Are we doing it wrong or are our friends just being idiots!!! need some advice

[beckoes]

it had NEVER been mentioned that his daughter would be flower girl. i was never going to have any other flower girl other than DD but when i saw how good my friends DD was with my DD i thought i would be great if she could help my DD be flower girl, as she will only just be 2 and this other girl is 5.
I just replied and said 'at the end of the day we invited you to share our day, if you think its stupid or wierd thats a shame, but we want you there cause we love you and your family' what i wanted to say was 'well eff you then, stay at home with you misserable wife, see if i care'' but i held back!!
Its a shame that hes being so off about it. he actually said, 'i dont care is if its just family, at the end of the day you should have got a bigger church'
grrrrrrrrrr

[Schmickers]

I thought the message they sent you was really quite rude. I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are suggesting either. It's your day!

[Nelle]

Mmm. What does your partner think? I think you've been incredibly gracious in your reply.

[skeetaboat]

I'd tell that person to go jump! "at the end of the day you should have gotten a bigger church" pffft who the heck does this person think he is? God? Your own personal wedding planner? I wouldn't worry about him or what he's said, he's clearly not nice. Who tries to make someone feel bad about their wedding plans, seriously! Even if he felt a bit hurt over it, the day isn't about him so the proper thing to do is suck it up and be happy for you on your special day. If he was a friend, that is. But it sounds like he's not.