Hey Girls, Well I just need to have a major vent about MIL so you don't have to read if you don't want to, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Anyway, DH gets home last night, we are both really excited about going away and are doing the final packing. He says oh so an so and so and so in Adelaide want to catch up with us when we are there (family members from his side) and I said, well we are going to be so busy, how do they even know we are going to be in Adeliade as we had previously decided we didn't have time to catch up with every relative under the sun and just wanted a weekend away to ourselves. Well you guessed, my stupid Bailey word MIL had taken it upon herself to contact all the relatives. I said to DH, it is amazing how your mother just manages to ruin everything we do, it is quite impressive that she is so consistent (sarcasim intended) so DH said, well now that you have raised it, I really wanted to talk to you about mum.
Apparently she has been calling me and hanging up when it goes to the answering maching (no big surprises there, you don't have to be a brain surgeon to figure that one out) and so called him instead. He said he has never heard his mum so upset in his entire life and that she is devastated that I am so angry/upset at her. He said she was crying so much that she could hardly talk. Now sorry if I sound a little harsh here, but she is a manipulative cow who is so passive aggressive it isn't funny. I have not one ounce of sympathy for her, I have cried a billion tears over the last 6 months so it might sound a bit mean but I don't really care that she is upset. DH said, can you just sought it out please for my sake, just lie, pretend, I don't care but can it all be better. But this is what always happens with my MIL, she manipulates people until they end up feeling sorry for her, pathetic I know.
Well I haven't been able to sleep all night, so I am going to call her later this morning and this is what I am going to say.
"I want you to listen to me, don't say a word, don't interupt me, just listen to me and take in the meaning of the words I am about to say. You have had nothing to do with me for 6 months, and now that I am pregnant again, it seems that all of a sudden you want to get involved. Sure, you may have been thinking about me and wanting to call me, but thoughts means nothing to me, it is actions that I needed. I don't care what you reason for not contacting me, is because to be honest, there is no reason good enough.
However, I don't want DH to be worried / upset about this, and to be honest, in the scheme of my life, this is really not worth me worrying about, I have enough other stuff to work through. So here is what I am willing to do. I will agree to move forward, to let bygons be bygons (sp). Next week, if you call, I will answer, but don't be surprise if I only want to speak for a short period of time. Now we are going away, please let us enjoy this weekend as we had planned. Please don't call DH and worry him about this, he has enough to worry about. If there is something that you would like to say that you find difficult saying to me, put it in a letter or write me an email.
So that is that. I will speak to you again soon."
What do you think? I am doing it for DH. If I had my way I would either not ring her or ring her with a string of expletives but I have to respect his feelings.
I am going to take the dogs to the kennel, and then I am going to call her.
This is the last thing I want to be doing on Harry's 6 month birthday, but I would rather get it off my chest then stew on it all weekend.
Spring - I'm thinking of you, DH and Harrison today. Happy 6 month birthday, little man. Have fun playing with all the angels :hugs: I will light a candle tonight for Harrison and think of him as I watch it glow.
Spring you need to do what is best for you as well as DH. I understand that it is DH's mother so maybe your phone call to her is the best way. I can understand your anger and hurt at the fact she hasn't called in the past 6 months. I think that it is important for her to hear it from you so she understands how much she has hurt you. I think it will be a good idea to speak with her this morning and then not worry about it today as you need to think of your precious little angel on his birthday. You should also enjoy your time away with DH. As you don't see him that much, you need to enjoy this quality time with him. I hope that your MIL understands your point and that you feel ok after the conversation. Have a safe trip, I will miss you but I will speak to you soon. Have fun and take care.
Oh, stupid computer, i just wrote a big post and then lost it...doh!
Tommysmum - Yeah, I was pretty sus on the positive HPT i got, I am so glad that I didn't get my hope up. It is just annoying that I got two +'s with that brand though. But, I have been known to have even longer cycles than the 34 days I am predicting, so I could still be testing too early so I am not giving up just yet, I will take another test away with me and try it again on monday or tuesday. What about you? Let me know if anything happens while I am away, I will have my phone so just sms me. If not, we will catch up when I get back.
Lynn - Thankyou for lighting a candle for Asha, it was a beautiful thing to do. It inspired me to do the same and as I watched it I though alot about her and about all of our little ones. i hope you get some good news over the next couple of weeks and I look forward to hearing about your success with your new plan the FS has for you. Lotsa to you Lynn.
Spring - How did your phone call to MIL go? I really hope that you and DH can not think about it too much and enjoy your break together. Afterall, this may be your last holiday as a 'couple'. your next trip will be a family one!
