Basically, we don't want to spend a small fortune on our committment ceremony (Sept. 19, the anniversary of the first time we physically met).

Simple outdoor/garden ceremony, very small, low-key and casual, and afterwards we didn't really want a huge recetpion thing so were thinking about having dinner at a nice restaurant, and whoever wanted to come could come. Kids welcome etc, like I said, really laid back, Shel and I would love to come together and celebrate our committment to one another, nothing OTT.

Would it be a bit budget to say no presents (we don't want presents) but maybe everyone could perhaps maybe buy their own dinner? Is that too much to ask? I know its customary/traditional etc but then we're not really customary/traditional It wouldn't be an overly expensive restaurant, just somewhere nice to go out afterwards.

We just feel for us it would be waaaaaaaaay too over the top to have a recpetion at a hall with music and booze etc as we're not that kind of people (would be hard pressed FILLING a hall PMSL).

We also would do the champas / wine for toasting at the dinner, but not beer/spirits as we don't drink so I don't see why we should pay for everyone else to get ****ed and be idiots.

LOL am I way out of line.

Oh, our family are also pretty low-key and casual, but I was just wondering if you got an invite to a committment ceremony like this, would you go? What would be your thoughts.