very interesting discussion

I think it depends on the age - lots of parents dress their kids of different ages in same outfits for special ocassions but not every day - it looks cute. Not necessarily boy/girl combinations - coordinating colours might be okay.

Depending on sex of mine I won't dress them 'identically' or even similarly every day - unless it suits me or 'gifts' come that way. Clean might be all I have time for LOL .

If one is dirty I won't change both either. If my children chose to wear same clothes I would let them to some degree - but would steer away from having their own 'colour' as much as possible because there are so many fun kids clothes and sticking to one colour would be so NOT exciting. Plus buying at sales would be harder when there is less choice.

Still having said that if DS had a matching outfit matching short/shirt or pj's- I kept them together and so did he -this tshirt goes with that shorts and he had to always have it that way.

We handed the clothes down to a friend with 4 boys (1 same age as my DS and 3 younger) - they annoyed me because they mismatched the clothes ( bad dress sense too) and even between siblings that wore one part much too large. DS used to ask me why they weren't matching.