CM, firstly let me say congratulations on getting engaged and planning your wedding. I too am in the same situation at the moment. I have one word for you, ELOPE!! Have you looked into Bali or maybe even Fiji, as you are an Eastern States girl right? Your wedding day is about YOU & DF, no one else. Dont let people sway you and your ideas. Planning a wedding shouldnt be stressful. You can either just take off, the 3 of you, or you can invite close family & friends. For those very reasons, DF and I are planning a Bali wedding for early next year. Its relatively cheap (we wont spend no more than $5/6000 flights & accomodation included) & it includes a honeymoon to a fantastic place. And you know, these people that have expensive weddings probably have a massive debt or their parents cover it. Planning your wedding day should be fun and exciting, but at the moment it sounds like its getting you down. Anyway you can facebook me for ideas if you like, maybe we can plan together hehe.
CM, don't over think it hon. Go with who you want. I look back at my bridal party & who I thought I would be close too now I am not. Things change, friendships change, so have who you want now, someone who will support you and be there for you.
I wanted to elope 6 months before our wedding but we had such an amazing wedding day and a great party!!!!!!!!!!! I am sure you will have a great day as well it's just all this crap you have to go through first makes it seem like its never going to happen.
Well then .. I have just this one piece of advice for you ...
Sit down with your DF. And talk about what YOU TWO want ... not your mother, not your MIL, not your aunty's aunty's cousin you've never met, but know are a real gossip-queen. Think about what YOU want and what will make YOU happy.
Then, call your mother .. TELL her how this is going to work. If she want to biatch about it, let her. If she wants to hold it against you for christmasses to come, what the heck ... as long as you had the day you have been dreaming of. She is NOT paying for this wedding, so SHE can't have what she wants. Being her daughter, you have the right to explain to her (yeah, and your future MIL) that this is going down YOUR'E way.
If you go into this like "oh, what would this-and-that think" or "oh, I'm not sure what I want" ppl are going to talk you into things you don't really want to do. Get your things sorted, KNOW what you want and tackle this wedding headon and let EVERYONE know that YOU (ok, and DF) are making the decissions.
You don't have to be a Bridezilla, that is not what I am implying ... just stand your ground, do your homework and stick to YOUR plans. Be confident in what you want .. ppl will be less inclined to double guess you or talk nonsens in your head.
I decided, and I went with what was the clear choice from the beginning
I had my birthday last weekend, and I saw everyone and it was so easy to see that I was right from the beginning, and that I should have had no hesitation in the first place and just gone with what I wanted without worrying about anybody else.
Probably shouldn't have posted on bb either seeing as 'she' is a fellow BB member. Who is AWESOME!!
Hayley I would have loved to elope but we just couldn't agreeon anything, so now we're sticking with the church wedding that ive wanted to get married in since i was little and tiny tight budget!
Well good on you for sticking with what you've wanted all along. Sorry I hope you didnt think I was being pushy as well with the whole eloping thing!? I too hate it when family & friends think they can have a say in someones wedding, its not right. I'm sure your wedding day will be perfect & everything you've ever dreamed of.
Hey ASH, ... I don't know why but my gut feeling was to go with no#4 as bridesmaid ... Anyway, who have you decided on & do they know yet ??
If i was a heap younger i would gladly have offered to be a bridesmaid for you (no expenses paid, LOL - I'm a generous gal) ... & make sure you had a brilliant day (love to laugh & spoil my mates) ... as I still to date have ' never ' been a bridesmaid ... though i have been witness twice (my sister's Wedding & a friend's) ...
BUT i have been engaged 3 times & wouldn't want to jinx you ... so I will offer any help via the BB system, hee hee
Have you a Wedding date ?? ... Looking forward to hearing about your Wedding in the future
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