So we have decided that we are getting married before this baby comes so we are looking at 28/29/30 January. Now some may think this is a 'shotgun' wedding but its what we want so please keep those opinions to yourselves.

The bit I am stuck on is where. We were thinking of turning the baby shower into a surprise wedding but that venue has now fallen through Oh well these things happen.

Now we are thinking maybe a nice summer beach wedding and then a sit down lunch somewhere. Do you think it is skungy of us to ask people to pay for their own meals if we go with this option? Would you be offended?

Would you still bother with the bobonthingys lol?

Any useful advise will be greatly accepted.