Where do i start (organising MY wedding)

[DoubleK]

well done, you sound like you have everything under control!!

[Kazbah]

brilliant news Scorpio!

[MrsBump]

Thanks guys! Only now i had to drop a bridesmaid and she is cranky as i had to put our sisters in (we have one each) coz they cracked a s**t. I thought my friend would understand, she doesnt have much money as she is a single parent with 4 children, I thought i would be doing her a favour as she had already asked "when do i have to get my dress" etc. I was feeling a little negative as i thought she would ruin the day. So now she is cranky with me (which is understandable but i was nice and i asked if she wanted to do a speech/witness the signing of the papers etc and she didnt want to) so i did offer for her to do something else just as important. I just dont know what to do there. DF's sister cried when i said my sister was a bridesmaid and she wasnt, so i had to put her in too! Man i just want to have both the sisters and thats it! But DF wants 4 so i have to have 4. OMG i just want this over with already!
What would you do?

[Acacia]

Hi Jen,

It's really good to see that you've got the organisation thing happening really well. It's amazing when you ask how many people you will find who have the skills that you need and are happy to offer them to you. I'm really glad to hear that you've made connections and are going to getting services that will be great, but will suit your budget. Yay!

With regard to you bridesmaids, it's simply put that they are making your wedding about themselves. It happens. A lot. I think many brides (including myself!) would have some tale, large or small about other people kicking up a fuss about their own wedding. Family in particular tends to do this. They don't think twice about claiming what should be theirs, and because they are so familiar, and so close to you, they don't think twice about deciding what they need in this family wedding before they're creating dramatics, and it's not their wedding, and it's not about them and what they should and shouldn't get and have at your wedding.

You need to find a way of telling your sisters, bridesmaids etc. in your own way "This is not about you. This is my wedding." People don't stop to think. Ask them to think about the stress they're creating for you and the consequences of their behaviour. Even DF needs to be aware of compromise and how his requests impact on you, just as you would be aware how yours impact on him.

Don't be afraid to find a dignified and gentle way of saying what you need to say so people stop making everything about themselves. It doesn't have to be drama, especially when there's other people being dramatic around you, but it can be impactful.

It's a stressful situation, I know (often choosing a bridal party is) but try not to let it affect you too much. I know you're trying to consider everyone else here, but don't forget to let everyone else know to consider you also!

And focus on the things that are going to make you happy through the organising process - not every little thing will, but focus on the majority of things that will bring you joy

Good Luck, Jen.


Miss C

[Mellybubz]

I think the illawarra yaught club is quite reasonable priced and its right on the lake too... I know of a few people who have had weddings/21sts and things there.
It sounds like you're gettinng everything sorted pretty well.... They seem to have dresses fairly cheap on EBAY too if you're willing to risk it .
I miss the gong!!

[MrsBump]

Hey Melly,
Are you from here?? Wow your the first BBer i have seen from here LOL..
I dont really like the Yaughty, One of my friends grew up in the housing dep accross the road there and i was there all the time, i think that side of the lake smells.. (sorry i know i am bad considering i live at lake illawarra LOL)
I have been looking on ebay for dresses, found a few nice ones, If i bid i hope they fit me by the time i have had bubba!! I was a 12-14 in my clothes so i am hoping if i get a 14 it should fit me!! LOL i crack myself up!

[Mellybubz]

Theres actually a few companies on their from china where they specially make the dresses if you give them the measurements. I am wollongong born and bred but I've moved up to port stephens now :S. I went back for a friends wedding on the weekend and it was lovely to see the gong again (i miss the views). I'd never noticed that about the lake before . My friend had her reception at the villa doro and it was fantastic (i'm sure they're not cheap though). But we had like an 8 course meal, unlimited drinks, the service was fantastic and the atmosphere was beautiful too. My brother got married last year in april and he had his reception at the restaurant at mount keira look out and they weren't too bad either. I think it ended up being about $4500 for 70 people. their website is http://www.mountaintopweddings.com.au/. I found some cool bridal planning website last week it was like a bridal diary thing and it had all different things for looking up wedding resources in a certain area. the url for that is The Bride's Diary.