When did you start thinking about ttc

[angelmumma]

So sorry for your loss We lost DS2 last year at 38 weeks. For the first few months we were mourning, we tried ttc a few months after that and after 6 months of trying I still wasn't pregnant, so went back on the pill and got a job. It was very hard. I came off the pill in May this year thinking it would take another few months to fall pregnant, and fell the first month. I'm technically due within weeks of DS2's birthday, which I found very hard. Everyone is different. For me, I'm glad that I had that year and a half to mourn and grieve my son, but I can very much understand that need to be pregnant straight away, as to an extent I felt that as well, but deep down I knew it wasn't right for us.

I think really you would know when you feel ready and happy to TTC again, it's a big step and it's going to stir up a lot of emotions and fears again. My advice is to go to a support group or counsellor if you can, so that you can talk about your fears, especially when you do get pregnant again. I'm 30 weeks now, so approaching the time when we lost DS2 and it is has been very hard. You do what you can to cope.

Hugs and I wish you the best for your journey xx

[MumtoA]

Hi angelmumma, congratulations on your pregnancy! How are u feeling? Has everything gone well For you? I guess one of the reasons for wanting to try soon as well is that my dd will be 3 in may and I always imagined my children close in age. She would have had a sister only 2.5 years younger than her so its really been hard to know that has been taken away from her. I know that she will never understand what it would have been like to have her sister here but I just can't imagine her being much older before she gets a sibling.
The close to birthday thing of dd2 is something that that I have thought of a lot but I guess my thing is as well that if I don'ft fall straight away the gap just keeps increasing and increasing

[becnxavi]

I know what you mean about the gap. We aimed for a three year gap, and then in the end our DS was 5 when Poppy was born. Now with having TTC number 3, the gap will be at least 7 years...not what I imagined! Good luck x

[MumtoA]

Good luck to you to bec. Btw I love your blog! So real and true hope your doing ok xo

[Tiffany11]

Hi everyone I'm new to this forum, but I just needed to talk about the situation I'm in at the moment. My husband and I have not had a smooth ride having our children. I had an early miscarriage in feb 08, and then we lost our precious daughter @ 26 weeks gestation due to hypercoiling of the umbilical cord. We then had our beautiful daughter Imogen in dec 09 what a little angel. We then went on to have our beautiful baby boy I August 11. We felt complete and also thought the rough ride was over. We were wrong. On the night of the 11th November 2012 I had put Hayden down to sleep around 5:30 and checked on him twice at 6:30 and 7:30 as he had a temp and was a bit grouchy, and I just thought he was really tired. First two times he was fine, and when I checked on him again at 8:30pm he had passed away in his sleep. We were just so devastated. I didn't know if this is the right forum to be posting in but we are trying for another baby and I am just so scared. I know it's what we both want but the fear is so strong. Just wanting some advice too, I am 16dpo tomorrow and I have missed my period but I keep getting bfn's. Should I wait another week until testing again? Again I'm really sorry if I have posted in the wrong thread but this looked the closest to what we are going through. Any input would be greatly appreciated.