Pregnant 10wks with twins. Dh want divorce n abortion

**csab** · December 5th, 2012, 05:55 PM

Of course you hold on, when you love someone it isn't easy to let go, you do hold onto hope that things will work out the way it was supposed to. It takes time Hun, you really are grieving right now, your whole world has been turned upside down by someone you thought would never hurt you. That is what is hard to comprehend, because this person you entrusted with your heart.
Just remember to give yourself time, and remember one very important thing, he has given you 2 beautiful bubs and when they are here with you although hard, you will feel all the love, unconditional love from those little souls.
It really is an amazing feeling having these little lives just love you, because your their mum, not because they want something from you in return, just because your their mum.
Take care Hun, and look after yourself.

**csab** · December 5th, 2012, 05:55 PM

Double post

**little_mrs** · December 5th, 2012, 06:53 PM

Well said Csab, I almost have tears!

**Queenluxury** · December 5th, 2012, 08:28 PM

Of course you hold on, when you love someone it isn't easy to let go, you do hold onto hope that things will work out the way it was supposed to. It takes time Hun, you really are grieving right now, your whole world has been turned upside down by someone you thought would never hurt you. That is what is hard to comprehend, because this person you entrusted with your heart.
Just remember to give yourself time, and remember one very important thing, he has given you 2 beautiful bubs and when they are here with you although hard, you will feel all the love, unconditional love from those little souls.
It really is an amazing feeling having these little lives just love you, because your their mum, not because they want something from you in return, just because your their mum.
Take care Hun, and look after yourself.

Thanks so much darl *hug*
My D**** Husband text me this arvo and said "I want to be single , no commitment, do whatever I want. B4 I always drink and party even during weekday, having two girls or more and I never a married type. I never changed and def not ready for kid. I lost contact with most friends that's why I never go out in these past 3 yrs. now I have friends I want to go do my things alone"

So he is pretty much want me to abort his babies n divorce me because he want to be single ,go drinking n sleep around!! What a joke he is!!

**Onelittleprincess** · December 5th, 2012, 08:51 PM

In your area there might be a student midwife who would be happy to follow your pregnancy. Maybe go along to appointments and classes etc.

**little_O** · December 5th, 2012, 09:23 PM

Argh what an idiot he is!! You'd think he'd have thought of this BEFORE getting married and doing ivf!!!

Was there any hints of him becoming like this again recently? Or was it solely after you became pregnant?

Does a prenup still hold up if he's been unfaithful?

**lady_neon** · December 5th, 2012, 09:52 PM

Urgh you're better off without him, babies or not!! Is there anywhere you can go to stay?

**thirdtimelucky77** · December 6th, 2012, 02:01 AM

Queen luxury - your story made me cry. 3 months ago I gave birth to twins and yes it's been hard but you can do this, and itvwill be the best thingnyou ever do.

My DH works long hours, travels a lot so sometime I feel like I'm very alone as well. I know it's not the same but this is what I can tell you.... Your friends will spring into action and be there for you. Sometimes my girlfriends come over in their lunch break to bring a sandwich, feed a baby and fold my washing.

Centerline will help you and your husband will have to pay child support - you will have enough money to live. If you PM me your address I will send you enough clothes for the first 3 months (there's a fair bit of pink butnlotsbof grey and navy as well) if you live in wA I will come and help you out - anything so don't have to give up your babies.

Chances are your DH will see these two miracles and change his mind. Twins are a hell of a shock - but you'll get through, I can give you a couple of car seats - I have 4 kids and more stuff than I'll ever need again. It's called the sisterhood - we stick together and we never give up. You are wonderfully young - if he does leave chances are you'll meet someone better who will love you and your miracle babies.... Perhaps this is your destiny.... Who knows.

All I can tell you is that milky smiles, unconditional love, total trust and warm hugs are what bakes do best. Don't deprive yourself of that because your DH has cold feet. If you need help I will help you, as others have done for me. But you must first help yourself - be strong, find the courage to know you have two beautiful lives depending on you. Do it for love and the rest will follow.

If you need clothes, car seats, even nappies PM me, go to counselling make the decision that is right for you. Twins are a miracle and they wouldn't have been sent to you - if the universe didn't think you could handle them.

With love, dan x

**Footsteps** · December 6th, 2012, 04:38 AM

Hows things going huni? Stay strong we are all here to support you.. I'm due to start ivf soon myself and can only imagine how you must be feeling.
Dan - you've made me cry. You are such a beautiful woman to offer all the help but when someone needs help there is always support.
Much love rach xx

**Beatrix** · December 6th, 2012, 06:24 AM

Make sure you keep those text messages... they might help you contest the pre-nup...

sorry you are going through this

**Queenluxury** · December 6th, 2012, 09:31 AM

Queen luxury - your story made me cry. 3 months ago I gave birth to twins and yes it's been hard but you can do this, and itvwill be the best thingnyou ever do.

