Ok sorry i havent really replied to everyone just rambled some more.

Kate we're paying for our wedding too and working with a 5k budget... not easy when the church itself takes $700 of that straight up. We had looked into getting caterers for a bakyard reception but for the same price we can invite five less people and have a truckload less hassles, so we are now having it at a cheap venue.

My heart tells me to pick number four, because she has offered me a great deal of support and honestly made my life more bearable and the day to day seem happier. I have spent more time with her in a limited time than with the others in eight months i have been in this house and have had about eight visits from all of them combined. My head is telling me to pick number one in the hope she stops being a slack friend once honours is over... my head is also reminding me that she's the girl that WILL sleep with the groomsmen... okay, nasty i know, but it's true

Bridal party partners; I'm just annoyed because MOH jerk of a BF is not good enough for her and on all accounts refuses to catch up with / socialise with us... i hate the thought that some friends would have to miss out when someone who can't take half an hour to get to know his girlfriend's best friend would be included. So i know they need to be invited, i just have no respect for this person in particular.

I'm seriously starting to think about eloping LOL. I don't know... I want to get married, i don't want to be engaged forever - it's already been a year, but we're not in a financial position and probably won't ever me in a position to have a wedding with all the frills... I don't understand how people do it. I wouldnt do it even of we could afford it.

we are DIYing a lot... and i am getting our dresses made in china so all three of them should be less than $500... if all goes wrong the c/c that we dont use is reserved for my dresses. I have hunted heaps of cheap stuff down on ebay - like our bubbles i got cheaper than i had seen in any wedding shops.

snuggly what i meant by that comment is moreso that our beswt man and moh are also alexanders godparents... and always are first for everything so it looks like we dont have any other friends