DS about the visit I asked if he was sure he wanted to go he was very sure mum, he wanted to say goodbye to GN as he wont be seeing her for a long time and that when she gets to heaven could she tell great pop how much he loves him and still misses him and if she sees Pusscar (our cat that died) could she please give her a pat for him.......this made my mind up there and then with tears in my eyes.
Deb Where are you? Out chasing cows?
I will have to go my girfriend has just arrived with her three boys so I must be off but should get back as DH is out for the night and I might get to use the computer for a change!!! hope you all have a great afternoon.
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Can I ask a really dumb question? If you have a longer cycle, like you said your last one was around 37 days - how do they work out how far pregnant you are? I mean cause you know for me who generally has a 28 day cycle, on the day your period is due you would technically be 4 weeks pregnant. So how would you calculate it if you have a long cycle? I am sorry I know I sound like a bimbo, but I thought ahh well it doesnt hurt to ask. Oh and by the way, I hope she doesnt give you too much grief this month, and I am positive it will be her last visit for 8-9 months!
It will be a tough day but also a very special day. I will be thinking of you on Saturday. Everyday I still think about when I am going to take Cooper to his garden. I just don't know, it is such a tough decision.
I thought I better get a ticker so you can keep up with what day I am at although it is already wrong. It hasn't ticked over to day 2, not sure how to fix it but will try. It is probably on US time.
Re having tests done this month, I dont know if there is anything they can do. DH has to have his swimmers tested but he cant get in for that until 31st March (which I am sure he is happy about) and I have a Levovist booked in for 2 April. Other than that the infertility specialist is on 15 May and that is all they can do because they have confirmed I have O'd. I guess I just have to keep planning as per usual that I will O on or around CD14 and hope for the best. Its just really made me feel uneasy that I only had AF 2 days, I have never had such a short one in my whole life. I dont know, I am hoping it is this month but I dont like my chances - I have been hoping every other month and it hasnt happened. My sister says I need to think positively but I am finding it almost impossible. I guess it doesnt really matter if you have to wait for a scan to be given a due date huh, I mean you will know roughly how far along you are and the main thing is you are pregnant huh. I would love so much for all of us to get one this month
every second day from CD10 until you have o'd.
I wasnt planning on using OPKs this month, they have I guess worked in previous months but last month it gave me all negative and I stressed about it and then got the BT done which said I had Od so I wonder if its better to do what you said and pretty much
Lucky I have a company so the company will now be a mobile phone richer.
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