Who's wedding are you organizing????

Who???

OH, YOUR WEDDING!!

Well then .. I have just this one piece of advice for you ...

Sit down with your DF. And talk about what YOU TWO want ... not your mother, not your MIL, not your aunty's aunty's cousin you've never met, but know are a real gossip-queen. Think about what YOU want and what will make YOU happy.

Then, call your mother .. TELL her how this is going to work. If she want to biatch about it, let her. If she wants to hold it against you for christmasses to come, what the heck ... as long as you had the day you have been dreaming of. She is NOT paying for this wedding, so SHE can't have what she wants. Being her daughter, you have the right to explain to her (yeah, and your future MIL) that this is going down YOUR'E way.

If you go into this like "oh, what would this-and-that think" or "oh, I'm not sure what I want" ppl are going to talk you into things you don't really want to do. Get your things sorted, KNOW what you want and tackle this wedding headon and let EVERYONE know that YOU (ok, and DF) are making the decissions.

You don't have to be a Bridezilla, that is not what I am implying ... just stand your ground, do your homework and stick to YOUR plans. Be confident in what you want .. ppl will be less inclined to double guess you or talk nonsens in your head.

Ok, Shutting up now!! Goodluck!!