The way she's worded it, seems to me like she wants to so the 'right' thing, by asking for no gifts, but if they truly didn't want anything I think they'd leave off the part about money.
I think I agree Kaytee. She wants to be polite, but deep down it'd be great to get some cash! Hahaha!

Yes, I generally do give a gift if someone is having an engagement party. But TBH I hate giving money, it just doesn't sit right with me iykwim? To me money just isn't a gift. I much prefer to buy something personal/sentimental for people that they will keep and remember. I still remember who gave us what for our engagement and wedding (we got engaged 8 years ago and married 6 years ago) and cherish those things. But the money we were given is long gone and to be honest I can't even remember who gave us money or how much. So to me it's not a true gift (I'm not sure if I'm wording this right...).
Miss E yes I'm much the same. I remember every gift my son, and daughter were given for their baptism/birth. I love gifts, so much more thought, and a lot more personal than cash. I'll definitely have a look on the book depository for the love book too! Thank you for the sugestion x

Artechim
I know they said no presents, but a really nice engagement present is a silver cake slice which they can then use at the wedding. I have heard of people getting them for engagement, and then using them at the wedding and first birthday parties for their children.
Ooo another great idea! Thank you Artechim!


Thanks for the thoughts ladies. It is just going to be me and kids for this one, as DH will be on his first shift for his new work (so can't really get the day off!). I think I will go a small gift, not cash. Would be slightly embarrasing if I arrived, without a gift, and everyone else was giving! Hmm! DH is telling me not to get anything.. but he won't be there, I will!