I'd tell that person to go jump! "at the end of the day you should have gotten a bigger church" pffft who the heck does this person think he is? God? Your own personal wedding planner? I wouldn't worry about him or what he's said, he's clearly not nice. Who tries to make someone feel bad about their wedding plans, seriously! Even if he felt a bit hurt over it, the day isn't about him so the proper thing to do is suck it up and be happy for you on your special day. If he was a friend, that is. But it sounds like he's not.