Ties at Weddings?

[briggsy's girl]

I think, in part, you dress for yourself, but you also need to dress for the hosts/occasion, etc, as you have been invited as a guest and to say that you won't wear something when it states that that is the dress code then if you can't make the effort then maybe you just shouldn't go.

To a degree, I'd agree with you - but I personally believe that anyone having a very strict dress code is being somewhat disrespectful to their guests. I understand that the bride (and perhaps the groom) have this image in their head of what they want, but there are some expectations that are just going too far. yup, jeans at a formal wedding, not on, but to expect suit and tie - i dunno - it just seems to be a very high expectation on your guests. they either want you there to celebrate, as the person you are, or they want drones all dressed the same, in which case they should hire people. for some people, wearing certain clothes is just not appropriate - either because it makes them exceptionally uncomfortable or because it's financially not possible. I would likely not go to a wedding where it was essentially demanded that DH had to wear a suit - partially, because i don't feel he should be uncomfortable, and partially because I wouldn't go and spend the money on a suit for a one off wear. And, given DH is a bigger guy, it's definitely not a cheap buy, esp out here - it would likely involve trips to Melbourne area plus the expense of the suit - and to be entirely honest, i wouldn't do that even for family, let alone friends. And that's not just related to us having minimal disposable income at the moment - even when DH was working away and earning 3 times what i am now, we wouldn't have done it - it's just not worth it. there is nothing in my wardrobe (apart from my own wedding gown) that has been purchased to wear as a one off for an "occassion" - when i'm looking at things, i'm always looking at whether it is something i'd wear again at a later time. i don't own a ****tail dress (for example - actually, ANY dresses) and i wouldn't go and buy one to attend a wedding because i know i'd never wear it again and i certainly wouldn't be comfortable, nor would i enjoy myself due to that discomfort. skirt and dress top i could do, but dress, nope. and if someone wanted me at their wedding, they'd have to take me as i am or not have me there at all

[Phteven]

Yes, DH would wear a tie to a wedding unless it was on a beach or similarly informal.

[MissM]

It's up to your husband. My husband hates ties and doesn't wear them. All our wedding invites are for church weddings anyways. He didn't even wear one to our wedding lol as long as your DH is wearing a suit jacket (if it's formal) I think he'd be ok.

[peanutter]

DH always wears a tie, but reserves the right to take it off after the ceremony if enough other men aren't wearing one.

He generally rolls his sleeves up as soon as the suitcoat is off, though, even if the tie is still on. le sigh.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I can still remember what most people wore to my wedding, which was over 7 years ago, and people didn't wear anything weird or out of place.

For weddings, even my son wears a suit and tie. That's what you wear for a wedding if you are a boy. OK so DS has about 6 ties to pick from now due to weddings, but that isn't the point - the point is that I get him something special for a wedding. And he wears his tie.

I just don't understand the "I don't like ties so I am going to look like I just don't care on someone else's wedding day" mentality. OK so ties aren't super comfortable - get a shirt with a slightly larger neck then and it will be comfortable. And suck it up - you think our shoes/underwear are comfortable? Get over yourself.

[Boo Boo]

I just don't understand the "I don't like ties so I am going to look like I just don't care on someone else's wedding day" mentality. OK so ties aren't super comfortable - get a shirt with a slightly larger neck then and it will be comfortable. And suck it up - you think our shoes/underwear are comfortable? Get over yourself.

Agree.

And as for the expense, DH wandered into a second hand shop the other day and picked up a nearly new suit for $65....

[Phteven]

Ties aren't super comfortable but really they're not super uncomfortable either. I wore one for many years and it never made me feel uncomfortable.

[Novella]

Thanks everyone

Made me think about what people wore to our wedding and really I couldn't remember half of what they wore no one wore anything that terrible that it has left me any specific memory. Can't believe people would wear jeans to a wedding though

Yesterdays wedding was lovely, the father of the bride didn't even wear a tie so was as informal as I had thought it would be. DH has a really thick neck, he actually likes to say he is a rugby pleayer and has no neck . I think we'll stick to the tie for formal/church weddings with DH having the right to rip it off as soon as the formalities are over.

Finding an appropriate dress to wear when 22 weeks pregnant when the temperature forecast changed from 30c to 21c was also a challenge.