catholic baptism

[*star*]

Morning!

I will try not to go into detail as I'm a bit upset about it, but DH is not catholic and I am (and attend mass every week). He is now reluctant to get our baby baptised, his reason being that he doesn't want to say he believes certain things when he doesn't actually believe them. This is fair enough, but I would like some kind of compromise.

Does anyone know where I can get the words of each part of the baptism so that I can go through with him what is ok with him and what isn't? I will speak to the priest this weekend anyway and see what he can help me with, too.

[sushee]

Star,

Your priest should be able to give you a copy of a generic baptism book, I know I got one when I registered Charlie to be baptised. My DH is also not catholic (but I am) and he didn't have a problem with the proceedings. He knelt for his blessing, but didn't repeat any of the prayers. He just agreed to raise his son as a catholic (which is why you're baptising your baby anyway) and just stopped short of the things he wasn't comfortable saying. All in all though, he thought the ceremony was beautiful, and proudly tells everyone that his son was baptised in a church. Good luck with it all, star. It's a difficult position to be in.

[misty]

you really need to talk to your priest - things do slightly vary from region to region. my advice is to talk to your DH and discuss how your child being baptised is about your child, not his own religious beliefs, IYKWIM? all your DH is doing is saying that he will allow his child to be raised as a catholic, not that he subscribes to the beliefs himself. If he actually has a problem with your child being catholic, that is a different issue altogether.

My DH (although christened anglican) really does not subscribe to any religion, but as he knew how much it means to me, he was willing to get married in a catholic church and baptise our children catholic and supports their religious education.

[Firstkid]

Hello!

I had a similar experience to Sushee. My DH is Catholic, but I'm not. We had our son baptised, and I just stayed silent on the bits I wasn't comfortable with. It worked fine, and was a beautiful ceremony.