My DH works long hours, travels a lot so sometime I feel like I'm very alone as well. I know it's not the same but this is what I can tell you.... Your friends will spring into action and be there for you. Sometimes my girlfriends come over in their lunch break to bring a sandwich, feed a baby and fold my washing.

Centerline will help you and your husband will have to pay child support - you will have enough money to live. If you PM me your address I will send you enough clothes for the first 3 months (there's a fair bit of pink butnlotsbof grey and navy as well) if you live in wA I will come and help you out - anything so don't have to give up your babies.

Chances are your DH will see these two miracles and change his mind. Twins are a hell of a shock - but you'll get through, I can give you a couple of car seats - I have 4 kids and more stuff than I'll ever need again. It's called the sisterhood - we stick together and we never give up. You are wonderfully young - if he does leave chances are you'll meet someone better who will love you and your miracle babies.... Perhaps this is your destiny.... Who knows.

All I can tell you is that milky smiles, unconditional love, total trust and warm hugs are what bakes do best. Don't deprive yourself of that because your DH has cold feet. If you need help I will help you, as others have done for me. But you must first help yourself - be strong, find the courage to know you have two beautiful lives depending on you. Do it for love and the rest will follow.

If you need clothes, car seats, even nappies PM me, go to counselling make the decision that is right for you. Twins are a miracle and they wouldn't have been sent to you - if the universe didn't think you could handle them.

With love, dan x

You made me cry when I read this also. It's nice to know that there are lot peoples out there that so kind n willing to help.
I live in Morley at the moment but I will probably have to move soon. Depend on husband if he is kind enough to let me stay until I give birth while he move out for few months or he could have kick me out in couple weeks because angry at me for keep these babies.
He booked appointment for abortion for me this Saturday. He still in denial n hope in this 2-3 days I will change my mind.
Everyday I still cook , clean n do the laundry for him. I have to put up with the things he did n said because i have no where to go. As soon as the babies born, I will get more payment from centrelink which would help me get my own place.

I couldn't PM u yet because I have to post 50 times before be able to pm anyone. I will PM as soon as I can

thank you!! Thank you so much!!

**Charlotte91** · December 6th, 2012, 09:48 AM

Why are you still doing everything for him when he's treating you like this?
This is just an awful situation.

**little_O** · December 6th, 2012, 10:19 AM

I know someone has asked this before, but I can't remember if there was a response...

Does his parents know about it? I mean its their grandchildren.....??? Then again I know grandparents with no desire for grandchildren...

He can't make you get an abortion can he??

I'm not sure how it works but is it possible to emergency women's accommodation in the mean time if he is trying to still get you to have an abortion? Will that be better to be out from his roof?

Others may know, is it better to stay there to fight for your half?

**Queenluxury** · December 6th, 2012, 10:49 AM

I know someone has asked this before, but I can't remember if there was a response...

Does his parents know about it? I mean its their grandchildren.....??? Then again I know grandparents with no desire for grandchildren...

He can't make you get an abortion can he??

I'm not sure how it works but is it possible to emergency women's accommodation in the mean time if he is trying to still get you to have an abortion? Will that be better to be out from his roof?

Others may know, is it better to stay there to fight for your half?

His dad left him n his family aged ago. His mum is an evil mean lady. She always say " your kids will grow up to be drug dealer or prostitute" to my H. She has bi polar and not really pleasant to be around or talk to.
My H was naughty and run a much since he was young. He was a cheater and has many girls around him. His mum said he is just like his dad.

He changed when he married me. He was a good man and never have eyes on any chic while he with me. I thought what she said wasn't true, I was wrong!! Apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
She didn't like an idea of him having kids because she know what kind of man her son is. She is mean n negative but she is right about him.

He can't make me get an abortion but he trying to push me to corner so I have no other choice but abortion. He know I have no place to go, no money n car.

I love this man with all my heart. I do everything for him. I always there for him when he has problem. I never think he could do this to me. He still treat our dogs better than he treated me.
He think money can buy happiness. Every time he upset me he will just buy me a bag or clothes. I understand him that he didn't grow up in loving family, he doesn't know better. So I put it aside and forgive him every time.
He always say he wanna give his kids a good life, a lot of love and the best of everything so they won't have to grow up the way he did.

