Hey Girls, Well I just need to have a major vent about MIL so you don't have to read if you don't want to, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Anyway, DH gets home last night, we are both really excited about going away and are doing the final packing. He says oh so an so and so and so in Adelaide want to catch up with us when we are there (family members from his side) and I said, well we are going to be so busy, how do they even know we are going to be in Adeliade as we had previously decided we didn't have time to catch up with every relative under the sun and just wanted a weekend away to ourselves. Well you guessed, my stupid Bailey word MIL had taken it upon herself to contact all the relatives. I said to DH, it is amazing how your mother just manages to ruin everything we do, it is quite impressive that she is so consistent (sarcasim intended) so DH said, well now that you have raised it, I really wanted to talk to you about mum.
Apparently she has been calling me and hanging up when it goes to the answering maching (no big surprises there, you don't have to be a brain surgeon to figure that one out) and so called him instead. He said he has never heard his mum so upset in his entire life and that she is devastated that I am so angry/upset at her. He said she was crying so much that she could hardly talk. Now sorry if I sound a little harsh here, but she is a manipulative cow who is so passive aggressive it isn't funny. I have not one ounce of sympathy for her, I have cried a billion tears over the last 6 months so it might sound a bit mean but I don't really care that she is upset. DH said, can you just sought it out please for my sake, just lie, pretend, I don't care but can it all be better. But this is what always happens with my MIL, she manipulates people until they end up feeling sorry for her, pathetic I know.
Well I haven't been able to sleep all night, so I am going to call her later this morning and this is what I am going to say.
"I want you to listen to me, don't say a word, don't interupt me, just listen to me and take in the meaning of the words I am about to say. You have had nothing to do with me for 6 months, and now that I am pregnant again, it seems that all of a sudden you want to get involved. Sure, you may have been thinking about me and wanting to call me, but thoughts means nothing to me, it is actions that I needed. I don't care what you reason for not contacting me, is because to be honest, there is no reason good enough.
However, I don't want DH to be worried / upset about this, and to be honest, in the scheme of my life, this is really not worth me worrying about, I have enough other stuff to work through. So here is what I am willing to do. I will agree to move forward, to let bygons be bygons (sp). Next week, if you call, I will answer, but don't be surprise if I only want to speak for a short period of time. Now we are going away, please let us enjoy this weekend as we had planned. Please don't call DH and worry him about this, he has enough to worry about. If there is something that you would like to say that you find difficult saying to me, put it in a letter or write me an email.
So that is that. I will speak to you again soon."
What do you think? I am doing it for DH. If I had my way I would either not ring her or ring her with a string of expletives but I have to respect his feelings.
I am going to take the dogs to the kennel, and then I am going to call her.
This is the last thing I want to be doing on Harry's 6 month birthday, but I would rather get it off my chest then stew on it all weekend.
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