Congratulations Jen!!! What wonderful news, I know only too well how much of your time it takes up when visiting your wee ones in special care nursery, all that expressing too, it takes it's toll. Don't forget to take good care of yourself hunny it's soooo easy to get too focused on the bubs and forget about yourself.

Ladies if I can give you one piece of advice that is really important it's TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!! Taking care of the babies is soooo much hard work, but then you knew that, but once the honeymoon period is over when visitors and helpers have gone and it's just you and the babies it is really overwhelming. Mix that in with no sleep and hormones and you have a recipe for a freaked out mom. That's what happened to me. I forgot to look after me, I was too focused on bubs, some days I wasn't even getting a shower and staying in PJ's all day. I wouldn't say I had PND but definatley mild depression. Make sure you get to the hairdressers or get yourself and the babies out into some fresh air, even if it's just for a little while, it makes soooo much difference.

To get bubs through the night, I kept things quiet at feed times, no talking or smiling at bubs you must give as little interaction as poss, you don't want them stimulated at all at night time. And try to keep lighting to a minimum, just quietly change nappy feed, then put back to bed, then get the other one up and do the same. If you don't do the other one straight after he or she will only wake in a couple of hours anyway, so best to get them both done at the same time. They soon learn that night time is for sleeping and not having a chat and play :-) Another important thing to remember is if your babies are unsettled at night, comfort them and put them back in their cot as long as they have full tummies and clean bottoms there is no reason why you can't leave them to cry for 5 minutes, if they are still crying after that comfort them again but make sure you put them back into their cot, don't make the mistake of bringing them into your bed or else they will learn that if they cry they get to sleep with mom and dad. Babies learn really quickly, to get them to sleep properly at night will make your life soooo much easier. I did this method with my 5 year old boy when he was a baby too and had him sleeping through the night at 5 weeks!! Of course this may not be acceptable to all parents but it certainly worked for me and I wouldn't hesitate to do it again if I had anymore kids (which of course I'm not going too!!)

I'm thinking of you ladies that are sooo close, keep up the good baking girls Azz are you in Hosi babe? I've been skimming posts again, I really don't have time to read through everyones. I hope you are all well, it's sooo hard in those last few weeks.

Keep safe
Kezza
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