Hens night ettiqute

[BrightSparkles]

Can i invite some people to the whole thing and others to only have dinner with us??? The girls are planning an afternoon part then dinner somewhere.
Do I have to invite all the girls who have been invited to the wedding???

[feeb]

My hens night I invited LOTS that were not invited to wedding, and a few who were invited to wedding were not invited to hens night.

Had dinner at Hard rock then a booze cruise stripper cruise and people had choice of what they came to. Most did both but a few just did dinner as had BF babies with them at dinner and some just did cruise.

Was a great night and no one was offended at being invited to hens and not wedding they were just excited to be celebrating with me.

[Erin_25]

Most often I've known people to invite others to their hens night to celebrate with them who are not invited to the Wedding. As I guess you have to cut numbers at Weddings but always love to party with as many mates as possible. I've been invited to some & not the wedding...so I don't see that as a prob.
Is there any reason you don't want some at both parts? I understand if it's a lets say "stripper part" & you don't want granny or aunty there.....but usually I would explain that & give them the option. I actually do think its a little rude to have some people at both parts & some others not involved. I'd feel a little left out if I found out there was a "pre select part" IYKWIM. If I'm good enough to make up numbers to party with you then I should be good enough for all. Unless its a part just your family or bridesmaids want to do then you could make that clear I guess.
Ahhhh, again if I'm going to the Wedding I would think I'm closer than some so would expect an invite. I had some girls I didn't really know (friends, families partners) but that didn't bother me. They make the choice to come or not, I didn't have to entertain them.
As for "the oldies" LOL I actually didn't invite any of them....I held a garden party for them instead.

[BrightSparkles]

Is there any reason you don't want some at

We are planning to have someone come in and do massages and facials in my house...due to space and the concept of the massages I'm not sure 20/25 people would be ok..

[bon]

I think in that case it would be perfectly acceptable to only invite those who are closest to the bride to the 'before' part and then invite everyone to the dinner afterwards.

[Lolli]

We are planning to have someone come in and do massages and facials in my house...due to space and the concept of the massages I'm not sure 20/25 people would be ok..

I did this just a month ago for my hen's night. I actually had my baby shower afternoon tea first, then the massages, facials, etc and dinner afterwards. I invited everyone to both but a lot of people- the 'oldies' and those with little kids to get home to- left after the baby shower, so we only had a small crowd for the beauty treatments...