TTC after Stillbirth/ Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after the First Trimester April

[Mel1977]

Hey Spring,

First of all, to you for Harrison's 6 month birthday on Friday, I was thinking of you. I am so sorry your MIL made it worse than it already would have been

Is your MIL for real? She sounds like an absolute nut job! To be perfectly honest, from the sound of it you are not going to win with this woman. Unfortunately the world is loaded with self-absorbed people who think everything is about them - you know, the ME ME ME people. I am sorry she is putting you through this, I admire the fact that you still want to keep the piece but really what more can you do? Basically it seems if you dont tell her yes sir, no sir, three bags full sir she is never going to come around so really bugger her! I know she is your DHs mother but you are also his wife and the mother of his children, and on top of that you have done your best to calm things down only to be attacked again by her. How dare she make you feel the way you do! You and DH have been through a living nightmare, you now have something to celebrate in your life and to feel happy about (lil Spring) but yet you are spending your time worrying about her. Dont do it anymore, no more worrying about her, you worry about growing a beautiful little brother or sister (although I still bet brother) for Harrison and also worry about keeping your marriage happy and being there for each other. MIL is always going to be there because she is DHs mother but that doesnt mean you have to like her, leave the ball in her court, if she wants to be involved in her son and grandchilds life then she needs to learn to grow up and get over herself. Until this happens I am sorry to say you are fighting a losing battle.

Dont allow her to stress you out like this, she is not what is important in life.

I will say though that you are a better person than me, I would have told her to F@@K OFF and hung up in her ear!!!!

To finish off, I am glad you still managed to have a nice weekend away with DH - you guys dont get alot of time together so it is important to enjoy the time you do get.

Take care,

Lots of love Mel

P.S. Dont let your DH see this, he will think I am a b@@@h!