thread: TTC after Stillbirth/ Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after the First Trimester May 07

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  1. #1
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    Dec 2006
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    Tommysmum - just beautiful. I have tears running down my cheeks.

    Bailey - I agree. While I wish Cooper was here, I would rather this than to never have known him at all.

    I wondered (once) would it have been easier to lose Cooper earlier on in my pregnancy. I have never wondered it again because if I had, I would never have met my little boy and enjoy his company for the special 9 months that I had with him. I am grateful for the time that I was given with him and while I wish it was for longer at least I had some time. My heart goes out to you special women that don't get to see, feel or hold your babies.

    I have had a very difficult weekend but it is nice to come in here and talk about our angels and remember them in the special way that we can.

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    Oct 2006
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    Hi Lynn

    Sorry to hear that you have had a tough weekend. Sending a your way.

    Lv Spring

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    Oct 2006
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    Hey Girls,

    Spring - I have been thinking of you today and hoping you are doing ok. I agree with you about next Sunday, I am absolutely dreading it - DH and I are going to do something nice together but I think it is going to be a really tough day. At least we will all be going through the same feelings on the day, I think it helps just to know you girls are there through it all. Sorry DH had to go back, 33 sleeps will fly by - as is your ticker, everytime I look at it I cant believe it.

    Lynn - I am so sorry you have had a tough weekend. Did you have a nice time at the ball or was it really hard? The amount of money you said they raised is amazing! Hopefully they can save someone else in the future from going through what we all are. Big for you and I hope you are ok, if you need a chat let me know.

    Bailey - I feel the same, as painful as everything is I would never give him back. I love him with all my heart and and very thankful for having the honour of meeting him and knowing him for all those months. Nothing will change the fact they are our babies and we just have to remember that they are as much ours as they were when we were lucky enough to have them in our tummies

    Tommysmum - Spring is right, there is some kind of instant bond that is formed between women who have experienced the heartache we have - whether it be multiple losses or a stillbirth. I also feel so close to the women in this thread and honestly care about each and every one of you. I never imagined I could care about people I have not met in person but I really do, and I think it comes from the mutual understanding we have of each other. I cannot imagine how hard it was for the women generations ago who lost their babies and firstly they were just taken away as if they never existed but then on top of that from what I understand society had the attitude of forget about it and it goes away. I think society still has a long way to go in terms of their compassion and understanding of grieving mothers but compared to those days we are extremely lucky. I can understand why those women still cry for their babies 40 years or so afterwards, I can not imagine not crying for Nicholas, nor do I think I want to stop completely.

    Deb - You sound like you have had a busy but nice day, you must be extra tired with your little bean zapping all of your energy - make sure you rest up and bub can have a snooze

    Hi to everyone else, hope you have had a nice weekend.

    Love Mel

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    Lynn I am sorry I forgot about the Stillbirth Foundation Ball until Mel mentioned it. You are very brave for going. I was too chicken as you know. I hope you are ok, it would have been really tough.

    Mel: How did the pasteries go? I would love to know what is in them, perhaps if you have the time you could email the recepie, that is if you are happy to share it.

    Well, time for some dinner for me, oooh I don't have to cook, just reheat, I am so excited it is pathetic.

    Be back soon.
    Lv Spring

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    Hey Spring,

    They were delicious - turned out perfect!

    I will email you the recipe, it is sooooooo easy.

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    Thanks Mel, just got the email and they sound glorious. Thanks for sharing. I am going to give them a whirl next weekend.

    Lv Spring

  7. #7
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    Dec 2006
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    Hi all.

    I have had a scan through the messages - there were so many that I didn't read through them all!! I have been hiding away as for whatever reason I've been having a few hard days - well nearly two weeks!! But I am feeling much better now and looking forward to ttc properly this month.

    Congrats Flowerchild , that is just great news about your BFP, I hope more BFPs follow shortly.

    Hope everyone else is doing well.

    Lol
    Sarah