Ooooh thanks girls! Jasp, love the idea of a wishing well. I've heard of these, some people have honeymoon donations etc? DF and I would love this (we're taking a week off studies to honeymoon as that's all we can take). Is it rude to ask for donations instead? (so many questions, I know, thankyou for indulging me )
Your gift registry could be at a holiday booking place. Lot's of people do that these days.
I know a friend of a friend who had one for their Honeymoon to Africa!!
Congrats on the wedding....good day too....my birthday
DH and I got married at the registry office. It was a nice room, where we invited family and very close friends, I still blubbered like a baby, so the emotion was all still there. I was 36 weeks UTD so wore a nice maternity dress which didn't cost much. Got my hair done at the hairdresser...just washed and blowdried...nothing fancy. I bought a bunch of my favourite flowers too!
We had our 'engagement' party the day after we got married. So a huge party was organised with all our friends and family....most of which didn't know we'd got married the day before....our speech was where we told everyone.
We had it catered, but basically just beef and gravy rolls and salads.....we'd bought the alcohol over time when it was on special, and had 'baby cakes' as our wedding cake so all up I think we spent around $2k (and we got a bit back from the contributions from our wishing well)
We also had a wishing well....people like buying gifts or contributing in some way....so maybe just give people an option I say. It's not like you have to choose megga expensive things to go on your gift registry.....OR you can find smooshy poems on the internet about wedding wishing wells, or tell people that you have your hearts set on something (like a new dining suite) and would love a contribution to that particular thing as you've just moved into a new home.
Have your wedding the way you want it....enjoy it, and put a candle on your wedding cake and remember me!!!! Ha Ha!
I don't think it's rude to ask for donations. As some of the previous posts have mentioned a registry saves all the hassle of what to get. I agree with this, and I think a wishing well is much the same, even better in a way, because you give as much as you can afford, you know?
If you google there are sites that have suggestions for wording if you have a wishing well / gift registry that you can include with invites.......they are worded really nicely without sounding like you are just asking for money/gifts etc.
oh will you want/need wedding cars? Do you have a friend with a nice car you can use, we used my parents, just got some ribbon from spotlight and my bro was the chauffer
I think the wishing well thing is fairly standard these days... I went to 5 weddings in 2 years a couple of years ago and they all had wishing wells.
I don't know how much our wedding was off the top of my head, but we definitely had a 'party' rather than a reception.
- We did finger food at $15 a person rather than a proper sit down meal (my gf is getting married in Sept and is paying $90 a head )
- I did my own hair and make up. I can understand why people want the whole pamper package, but to be honest, in my mind I had better things to spend the money on
- I got family and friends to do the photos. My aunty loves photography so I asked her to do the 'professional' pictures... bought her a bottle of wine, a box of chocolates and I paid for the developing... all up it was about $150
- I bought my wedding dress off the rack from a little no name formal dress shop - $350 SOLD!!
- DH didn't wear a suit, just a nice pair of pants and a button up shirt he'd bought about 3 years but never worn
- I wore thongs to my wedding which were about $30 from Mathers or Williams I think
- I made my own invitations
- We didn't do the wedding party thing either... just had DH's daughters up there with us.
As the other girls have said hun, do it YOUR way... it's all about you and him.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I got married when I was 20, how insulting that someone should suggest you need a large wedding in your 30's for it to be "proper".
Anyway some of the cost cutting exercises I used:
found a fab designer gown then got a local dressmaker to copy it for a fraction of the cost.
My mum made the bridesmaid dress.
Asked a friend to make my cake, which she did for only the cost of the ingredients
Kept the guest list small (only 17) and they all stayed for the reception which was dinner and drinks. My dad paid for the meal (thanks daddy), we paid for a glass of sparkling wine for all the guests, and there was no free bar. Nobody seemed to mind paying for their own drinks though.
Did not have a band at my reception
Kept flowers to a minimum (my bouquet, my bridesmaid's and buttonholes for the men).
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