elli- i love that idea!! then i could wear whatever i want to the bbq- not a wedding dress, and wouldn't have to worry about hair, make up, nails and all that hoo haa that does my head in!

Katie- great idea- one in each state so no one gets their nose out of joint

thanks Carley- i agree with you, i just hope everyone else understands iykwim?

Lulu- the thought of organising a wedding absolutely does my head in. i feel like i would just keep postponing it to avoid having to do anything. i honestly can't be bothered....

thanks Mel- i definitely think it's the right thing to do for us. i just don't want people to resent us...for eg. dp's mother- i really don't think she'd be too happy about it at all..