I've known someone who asked for guests to pay for their own meals and I didn't have a problem with it. I guess the best thing is to look at who you're inviting and make sure the price matches, IYKWIM? A place that turns out to be $100 a head might look great but people might not be able to afford it.

We paid for everything at our wedding on a tight budget and didn't have bomboniere, I don't think it was a big deal but if people are paying for their own meals you could look into something small. Now a days there's plenty of suppliers online that are well priced. But if you don't want to, you don't have to, it's your wedding after all.

Beach wedding sounds beautiful but make sure your not standing in the sun too long if you're pregnant. Even the lightest of wedding dresses seem to get hot!