Thanks for the welcome ladies in the world of twins. We found out we are having twin girls and I'm still getting used to the idea of two girls. In my heart I guess I was hoping for b/g twins -- I think it stems from a poor relationship with my own sister and a positive one with my brothers. I was a bit of a tom boy as a kid and now when I think of girls all I think of is "pink" and "barbies". For the first time in this pregnancy I have doubts as to my abilities to be a good mom. I have these feelings dispite having gone through years and painful procedures to get pregnant. Now, I wonder if I would be able to have a third child in order to have a boy but I don't know how well that would go over with dh -- this was suppose to be it. I keep looking at pictures of other's twin girls and try to develop this love towards baby girls. I guess I thought if I only had one girl I could "figure it out" but with two, I feel like it is too much estogen, too much "pink".
Heather -congratulations on your twin girls - right now your own hormones are probably raging. It is normal to have wishful ideas about twin genders and some disappointment.
I can only comment on twin boys and maybe a part of me wanted b/g twins too - I have three living sons (14 yr old and 1 yr twins) and our daughter who passed away at 6 months gestation in 2004.
I think now it will be good for my baby sons to have each other growing up. I know they will both fight and be the best mates. I hear people with twin girls say the same.
I don't have a very strong or close relationship with my own sister so I can understand where you are coming from but I heard it is very different with twins.
My good friend is one a G/B twinset and she has a poor relationship now with her brother and better with her sister born 12 months almost after she was. So it is very individual.
A twin mum in my playgroup is very anti Pink for girls and Barbie's etc - stereotypes anyway - you will find a middle ground for sure that suits you and your children.
Take heart the love will follow the soon after you set eyes and arms on your precious bundles of joy.
You don't have to feel you will be a bad mom - you are very honest and caring by the sound of it to talk about it openly.
Heather- Congratulations on Twin Girls. I am sure you will be a fantastic mum. I can not comment on girls as my twins are boys and I dont have a sister at all. But my twins are great mates and I find it twice the fun.
thank you both for being so considerate of my feelings in your answers. I just really want to get the excitement of my pregnancy back. My dh has always pictured himself with a daughter so he hasn't been the one affected by this. I think the idea of also having a boy did cross his mind when we found out we were having twins, but it hasn't been part of a dream like it has been for me.
hi heather
welcome to the world of twins where you will find every one and their dog has an opinion
i have b/g twins after having 3 boys i also have 3 brothers and no sisters i actually thought i was "doomed" to a life of testosterone and when i found out i was having twins i really hoped for at least one girl but prayed for 2 girls however i did get my one little girl...well she is no pink girlie and barbie girl that s for sure ....although i was over the moon with having a girl i thought that i had no idea how to deal with girls i actually had to ask the nurse at the hospital to show me how to clean a girl cos i had never done so but i believe that children are a product of their enviroment and you dont have to go for stereotypes with all the toys in our house there is only one doll and my son plays with it more than she does..enjoy your babies when they re born cherish every second then decide if u want to try again not to try for a boy but to enrich ur life more...good luck and enjoy your sleep while you can too....moira
Hi Heather congrats on your pregnancy with twin girls.
I had a feeling early in my pregnancy that I was carrying twins so when that was confirmrd at 8 weeks I then had the feeling that they were to be a boy and a girl.
At our 19 week scan we found out that we were having 2 girls.I was a little shocked at first as I thought my "feeling" would be right but Iwas overjoyed none the less.
My little girls will be 1 in a weeks time and I would love to have another daughter or 2.I actually said to my husband the other day that it would'nt bother me if we had all girls and he agreed.
Being blessed with twins is a miracle and wonder in itself. Everyone is different I felt a strong bond with them when I found out their sexes.
I finally got to speak to my mom today (she had been on holidays) and she knew I'd be a bit disappointed about not having b/g twins. (Mother's just know this stuff don't they) She was great and showed me all the new outfits she bought on sale for the girls. Listening to your stories really helps me alot, more than you could ever know. I know when I see them I will love them to pieces and they will melt my heart. Three months away until I see them.
Hi Heather congatulations on your twin PG when I found out we were having twins I was hoping for boys as we already had two girls and my hopes were met half way we got b/g twins.
As far as heaps of pink and barbies my 3 year old GIRL is the biggest boy out she dosn't like her hair done pretty and I's a struggle every time we go out somewhere nice but she dosn't mind getting dirty.
My 15 year old girl is just the opposite she is the biggest girl now and allways has been but she was never into barbies, I remember going camping once and she was most disapointed when she discoverd the only mirror was the one on the 4x4 HaHaHa.
I'm sure you will love and cherrish your baby girls as soon as you see them good luck with the rest of your PG.
Jean
Congrats on your twin girls!
I have twin girls, who are 11 years old now.
I admit, I was certain I was having boy/girl twins with them as well and they couldn't tell on the scan.
At 28 weeks I just had a feeling it was two girls. I was right.
You are right, when they are here, you will forget your disappointment.
My girls are fraternal but they are VERY close. They have an amazing relationship, which I am in awe of. They are both different though, They compliment each other.One is laid back and the other is a stress head,One is very girly and one loves jeans.
Now they are getting older they are much more feminine but they loved to do all the things boys do, when they were younger.
I also have boy/girl twins and their relationship is VERY different from that of their sisters. They seem more...individual, for want of a better word. They still have that twin connection but it is more a brother/sister kind. You know, that push and pull of the different sexes.
We had lots of fun with the girls when they were little, we did all sorts of things and they are beautiful, wonderful creatures, little girls. I know you will enjoy them when they are here.
ETA; We also have a singleton girl who is the biggest tomboy on the earth. I can always find her up a tree and she prefers all things boy, over girl things. When she was about four she went through a tractor and digger stage. She had posters of diggers on her bedroom wall and knew all the names of the different ones!!!!
Last edited by tiggy; August 3rd, 2007 at 08:20 AM.
Hi girls. My name is Emma and we just found out last Thursday that we are having TWINS. These are IVF babies and I sure am very excited but very scared at the same time. On the scan they said that they are a week a part,has anyone else had this??? Im 7 weeks today and we have a long way to go. I just hope and pray they both stay there. Another scan on thursday to see how there doing.
Emma having a week apart on the scan is fairly common. Congrats on the twins !! I'd highly recommend signing up for the Australian Multiple birth Assoc. now -- find out when their next expectant parents class is. They are so supportive and the women are just great. You will get some great ideas on what to buy and where, what you need, and some great resources. I'm going to my second muliples class tonight (the second half) and the information they offer is incredible.
Hi girls i had my other scan today to check on my smaller baby and it doesn't have a heartbeat yet. I'm so worried something is wrong. Baby A is fine and has a heartbeat of 150 and is 7weeks. Baby B is 6weeks on the dot. It has grown since my last scan which was last thursday. I'm just so stressed
Emma (mom of 5) I'm sorry you have to go through such a stressful time right now waiting for your next ultrasound. My girlfriend who had her second twin a week apart I don't know exactly which week she was able to see the second heartbeat. Send lots of loving vibes to your little one and keep yourself busy this next week until your u/s.
I asked the woman who was doing my scan about it one day and she said that they will rarely be at the same stage. They grow at different times so one might have had a growth spurt and one might be due to have one. She said they dont really worry unless it drops too far or they dont show a growth since the last scan.
Thanks heaps girls for the info. In two minds about my scan in the morning but its an early scan so i can get it over and done with. Then go home and deal with what ever hand i have been delt.
Take care ladies
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