Hi, We're having our first in October and we just found out my husbands cousin has just planned on having the baptism of their second (she will be 9mths old) child a couple of weeks after our baby is due.

I am not happy about that - am I being unreasonable in thinking it is rude?? They've had nine months to do it and could have had it before ours is due. It limits our options for a baptism - which I was thinking of having 6 to 8 weeks after ours was born - but now that is impossible. Based on the baptism for their first- they have a huge event and a sit down lunch, so if we wanted anything casual - it would be overshadowed.

My husband is Italian and I did want a small baptism - with immediate (brothers, sisters, parents and godparents only) but he doesnt want that. We were thinking of January - but his mum has a significant birthday for which we're going to have a big lunch and another cousin's baby was due in Jan - so I thought it was rude to have a baptism then or in Feb. BUT since we learnt the 9mth old will be christened in November, we can't really do it then either....should I get my husband to tell his mother we're upset about it and try to get them to have their baptism before ours is due (I know that is passive -agressive in a way)??? Or should I ask my husband to check with his cousin what date they were planning their baptism (cause we don't know the exact Nov date) and say its because we wanted to check so we can plan when to have ours??? Its really upsetting to me.