I will get on later when I have finished packing and cleaning up after my little monster.
Spring - you have probably gone by now, so I guess we will hear from you on Monday when you get back. I hope everything went ok with MIL.
Bailey - you are right - don't give up just yet. Did you test this morning? I hope you have an awesome time away. When are you back?
Mel - how are you going? Hope yesterday was ok for you, I know you were busy at work but I'm sure you were thinking of your little angel Have you got the kids this weekend? How are the house plans going?
We just went to the movies and saw 300. It is about the Spartans and Persians. I always loved Ancient History at school so I had to see this movie. It was a bit gorey (sp?) in some spots though.
We are catching up with 2 couples tomorrow and we will be the only one without kids I have seen them since I had Cooper but it has either been without the kids or separately with their kids. I hope I will be ok, but it will be hard just knowing what we are missing out on
It might be pretty quiet in here over the weekend as a few of us seem to be away.
Thanks for all your well wishes yesterday. I was at work and was very distracted, I did think about Nicholas all day but managed to cope very well and gots lots of easter stuff from the people I am working with (gotta love being a temp). We then went out for dinner and to see a comedian (Daniel Kitson) last night. I had a really nice time and laughed lots, I felt a little guilty on the way home because maybe I should have been more sad during the day than I was - I hope Nicholas didnt mind.
Bailey - I hope you did ok yesterday, Asha would have been watching over you helping you through I believe. I am so sorry you got a BFN I do agree that it is still early and so you cant give up hope just yet but it is still a little disappointing. You are pretty good for not getting overly excited, I did! I know you will be keeping in touch while you are away but I hope you have a great time and you must be so excited about seeing DH. Travel safely and look after yourself.
Lynn - It probably will be quiet in here over the weekend but I will be around - better than noone LOL. Thanks for your message yesterday, it means alot to me that I have so much support We do have the kids this weekend so hopefully they will share their chocolate with me They go home to their mum at 2 on Sunday. Our house plans are still in the same spot at the moment, we have an appointment with the builder at 2.30 on Monday to go over what we want in the house and work out the price and then it all comes down to whether we get the mortage or not, I really hope so I have gotten pretty excited about it. As we all know though I usually fall flat on my face so wont get them up too high. I hope you are well, it will be a tough day with your friends. What ages are the kids? I hope there are no babies cause that could be tricky, I always find babies harder to handle than kids. Do you know if the easter bunny is going to visit you (i.e. DH)? I know he is visiting me and I am hoping for the Mars pack. If you are not around I hope you have a nice weekend.
Spring - Wow you MIL sounds like a PITA bad! How did your phone call go? I think what you were going to say was great, fine I understand you have to make it a little easier on DH but there is no way you should be forced to play happy families. I am civil and polite to my FIL for everyone elses sake but thats it - deep down I have no time for him whatsoever! I dont know if I missed something in one of your previous posts but I take it you are going away for the weekend - have a wonderful time, enjoy your time with DH and dont stress about anyone else. I hope you make sure lil Spring gets lots of chocolate for easter
Deb - You will be in for a big easter. I hope your kids share with you. You will be away over easter too I think.
Hi to all of you other lovely ladies, hopefully some of you will be around over the weekend - if not have a great one.
Well better go get ready, when DH comes home we will be taking them to Pancake Parlour (only for their sake of course LOL) and then taking them to a train museum in Williamstown tomorrow. All three of them love trains and seeing as DH was working all week and they were spending the time with me we thought it would be nice to take them somewhere special with all of us and he can spend some quality time with them because they wont be with us again for another 3 weeks after Sunday.
Anyway I will be back later no doubt. Have a nice Good Friday.
to you Lynn.
I have seen them since I had Cooper but it has either been without the kids or separately with their kids. I hope I will be ok, but it will be hard just knowing what we are missing out on 
They go home to their mum at 2 on Sunday. Our house plans are still in the same spot at the moment, we have an appointment with the builder at 2.30 on Monday to go over what we want in the house and work out the price and then it all comes down to whether we get the mortage or not, I really hope so I have gotten pretty excited about it. As we all know though I usually fall flat on my face so wont get them up too high. I hope you are well, it will be a tough day with your friends. What ages are the kids? I hope there are no babies cause that could be tricky, I always find babies harder to handle than kids. Do you know if the easter bunny is going to visit you (i.e. DH)? I know he is visiting me and I am hoping for the Mars pack. If you are not around I hope you have a nice weekend.
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