I'm taking a different spin on it than everyone else, and I wouldn't be bothered if I had to pay for my own meal, I'm there to celebrate someone's love for another person, and if I have to cough up money for my belly to be full instead of on some useless gift that will probably be thrown in a spare cupboard and never used, I know which I would prefer. I think it depends what kind of people are mostly coming to your wedding. Just make sure if you want them to pay that you tell them before the day!! haha!! Good luck with whatever you decide anyway. Have a great day, and good luck with TTC :-)