thank you so much smiles4u, i really appreciate your honesty xx and on offence (sp?) taken hun
OMG i can't tell you i am soooo relieved, so didn't want to upset or offend you in the slightest as that would have broken my own heart ... i know i took a huge chance in bringing it up but i want you to be TOTALLY happy on such a magical & extra special day

my only thought was a little humour with Patrick Swayze included (like a little honour to someone who you admired i guess, and if anyone that knows you well enough that you like Patrick like we do here in BB-land will prob think it's fitting ... or add a little humour that's about you & your DH together (so his not the butt of the joke IYKWIM). I reckon you will come up with something easy as if your speech is anything to go by you know how to find the right words

All the heartfelt best, so exciting not many days now ... Whoo hoo