When asked not to bring a gift to a wedding, what do you do.

[Bern]

I like the idea of a donation

[JLeigh29]

Ditto for the donation idea if you feel you must do something. I don't think they'd have written it if they didn't mean it, and you don't want to offend them by going against their wishes. A donation in their name is a fantastic idea though.

[krysalyss]

I agree that a donation seems like a great compromise if you feel you really need to get them a gift.

[Traveller]

If they have asked no gift then I would respect that, but a donation in their name will likely go down well in lieu of a gift. I asked for no gifts for my 30th birthday and was honestly very sad that so many of my friends (well intentioned as they were) did not respect my wishes.

[MummaBee]

I personally would not buy them anything if thats what they want and just get a card because its something they can look back on. best of luck

[MamaPan]

I like the idea of a donation or something i did for a friend was take a polaroid camera and an album - took heaps of action shots and casual shots etc of the wedding and put it all together then and there. they took it away with them so they would be able to look on the plane to their honeymoon etc. they loved this and i remember just wanting to relive it all the next few weeks too when i got married.