Hi Renstar

At my wedding to now XH, we had bridesmaids on the left and groomsmen on the right.

With the children thing - we initially said no children and sent invites out without the childrens names. However, we had one couple rsvp with "wife & I will be coming with bubs as well cause wife is breastfeeing". They didn't ask me, just told me they were bringing their baby and I felt bad telling them no so I ended up ringing the other 2 couples to say it was ok to bring their baby. Only one of them did though. The other was happy to have a night out with her DH without the bub.

It's your and your fiance's special day, so do it however YOU want to. You will be the one to remember it.

Best wishes