I think it's fine to have 2 Godmothers & you could have 2 Godfathers aswell if you found the right ones. I don't think there are any "rights or wrongs" when it comes to choosing Godparents. For our DD it was a very easy choice for us, we chose 2 of our friends from church who are married & close friends of ours (also have the same beliefs as us which is a plus). We didnt choose any family even though my older sister chose me as a Godmother to one of her sons. (She had my twin sister & I plus her DH's little brother... so 2 Godmothers & 1 Godfather for that son).
I think you'll always have family feeling a little "ripped off" so to speak if they're not chosen over friends. I think the main thing is for the Godparents to be people you are 100% happy with & they are everything you want in a Godparent.
I could easily let my older sister be Godmother to my DS as a payback so to speak from her making me Godmother but we want to choose people who like us are practising Catholics, my sister isn't. She is Catholic but not practising & it's our right to choose.
Don't feel bad about not choosing family over friends if they dont match your criteria. They'll get over it! it's hard enough choosing people without having to worry about offending those who will miss out.
Good luck! (We'll need to start seriously considering Godparents again soon too!!!)
You can have just godmothers if that is what you want. Harrison has 2 godmothers and 2 godfathers. My sister & her husband, My brother & his wife. I told my other sister she can be godmother to the next bub, she has a long term boyfriend but I also would not be willing to have him as godfather, truthfully I would not want him to be role model to my child. Best of luck choosing.
I know it's a bit late, but I have 2 godmothers! And 1 godfather. One of my godmothers met my mum while travelling in Europe, and mum made some comment about her making a great godmother, and she held Mum to it when I was born, even flying over from NZ for my christening! I have hardly seen her since, but in the interests of tradition I have promised a NZer that I met in Europe that she can be godmother of my firstborn.
My other godmother, who is a Sydney-based raging wild party animal, had a lot more influence on my life. I talked to her about girls stuff a lot more than I did to my mum.
So I say go for it, then the bubba can have the choice!
I don't see a problem with two god mothers. Olivia has two godmothers and a godfather. If I was in your place I wouldn't ask your sis boyfriend either because of the exact reason you mentioned of them not being engaged or any long term commitment. It is so difficult, isn't it. Just trust your judgement and go with who you think is the best option for your daughter.
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