I don't know why he did what he did. He isn't the man I fall in love with. He isn't my husband..... Not anymore
My heart break to pieces. He took away my happiness n smile.
Well at least he give me these two little one to make my life have more meaning.

**diannescruffy** · December 6th, 2012, 12:17 PM

My husband had a very awful childhood but people can change if they really want to, this can't be an excuse for his behaviour now as an adult. Please make yourself an appointment with the Salvo's or another organisation, he is abusing you hun and you don't have to put up with that. You really need to get out of the house, which the Salvo's will be able to help you with.

Regards,
Dianne

**Lilliansmummy** · December 6th, 2012, 01:13 PM

I would suggest filling out the department of housing forms ASAP and mention you are preg with twins, my friend had to do that and got bumped up the long que for housing. They take into consideration your income (if any) and calculate your rent from that. I know my dad lives in perth so i know it is very expensive to rent. Would you perhaps move interstate for cheaper rent?
In vic there is a Pregnecy support place that helps with 2nd hand clothes and other items.
What know one has suggested if buying items for the babies now. If there are sales for eg boxes of nappies for $30, buy one a fortnight or something. Buy baby clothes now from the selvo's or op shops.
Contacting churches etc is a wonderful idea.
I have some nappies still from before i M/C my twins that I could send over to perth.
Lay-by stuff now! Buy small items now, just whatever you can. Go to the reject shop and get the plastic tubs to store the items in.
If you loved in Vic, I would offer you a room until housing came up.
Good Luck with everythingxx

**thirdtimelucky77** · December 6th, 2012, 02:11 PM

Your in perth Queenluxury!! See meant to be already

I am in Floreat... I will help you as much as i can - my twins will be out of their Moses baskets (basinettes) before yours are born, I have enough clothing to fill the titanic and I have a great deal of experience in dealing with Dept of Housing so I am happy if you want the help - to help you find a place to live.

Your DHbsounds immature and selfish - but guess what you have TWO divine cherubs on their way to you - have you chosen a care provider etc are you going public or private etc?

Are your twins fraternal or identical? This can sometimes have a bearing on how your pregnancy is handled.

I would never push my own opinion regarding abortion on anyone - I am pro choice! So please remember this is YOUR choice. Frankly let him go and party, drink do whatever he wants - you deserve to be excited!! twins are a blessing.

If it would help you to actually set a set of young small twins, see how we live, whats involved - spend a day in the life so to speak - you would be welcome to come and meet my girls and spend somentime in our home. Again not forcing anything on you - but the offer is there.

For what it's worth I freaked out when I found out I was having twins - but it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Love Dan

**Queenluxury** · December 6th, 2012, 10:43 PM

Your in perth Queenluxury!! See meant to be already

I am in Floreat... I will help you as much as i can - my twins will be out of their Moses baskets (basinettes) before yours are born, I have enough clothing to fill the titanic and I have a great deal of experience in dealing with Dept of Housing so I am happy if you want the help - to help you find a place to live.

Your DHbsounds immature and selfish - but guess what you have TWO divine cherubs on their way to you - have you chosen a care provider etc are you going public or private etc?

Are your twins fraternal or identical? This can sometimes have a bearing on how your pregnancy is handled.

I would never push my own opinion regarding abortion on anyone - I am pro choice! So please remember this is YOUR choice. Frankly let him go and party, drink do whatever he wants - you deserve to be excited!! twins are a blessing.

If it would help you to actually set a set of young small twins, see how we live, whats involved - spend a day in the life so to speak - you would be welcome to come and meet my girls and spend somentime in our home. Again not forcing anything on you - but the offer is there.

For what it's worth I freaked out when I found out I was having twins - but it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Love Dan

After told H that im keeping the babies, he was ****ed & saying all negative things. " these arent my kids. i dont see them as my kids. u r so gonna regret having them i tell u that now." I text my friend about what he said then she is pretty much on a roll and ripped his head off over the phone.
He make an agreement that he will move out tomorrow night and let me stay here until I give birth but I have to rent one room out and use that money to pay for bills n foods myself.
As soon as I start get parenting payment and all other payments he wants me to move out and find my own place.

I hope he will keep his words! Now I just need to sort out about car and essential stuff for babies.
I will probably should put my name down on the list at dept of housing and hope I will get something by June.

I'm going to osbourne park hospital

and they are frat twins.

I had back injury 7 yrs ago from falling off balcony

now the pain start to come back since I was 8 weeks and getting worse everyday!! Grrrrr I still got long way to go. I will be 12 weeks next Monday.

I will email u regarding catch up with u to see ur girls

Thanks again hun