The whole time, i've wanted my new niece to come to the wedding, i hope it doesnt' sound like i don't want her there... on the invite, do i put dear ### and ### and leave Lucy's name off it as she wil just expect she's invited? Or put her name down?
If i leave her name off that way my sis will be ableto talk to me about her and i could say "would you be leaving Lucy with your MIL or would u like her to come too?" that way i don't sound mean and she can make the decision...

Her MIL is not invited to the wedding (she's not really my family KWIM??) so she can always leave her with her MIL who lives 2hrs away from the wedding... just for a few hours it will be. but i can understand her not wanting to be away from her and yes it is a very young age. if it was me, i would want to be with my little baby 24/7...

it was just a discussion to look at my options.... looks as though i have no choice but to invite Lucy.... which is fine

I hope my friends with young children can understand that's all.... as they aren't bringing their 7mth old. (and shes breastfeeding). but she is fine with leaving him with her MIL.

you're right, the day is about us and if a baby is crying we probably won't even notice it.
DF really doesnt' want me to let her invite Lucy but i have said to him"i know she can be a b**ch to me but we need to invite her as she's only going to be young still and needs her mother and if shes b/feeding etc etc plus my sister will crack up big time if Lucy is excluded from the wedding"
I just hope my sister doesnt take over the spot light as she has done inthe past when it's my night....after all, it's OUR wedding day... she has had her day and they didn't have babies at their wedding....