Thanks so much for your replies ladies and keep them coming.
We have already been looking for dresses and she is going to make a decision at the end of this month to make sure it gets here in time.
My sister is so relax that she doesn't have any idea what she wants me to do really hence I am here. Some really good suggestions, I was planning bringing out the champers early so we might have a glass and put it away, it has been known to be 42 degrees here in feb
See LZ these are great things to be aware, just cause I am such a dunce, any idea on how to smooth a kink? might have to write that down and ask the hairdresser
My sister was MOH and I had 2 friends as Bridesmaids.
My sister and BM1 were fabulous. THey came wedding shopping with me at the drop of a hat, organised my hens night, helped with invitations and kept me calm. I appreciated everything they ddi for me during the lead up to the wedding.
Probably the best thing they did for me on the day, although I didn't appreciate it at the time, was not allow me to drink Not even 1!
emergency kit:
eye drops (red eyes from crying = not a good look in photos!)
tampons (jic!)
bobby pins/safety pins
tissues
lipstick/gloss
lollies (sugar!)
my maids were great - they had to take me to the toilet to hold my dress and were very gracious!
they made sure my dress was always looking fab, I always had fresh lipstick on and they made me eat/drink
I knew if I cried I'd ruin my makeup, so just didn't cry. If I knew Sis had make up remover, mascara and lipstick on her I'd have looked awful during the speeches. So that depends on the bride. As for my hair - I know how to fix it. You just need to put the offending bit back in place and whack a clip/grip over it if it's being stubborn. But someone should have just told me!
Awesome things - went out to a day spa and gave me hand and foot massages while there (she's on the dole and couldn't afford to pay for them!) Also, the reason I got her to do it (she's my sis) was because she has always been really good at calming me down in a panic, like when my friends locked me out of our room on the day. By accident, lol!
Things I wish she did : #1 turn up to the rehearsal!!! But that was a family issue, my mum was so hung up on seeing my dad again (they hadn't spoken for 18 months) that she screwed up a few things.
Some other friends organised a big girly sleepover the night before, including a bloody mary at breakfast the next day (which I love) I wish my sis had sorted that out.
MIL and SIL organised my hens do - sis lived too far away. It was an absolutely killer night - hilarious and had the best time. That was a lovely thing to do.
And of course dress shopping. I made my own dress, but still managed to go dress shopping 5 times!
I've just thought of one ruined wedding: the groom's mother and sister didn't turn up because they'd had a row with another family member. The sister was supposed to do the reading.
The groom took his wife's name - as his wife really liked her maiden name.
IF your future BiL has a volatile family, I would suggest that you secretly organise someone else to be able to do one of the readings last minute. Even memorise them yourself if you have to. Because that embarrassed the couple quite a bit when no-one was there to read. If someone else had stood up then it wouldn't have looked so bad and many people would have been unaware of the family problems.
My sis was 21 when I married and she did turn up to the rehersal... only to run around the Church and explore all the little nooks and crannies like "a lot of the younger bridesmaids like doing" (according to the very understanding vicar). So be careful what you wish for!
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