When did you start thinking about ttc

[chippyrabbit]

Same as Tenibear. Her post could have been written by me.
Took about 3 months to try and fell in the 4th month. My only suggestions (and i know this from experience) is to think about your dates. We didn't do the maths and were due within a week of my DS original due date and this made some holidays and dates especially close to the date of his passing incredibly hard.

[becnxavi]

We had to wait for 6 month after we lost our daughter at 35weeks, because I had a c-section. I was like Tenibear, I was desperate to try again as soon as I held my silent little girl. By I am glad now that we had to wait, because I just wasn't ready. As it turns out, when we got to 6 months, I freaked a little and decided to wait a little longer. We're on our second cycle of OI, and I feel ready now. It's just gone 12 months since we lost Poppy.

But everyone is different. I guess I just knew when it felt ok to start TTC again. Good luck. I'm so sorry for your loss x

[MumtoA]

Thanks all so much for your replies. Both dh and I feel ready now, a lot of people think its to soon but I guess ultimately it is up to us. Dh made a good point - that neither of us see a reason not to start trying so if it happens it happens. Guess if nothing has happened in a few months time we may start taking the 'trying' a bit more seriously but in the mean time will have lots of fun a the right time of the month I guess and cross fingers that it will happen when it's supposed to! xo

[angelmumma]

So sorry for your loss We lost DS2 last year at 38 weeks. For the first few months we were mourning, we tried ttc a few months after that and after 6 months of trying I still wasn't pregnant, so went back on the pill and got a job. It was very hard. I came off the pill in May this year thinking it would take another few months to fall pregnant, and fell the first month. I'm technically due within weeks of DS2's birthday, which I found very hard. Everyone is different. For me, I'm glad that I had that year and a half to mourn and grieve my son, but I can very much understand that need to be pregnant straight away, as to an extent I felt that as well, but deep down I knew it wasn't right for us.

I think really you would know when you feel ready and happy to TTC again, it's a big step and it's going to stir up a lot of emotions and fears again. My advice is to go to a support group or counsellor if you can, so that you can talk about your fears, especially when you do get pregnant again. I'm 30 weeks now, so approaching the time when we lost DS2 and it is has been very hard. You do what you can to cope.

Hugs and I wish you the best for your journey xx

[MumtoA]

Hi angelmumma, congratulations on your pregnancy! How are u feeling? Has everything gone well For you? I guess one of the reasons for wanting to try soon as well is that my dd will be 3 in may and I always imagined my children close in age. She would have had a sister only 2.5 years younger than her so its really been hard to know that has been taken away from her. I know that she will never understand what it would have been like to have her sister here but I just can't imagine her being much older before she gets a sibling.
The close to birthday thing of dd2 is something that that I have thought of a lot but I guess my thing is as well that if I don'ft fall straight away the gap just keeps increasing and increasing

[becnxavi]

I know what you mean about the gap. We aimed for a three year gap, and then in the end our DS was 5 when Poppy was born. Now with having TTC number 3, the gap will be at least 7 years...not what I imagined! Good luck x

[MumtoA]

Good luck to you to bec. Btw I love your blog! So real and true hope your doing ok xo