We didn't have one as such. We had a house into which people could put donations for our sponsor child's community.

What really p!ssed me off about the whole thing was that friends who had wishing wells got more money than us. Because we planned to give it away to someone much more deserving than us, people felt like their contribution wasn't as important, maybe?

We even had a couple of people come to us at the end of the wedding and say "That money in the card's for you, not for your charity." Obviously we gave it away anyway.

So I'm pretty passionate on the issue, but yeah, I think they're horribly tacky, particularly after that experience.